My suspicions are, that those of you who read my last article... you will either really like what I said or you will really hate it.
The wives who hate what I said, have probably been in abusive relationships either while growing up, or with a boyfriend, or with an ex-spouse, or they have been raped by a stranger. The abuse has destroyed their ability to trust the person who vowed to love and cherish them, their husband. This trust must be rebuilt, and it can be rebuilt if the wounded wife is willing to proactively work at it with a professional.
Trustworthiness and generosity have no gender boundaries, so the situations I am describing, can easily apply to husbands or wives.
If a wife is married to an untrustworthy, abusive husband, she has a choice to make. Either give him an ultimatum to get help, or kick him to the curb. I would say the same to a husband whose wife is not sexually generous in bed. If the wife will not change on her own, she owes it to the marriage to seek professional help to overcome her issues.
How many times have I heard, "But when I was growing up ..." or "But in my past ..." I'm sorry but we all have a past. It doesn't give us a free "get out of jail" card. We don't have to allow our past to continue ruining our present and our future. As married adults, it is time to grow up and use our past to make us a better person today, rather than continue giving our past permission to keep us wounded. By refusing necessary, professional help, a person is essentially saying to their spouse, "Only my needs count. For you, Dearie? Too bad, so sad. You're stuck with me now." That's how I was with my husband for 25 years. Does this describe you or does it describe your spouse? What are you going to do about it?