Friday, April 30, 2010

Acceptable behavior or not???

Do you know what is REALLY sad to me? On marriage forums I read all the time where countless, refused husbands tell about their wives practicing this behavior. The husbands say that their wives refuse sex all or most of the time except for…………………… when they want to get pregnant. What. is. up. with. that??? How can a wife be cold as ice from day to day but when she wants a baby she is *horny as all get out* during that time of the month??? The *horny behavior* is only kept up until she is pregnant at which time the frigidity starts all over again, often continuing for 2-3 years until she is ready to be hooked up again to the baby-making machine (ie, her husband). Then once more she *loves sex* until she is pregnant again.

I can poke holes in this selfish behavior because, unfortunately, that was me in the first months of our marriage. And to think, we all assumed we were good, Christian wives while we used our husband's body as a baby-making machine. For having done that, I am still so ashamed that I stooped that low. As Christian wives, how can we justify doing that to our husband? How can we think, “Sex is a bother to me so I will refuse it but when I am ready to get pregnant, my husband better darn sure make himself available so I can get what I want.” As husbands how can you allow your wife to continue having children knowing that it is the only reason she *loves sex*, the only reason she is “putting out”? Do husbands think, “Oh wow, she is agreeing to sex. I can’t pass this up!” Is it the desperation to have sex, even if only at that one time of the month and only until pregnancy is achieved?

Can someone explain this practice in *Christian wives*? From where did we ever get the idea that this is an acceptable Christian way to treat our husband? What can we do to stop this selfish behavior in young wives? I feel it needs to stop, do you?

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Where did the sparks go? Can you find them again?

Did you have passion for your spouse when you were dating? How about when you were newlyweds? Was the passion still there? Is it there now or has it been so long since you have seen passion in your marriage that you forgot what it felt like?

Consider the sparks that fly between two young people who are in love. Are we supposed to lose those sparks just because we grow older or because we get in a bad habit of taking each other for granted? Do you think it is possible to have those sparks flying today like they did years ago before you were married?

I was browsing through some books and stumbled on a few quotes that I would like to share. From the book "Intimate Issues":

"Recapturing passion has first to do with your attitude about being a lover to your husband (my insert: "or to your wife"). Passion begins with priorities, not genitals."

"We agree that it's difficult to keep the passion burning, but not impossible. We must make passion a priority and then set an atmosphere where passion can reign."

"What helps you prepare your mind and body for passion? Try putting these four things in your lovemaking repertoire: fun and playfulness, tender touch, a passion exercise, and a vacation mentality."

"A blazing fire is not started by piling huge logs on top of one another and striking a match. The way to build a lasting fire is to start small; dry paper, bits of kindling, then small branches, and finally logs. The fire must be constantly tended to give warmth and remain bright. In the same way, the fire of your passion is built of small pieces of "kindling." Boughs of love piled on top of one another, thought upon thought, action upon action until the flame of passion blazes bright. Dear friend, it is worth the effort!"

The author suggests asking your spouse: "What can I do to become your dream lover?"

"List five ways you can make passion a priority in your marriage?"

"Your sensuousness begins in your mind before your husband (my insert: "or your wife") enters the room. Thinking sexually is a frame of mind, a focus. List three things you can do that will help you prepare your mind and heart for passion."

Sorry guys, Intimate Issues was written for women but do feel free to change the wording around so that the advice is directed towards husbands.

In Dr. Laura Schlessinger's book "The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage" she says:

"The Proper Care & Feeding of a Marriage is to GIVE, GIVE, and GIVE some more--- of your best self."

Dr. Laura shares these ten tips in her book:

1. There is no "I" in TEAM!
2. Remember back to what made you "fall in love" and make that memory live today.
3. Forgive each other. Agree to let the past die and start over.
4. Dump your prideful ways.
5. Ignore the sometimes not so small stuff.
6. Try to remember that two heads can be much better than one if you show some respect for the other's head.
7. Treat your spouse with as much courtesy, kindness, and sensitivity that you give to strangers and others you know.
8. It is a far greater blessing to give than receive.
9. Forget rewriting history. (ie, years of resentment)
10. Treat him like a king and he will treat you like a queen. (ie, assuming you married a reasonable, decent person)

Should "moods" even be a consideration in our marriage beds? Prager doesn't think so!

