Friday, August 20, 2010

Restraints, cuffs and ropes... oh my!

One of my readers was asking me about the Easy Access Restraint and it got me thinking about the possibilities for usage. Fwiw- Unlike metal handcuffs these cuffs are very comfortable so different positions should not cause pain or discomfort.

A husband can use the restraint with his wife standing and bent over at the waist, her feet cuffed on the ends and her wrists cuffed in the middle. Obviously he would have to hold on to her so she does not fall forward or he can have her standing by the bed so if she does move forward while he is holding onto her, her head would hit the side of the mattress rather than the floor.

Cuffed in that same position a husband can place his wife on her back on the bed and roll her back and forth while playing with her.

A husband can also have his wife lie face down on the bed and hog-tie her from behind. For this position to work a wife needs to be flexible.

A husband can have his wife kneel while he cuffs her ankles and wrists behind her, putting her in a bent-forward kneeling position.

You can cuff a wife to an object like a bed rail, a table leg, a post in the barn for you farmers, steering wheel of a car, smallish size tree for you outdoorsmen, etc. Simply place the object in front of the restraint so that the object is ‘trapped’ between the wife and the restraint.

So far, those are the few ideas I have come up with for different ways to use the Easy Access Restraint. I am sure we will come up with more. Did I convince anyone to put the restraint on their ‘wish list’ ? Does anyone have other ideas for how to use a restraint such as this? Oh, did I mention how portable this gadget is? Very easy to take along for over-night outings!

Worth mentioning here, are a couple of other restraint systems which GR and I enjoy using. We have two 16ft black silk bondage ropes which offer many creative possibilities for usage. Just remember that unlike many other ropes, silk rope does not irritate the skin so please do not think you can run to Lowe’s and purchase any old rope to tie up your wife. (I know how you guys think ;-)

And last but not least, Liberator’s Bed Buckler is well worth the money we paid for it, although it is not as portable as Easy Access Restraint or silk bondage rope. We keep the Bed Buckler well hidden between the mattress and box-spring. When we want to use it GR only has to pull the 4 restraints out from the 4 ends of the bed, fasten the 4 cuffs to the ends, fasten me in the cuffs and then the fun begins. With Bed Buckler you are limited to using it in the bed but that has not hindered our play at all as it allows for so very many ways to use it.

I hope that at least some of you can learn to explore the possibilities of endless fun with restraint systems in your marriage bed. This cute little fellow, Roger Rope, might help your spouse become more receptive to using restraint systems.

Saturday, August 14, 2010


Is it just my imagination or did John Wayne and Maureen O'Hara seem to really get into all those spanking scenes in the films they did together?

Details, details!

Since a number of you asked for detailed descriptions of my new black leather toys- my "Leather Buckle Bustier" and my "Female Butt Plug and Dildo Harness", I thought I would share that here. Perhaps I can entice some of you to purchase a few fun, leather items to wear or for your spouse to wear ;-).

Description of harness from
“The soft and durable genuine leather waist belt secures snugly with roller buckles. The crotch belt hugs the crotch as it fastens around the back. The belt is adjustable and fits waists 25-39 inches. The pouch accommodates both an anal plug and a vaginal dildo. The plug slot sizes are 1 and 1.5 inches in diameter and are easy to use. The soft, high quality leather construction makes this harness comfortable for long term wear.”

My description:
The harness is designed for self-penetration only. Neither my husband or I are interested in me penetrating him... my reason for choosing this style over others. It has two plug slots at the bottom which allow the wearer to use a butt plug OR a dildo separately OR to use both simultaneously, which was a difficult feature to find in a nice looking harness. Last night I broke it in with a dildo while wearing it for dinner and a movie. We arrived at the theater very early so we were alone for a while. We sat in the back row where I was able to show it to my husband before others arrived. This style of harness is quite stimulating to wear and who can resist soft leather against their skin? … not to mention how “visually hot” black leather is to view. Walking in it is a breeze but you just want to be careful that the toys you wear internally in a harness are not too large if you will be doing a lot of transitioning from standing to sitting.

