As a 54yo wife, married to a 60yo husband, I view sexual confidence to be a crucial part of my life. We take what God gives us in physical features, and then make ourselves the absolute best we can possibly be, with fitness, weight, hair, skin, jewelry, clothing, boots... Wait, did I say boots? Sorry, that was a slip... says the lady with a boot fetish. We can choose to enhance God's handiwork, or make things worse.
When I was much younger, in my 30s and 40s, I didn't care as much about how I dress. Now, even when stepping outside my home to run errands, I do my best to look nice. What works for me- I've developed a comfortable dress style that I think is sensual without being immodest. I love dresses or skirts and leggings, paired with tops that have flattering necklines. Otherwise, I wear good-fitting skinny jeans or capris with a nice top. The right shoes, jewelry, hair style and skin care are all equally as important when I go out. It shouldn't take a lot of time to look nice before you head out the door to run errands. I wear very little, usually no makeup, which saves me time. A sun screen moisturizer does it for me. After a quick shower, I can throw myself together in 15 minutes or less, and be ready to fly.
As a people watcher, I do take notice of men and women when I'm out and about. When I see a woman dressed sloppy/dumpy, I feel sorry for her because I think, Damn, she's not an ugly duckling. Why doesn't she take a little time to spruce up a bit before heading out of her home? That's a large part of being confident. If I'm dressed sloppy, how can I feel sexually confident? I can't and I usually see that lack of confidence in women who dress sloppy.
Just this morning after having sex, we were in each others' arms and husband gave me this dreamy look and said, "You're beautiful." When he says that, I usually reply with a simple, "Thank you,” because my sexual confidence causes me to believe him. I would never tell him, "No, I'm not," because I would be calling him a liar.
Sexual confidence is something that we must draw from within. Anyone can develop confidence if they choose to do so. Pride and confidence are two different things so don't confuse the two. Pride can result in a downfall but confidence is to be attained. Confidence is what makes each woman beautifully unique and, yes, attractive. Confidence says, "I know God made me beautiful and I refuse to hide it."
I could go on but I'll stop here. Wives, what do you do to build up and maintain sexual confidence? Husbands, how do you contribute to your wife's confidence? Comments?