Here is one of the best articles on marital sex that I have read on the internet. Initially I began to post only the links here but then.... when I followed the old link for the article, I discovered that it had been moved to a different webpage. No doubt it will be moved again so I decided to post the entire article.

Please share your thoughts on what Prager says here. If you are a refusing wife, would you take Prager's words to heart and at least pray about them? If you are a refused husband, would you consider sharing this article with your wife and lovingly discuss it with her, perhaps in the presence of your pastor or therapist? (ie, impartial third party to help keep peace during the discussion)

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When a Woman Isn’t in the Mood: Part I, by Dennis Prager

Given our preoccupation with politics and economics, it is easy to forget that for most of us micro issues still play a greater role in our lives. So here are some thoughts that, as heretical as they might sound, have been found extremely helpful, sometimes even marriage-saving, from listeners to my radio show, which features a “male-female hour” every week.
The subject is one of the most common problems that besets marriages: the wife who is “not in the mood” and the consequently frustrated and hurt husband.
There are marriages with the opposite problem — a wife who is frustrated and hurt because her husband is rarely in the mood. But, as important and as destructive as that problem is, it has different causes and different solutions, and is therefore not addressed here. What is addressed is the far more common problem of “He wants, she doesn't want.”
It is an axiom of contemporary marital life that if a wife is not in the mood, she need not have sex with her husband. Here are some arguments why a woman who loves her husband might want to rethink this axiom.
First, women need to recognize how a man understands a wife's refusal to have sex with him: A husband knows that his wife loves him first and foremost by her willingness to give her body to him. This is rarely the case for women. Few women know their husband loves them because he gives her his body (the idea sounds almost funny). This is, therefore, usually a revelation to a woman. Many women think men's natures are similar to theirs, and this is so different from a woman's nature, that few women know this about men unless told about it.
This is a major reason many husbands clam up. A man whose wife frequently denies him sex will first be hurt, then sad, then angry, then quiet. And most men will never tell their wives why they have become quiet and distant. They are afraid to tell their wives. They are often made to feel ashamed of their male sexual nature, and they are humiliated (indeed emasculated) by feeling that they are reduced to having to beg for sex.
When first told this about men, women generally react in one or more of five ways:
1. You have to be kidding. That certainly isn't my way of knowing if he loves me. There have to be deeper ways than sex for me to show my husband that I love him.
2. If this is true, men really are animals.
3. Not my man. He knows I love him by the kind and loving way I treat him.
4. You have it backwards. If he truly loved me, he wouldn't expect sex when I'm not in the mood.
5. I know this and that's why I rarely say no to sex.
Let's deal with each of these responses.
1. You have to be kidding. …
The most common female reaction to hearing about men's sexual nature is incredulity, often followed by denial. These are entirely understandable reactions given how profoundly different — and how seemingly more primitive — men's sexual nature is compared to women's.
Incredulity is certainly the reaction most women have when first being told that a man knows he is loved when his wife gives him her body. The idea that the man she is married to, let alone a man whose intelligence she respects, will to any serious extent measure her love of him by such a carnal yardstick strikes many women as absurd and even objectionable.
But the question that should matter to a woman who loves her man is not whether this proposition speaks poorly or well of male nature. It is whether it is true. And it is true beyond anything she can imagine. A woman who often deprives her husband of her body is guaranteed to injure him and to injure the marriage — no matter what her female friends say, no matter what a sympathetic therapist says, and no matter what her man says.
(Very few men will confess to the amount of hurt and eventual anger they experience when repeatedly denied sex).
Of course, there are times when a man must simply refrain from initiating sex out of concern for his wife's physical or emotional condition. And then there are men for whom sex rarely has anything to do with making love or whose frequency of demands are excessive. (What “excessive” means ought to be determined by the couple before the refusals begin, or continue.) But the fact remains: Your man knows you love him by your willingness to give him your body.
2. If this is true, men really are animals.
Correct. Compared to most women's sexual nature, men's sexual nature is far closer to that of animals. So what? That is the way he is made. Blame God and nature. Telling your husband to control it is a fine idea. But he already does. Every man who is sexually faithful to his wife already engages in daily heroic self-control. He has married knowing he will have to deny his sexual nature's desire for variety for the rest of his life. To ask that he also regularly deny himself sex with the one woman in the world with whom he is permitted sex is asking far too much. Deny him enough times and he may try to fill this need with another woman. If he is too moral to ever do that, he will match your sexual withdrawal with emotional and other forms of withdrawal.
3. Not my man.
Many women will argue, understandably, “My husband knows I love him. He doesn't need me to have sex with him to know that. And this is especially so when I'm too tired or just don't want sex. Anyway, my man only enjoys sex with me when I'm into it, too.”
The importance of mutual kindness to a marriage is impossible to overstate. But while necessary, it is not sufficient. Women can understand this by applying the same rule to men. Most women will readily acknowledge that it is certainly not enough for a man to be kind to her. If it were, women would rarely reject kind men as husband material. But as much as a woman wants a kind man, she wants more than that. If a man is, let us say, lacking in ambition or just doesn't want to work hard, few women will love him no matter how kind he is. In fact, most women would happily give up some kindness for hard work and ambition. A kind man with little ambition is not masculine, therefore not desirable to most women.
Likewise, a kind woman who is not sexual with her husband is not feminine. She is a kind roommate.
Furthermore, a woman who denies the man she loves sex is not kind.
4. You have it backward.
Every rational and decent man knows there are times when he should not initiate sex. In a marriage of good communication, a man would either know when those times are or his wife would tell him (and she needs to — women should not expect men to read their minds. He is her man, not her mother.)
But, to repeat the key point, rejection of sex should happen infrequently. And it should almost never be dependent on mood — see Part II next week.
5. I know this and that's why I rarely say no to my husband.
This is a wise woman. She knows a sexually fulfilled husband is a happy husband. (At the same time, men need to recognize that complete sexual fulfillment is unattainable in this world.) And because a happy husband loves his wife more, this cycle of love produces a happy home.
In Part II, I will explain in detail why mood should play little or no role in a woman's determining whether she has sex with her husband.
I conclude Part I with this clarification: Everything written here applies under two conditions: 1. The woman is married to a good man. 2. She wants him to be a happy husband. If either condition is not present, nothing written here matters. But if you are a woman who loves your husband, what is written here can be the most important thing you will read concerning your marriage. Because chances are the man you love won't tell you.