Description of bustier from
“This ravishing leather bustier cinches the body and reveals lots of skin thanks to front, shoulder and side buckle openings.”

My description:
The bustier is ultra-adjustable with tiny buckles all over it- 5 down the front center, 4 on each side and 3 on each shoulder. Yes, there are 19 buckles in all, hence the name “Leather Buckle Bustier”. I believe it comes in small, medium, large and extra-large. I am about 5’2” and weigh 150 pounds and I got the extra-large but I probably could have fit in the large as well. The top front is low cut and in the front center from top to bottom, there is a vertical opening which is kept fastened by 5 tiny buckles running horizontally so the entire front center is very revealing. The inner halves of the breasts minus nipples are revealed through that center opening. I would not wear the bustier in public without at least having something thrown over it, an unbuttoned shirt or jacket so you could reveal the bustier, or not, at will. I did not wear it out on our date last night. The shoulder piece close to the neckline sits up high so it is hard to hide under clothing. Both our kids were here when we left so I just brought it along to show husband while we were out. When going on dates in the fall and winter it will be easier for me to slip out of the house secretly wearing the bustier. I do not get cold easily so that will not be a problem.

There are many online businesses where you can purchase leather-wear. Extremerestraints and Ladycleather are just two of many which I find to be reliable. I have not yet shown GR the new “Easy Access Neoprene Restraint System” also from Extremerestraints so he has another surprise coming to him. He enjoys ‘locking’ me in our Liberator Bed Buckler so I know he will enjoy this as well. The Easy Access Restraint is more portable so you can easily use it anywhere in the house or elsewhere. I could get used to buying him bedroom surprises. Perhaps I will start purchasing a new erotic outfit and/or an item for bondage play every 3-6 months.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

I have a secret!!!

Yesterday I received my latest toy order. Oh, I am so excited! GR knows I placed an order and he knows the amount I spent but he does not know what I purchased. I only told him that I bought bedroom stuff. 'Nuff said, right?

I wanted a leather outfit to wear underneath my clothes on date nights and to wear at other times too. So I purchased the "Leather Buckle Bustier", the leather "Female Butt Plug and Dildo Harness" and then for lagniappe, I also got the "Easy Access Neoprene Restraint System" for a new bedroom toy. I was going to post website photos but Extreme Restraints and LadyCLeather show them on live models so if seeing stuff shown on live models bothers you, use your imagination.

GR loves to see me in black leather so when we go out on our next date I will be wearing the bustier and harness under my clothes and will wait until we are away from the house before showing it to him. I cannot wait but... shhhh, it is a secret.

Monday, August 9, 2010

How has your summer been?

How has your summer been so far? I have not been here as much as usual because our summer has been busy. We were getting dd#1 ready for her first trip to Europe. There was a lot of preparation to get her ready to go. Then recently GR's job responsibilities changed. With those changes came a change in his work schedule and... we are thankful... also an increase in income. Sooooo, I have been adjusting to his new schedule.

Then most recently we embarked on a project to rescue our laundry facilities from the dungeon… I mean the basement… so we could have easier access to it from the second floor bedrooms. To do this we have been emptying out an extra room on the first floor and setting it up with washer/dryer hookups. What a job this has been!

We are finally on the tail end of the project but it has been so much to empty out 4 large bookcases and a 4-drawer file cabinet plus everything else we had in there and then tossing it in the trash or finding new homes for the stuff we needed to keep. On top of that we have had to de-clutter 7 other book cases in other parts of the house to make room for the adjustments. (ie, We home-schooled our kids in grades K-12.) I cannot tell you how many large trash bags of stuff we either tossed or gave away to Salvation Army to make room for the stuff we needed to keep.

In spite of it all, I am grateful that GR and I have been able to remain sexually connected so we do not go crazy in the midst of our busy summer. For all my readers, how has your marriage bed been this summer? Do tell!