Here is a clip showing sex therapist, Dr. Laura Berman, interviewing a couple whose 14 year marriage was in crisis mode.
I talk to dozens and dozens of individuals whose marriage bed has been in crisis for years, often for decades. One comment I hear repeatedly whenever I suggest seeing a therapist, "My spouse would NEVER talk to someone about this." Why is it that the very thing which could bring their marriage bed to a healthier place, is the thing they most avoid? I often compare it to a person with a cancer diagnosis who tells their spouse, “Yes, I have cancer but I am just not comfortable discussing it with a doctor so I will not go in for treatment.” Kind of dumb, huh?
A large part of the hesitation, I think, is a simple fear of the unknown… that and unfounded embarrassment. (ie, Sex therapists have heard it all. You cannot freak them out.) For those of us who are Christians- We can learn to trust God and have faith that He will help us push past the fear so that we can work on resolving the marriage bed issues. We read scriptures all the time pertaining to faith and trust in God. Here is an opportunity to put into practice what we read and put into practice what we say we believe.
Please watch this 6 minute clip. For a spouse/couple who desperately need a sex therapist, this could offer some insight into what takes place in a session so that some of the scariness can be eliminated.