When a Woman Isn’t in the Mood: Part II, by Prager

In Part I, I made the argument that any woman who is married to a good man and who wants a happy marriage ought to consent to at least some form of sexual relations as much as possible. (Men need to understand that intercourse should not necessarily be the goal of every sexual encounter.)
In Part II, I advance the argument that a wife should do so even when she is not in the mood for sexual relations. I am talking about mood, not about times of emotional distress or illness.
Why?
Here are eight reasons for a woman not to allow not being in the mood for sex to determine whether she denies her husband sex.
1. If most women wait until they are in the mood before making love with their husband, many women will be waiting a month or more until they next have sex. When most women are young, and for some older women, spontaneously getting in the mood to have sex with the man they love can easily occur. But for most women, for myriad reasons -- female nature, childhood trauma, not feeling sexy, being preoccupied with some problem, fatigue after a day with the children and/or other work, just not being interested -- there is little comparable to a man’s “out of nowhere,” and seemingly constant, desire for sex.
2. Why would a loving, wise woman allow mood to determine whether or not she will give her husband one of the most important expressions of love she can show him? What else in life, of such significance, do we allow to be governed by mood?
What if your husband woke up one day and announced that he was not in the mood to go to work? If this happened a few times a year, any wife would have sympathy for her hardworking husband. But what if this happened as often as many wives announce that they are not in the mood to have sex? Most women would gradually stop respecting and therefore eventually stop loving such a man.
What woman would love a man who was so governed by feelings and moods that he allowed them to determine whether he would do something as important as go to work? Why do we assume that it is terribly irresponsible for a man to refuse to go to work because he is not in the mood, but a woman can -- indeed, ought to -- refuse sex because she is not in the mood? Why?
This brings us to the next reasons.
3. The baby boom generation elevated feelings to a status higher than codes of behavior. In determining how one ought to act, feelings, not some code higher than one’s feelings, became decisive: “No shoulds, no oughts.” In the case of sex, therefore, the only right time for a wife to have sex with her husband is when she feels like having it. She never “should” have it. But marriage and life are filled with “shoulds.”
4. Thus, in the past generation we have witnessed the demise of the concept of obligation in personal relations. We have been nurtured in a culture of rights, not a culture of obligations. To many women, especially among the best educated, the notion that a woman owes her husband sex seems absurd, if not actually immoral. They have been taught that such a sense of obligation renders her “property.” Of course, the very fact that she can always say “no” -- and that this “no” must be honored -- renders the “property” argument absurd. A woman is not “property” when she feels she owes her husband conjugal relations. She is simply wise enough to recognize that marriages based on mutual obligations -- as opposed to rights alone and certainly as opposed to moods -- are likely to be the best marriages.
5. Partially in response to the historical denigration of women’s worth, since the 1960s, there has been an idealization of women and their feelings. So, if a husband is in the mood for sex and the wife is not, her feelings are deemed of greater significance -- because women’s feelings are of more importance than men’s. One proof is that even if the roles are reversed -- she is in the mood for sex and he is not -- our sympathies again go to the woman and her feelings.
6. Yet another outgrowth of ’60s thinking is the notion that it is “hypocritical” or wrong in some other way to act contrary to one’s feelings. One should always act, post-’60s theory teaches, consistent with one’s feelings. Therefore, many women believe that it would simply be wrong to have sex with their husband when they are not in the mood to. Of course, most women never regard it as hypocritical and rightly regard it as admirable when they meet their child’s or parent’s or friend’s needs when they are not in the mood to do so. They do what is right in those cases, rather than what their mood dictates. Why not apply this attitude to sex with one’s husband? Given how important it is to most husbands, isn’t the payoff -- a happier, more communicative, and loving husband and a happier home -- worth it?
7. Many contemporary women have an almost exclusively romantic notion of sex: It should always be mutually desired and equally satisfying or one should not engage in it. Therefore, if a couple engages in sexual relations when he wants it and she does not, the act is “dehumanizing” and “mechanical.” Now, ideally, every time a husband and wife have sex, they would equally desire it and equally enjoy it. But, given the different sexual natures of men and women, this cannot always be the case. If it is romance a woman seeks -- and she has every reason to seek it -- it would help her to realize how much more romantic her husband and her marriage are likely to be if he is not regularly denied sex, even of the non-romantic variety.
8. In the rest of life, not just in marital sex, it is almost always a poor idea to allow feelings or mood to determine one’s behavior. Far wiser is to use behavior to shape one’s feelings. Act happy no matter what your mood and you will feel happier. Act loving and you will feel more loving. Act religious, no matter how deep your religious doubts, and you will feel more religious. Act generous even if you have a selfish nature, and you will end with a more a generous nature. With regard to virtually anything in life that is good for us, if we wait until we are in the mood to do it, we will wait too long.
The best solution to the problem of a wife not being in the mood is so simple that many women, after thinking about it, react with profound regret that they had not thought of it earlier in their marriage. As one bright and attractive woman in her 50s ruefully said to me, “Had I known this while I was married, he would never have divorced me.”
That solution is for a wife who loves her husband -- if she doesn’t love him, mood is not the problem -- to be guided by her mind, not her mood, in deciding whether to deny her husband sex.
If her husband is a decent man -- if he is not, nothing written here applies -- a woman will be rewarded many times over outside the bedroom (and if her man is smart, inside the bedroom as well) with a happy, open, grateful, loving, and faithful husband. That is a prospect that should get any rational woman into the mood more often.

Monday, April 26, 2010

Feeling Nostalgic?

This is a repeat posting of an older article I wrote here in September 2008. It is so easy when you are going through a tough financial time to feel like you are all alone. With today’s economy hurting so many families I thought it would be good to remind ourselves that even when money is tight we can still keep our marriage intact. Please feel free to share ideas for what you and your spouse do when there is no money to spend OR… share what your parents did or any other couple you know.


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Bear with me-- I am feeling nostalgic today. My mom's been gone for over 6 years now. I remember her sharing so many stories of the old days, late 1940's-early 1950's, when Mom and Dad were fairly new parents and poor as church mice. Going on dates at that time was financially challenging for them but in spite of the challenge, they still figured out how to romance each other. Thought I would share a couple of her stories in an effort to entice some of you to do likewise and share some of your own, older memories of your parents or of a long ago time in your own life.

Back in the late 40's my mom quit high school to get married. She and Dad were both young and began having kids a couple of years into the marriage. Before long, they found themselves with several kids but still.... no money. I remember Mom telling me that when they needed a break, my grandmother or one of my aunts would babysit while my parents would go out on a cheap date. On one such date they would go out and buy 2 cokes and just walk through town sipping on coke. This was at a time when you could buy a coke for 5 or 10 cents so it was a 10 or 20 cent date.

My childhood church had a mens group which sponsored a weekly dance that was free for the group members and their spouses. My parents always loved to dance and since my dad was a member, once a week they were able to go dancing for free. They became very good at finding creative, inexpensive ways to go on dates during those years when money was tight.

A side note---

Although I have never discussed details with them, I assume that my parents must have enjoyed a healthy, active sex life. They always took time for dates and they ended up having a very large family so they were regularly enjoying sex. As the oldest kids were getting married Mom was still having babies. Up until the time she passed on, Mom and Dad could often be seen kissing or hugging. They'd even watch tv with arms wrapped around each other. Our background is a mix of French and Italian which I'm sure contributed to the affections they shared but I have to believe that some of it was plain old "being in love".

Do you have any old romantic or sexual stories to share? Has your upbringing, in any way, positively affected the sex and/or romance in your marriage? Do tell!

Saturday, April 17, 2010

How does warmer weather enhance intimacy with your spouse?

Do you love Spring/Summer weather? Personally, I am more of a Fall/Winter person because the cooler weather energizes me. So now I am adjusting to the warm seasons.... trying to find good reasons to be thankful for warmer weather.

Let me see (Gemma putting on her thinking cap)---

I can dress lighter (ie, sexier) when we go out.

While in bed we do not have to stay under the covers to be comfortable. I am a little slow and just figured this one out early this morning when we woke to having sex.

We can enjoy more intimate times outdoors on bike rides, picnics, outdoor concerts, walking, hiking, golfing, etc.

Intimate outdoor grilled meals, dining on the screened porch, eating outdoors at lake shore restaurants... all of these things can be enjoyed in warmer weather.

What do you and your spouse intimately enjoy this time of year that you cannot do during the colder seasons?

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Have you ever ridden a quadcycle?

This weekend GR and I finally had opportunity to get away for a night. It was our first real break since prior to our surgery era. He had a quick job to do in Chicago early Saturday morning so I went along and we made an over-nighter out of it. We really needed that little bit of time alone- over six hours on the road, a private hotel night and then all day Saturday to play.

Yesterday, in the late morning and early afternoon we hung out at Navy Pier as the weather was gorgeous for outdoor fun. Because I am still recuperating I cannot ride a bike until the middle of May (ie, no pedaling, no golf, no weight lifting, etc.) but we wanted to take a bike ride along Lake Michigan so we rented one of these cuties . You have to scroll down to see this cool bike, the "small quadcycle" made.... where else? In Italy, of course!

The small quadcycle seats two and is designed for two to pedal. We worked around my recuping by having GR do all the pedaling while I just sat there like "the queen" enjoying the ride. (I almost started waving to everyone... but I didn't.) What I find cool about this bike is that the two people riding it sit side by side so it is very conversation-friendly while pedaling. So for an hour, GR pedaled, we talked and we enjoyed enjoyed the lake shore. I heart the quadcycle.

Before you all tell me how lazy I am, I want to go on record to say that yesterday I walked 7980 steps, which roughly translates to just a hair under four miles, so there! Here is to more gorgeous spring and summer days ahead!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

How do those women enjoy PIV-IC even when they do not O???

It is OK for me to want to have sex and not care about Oing. For men I know this would never do. You guys and some women, too, have sex and the O has to happen. I get that. And most of the time I do enjoy Oing. It is just that I am going through a short season of recuperation from surgery. Although my energy level is improving daily, it is not yet up to par so I am having to recup at a gradual rate.

This is not a big concern for GR. He is happy that I am still Oing SOME of the time and that I am still crazy horny for him ALL of the time. I am back to my occasional waking during the night for sex. Last night I woke around 3am just craving PIV-IC so I did what I do best in waking him. We both enjoyed a romp, he O'd and we both fell back into a deep sleep. Sometimes a gal just needs to be f^cked and then everything is OK.

You cannott get surgery recuperation much better than that! Thank God I can have sex although my doctor is still saying "no" right now to me lifting hand weights or playing golf :-(. There is a time for everything.

Sunday, April 4, 2010

What do you nurture and treasure in life?

Dear Readers,

Some of you have been wondering why I have not posted many articles in recent days and weeks. It has not been out of laziness or lack of interest, I assure you. It is just that with our three surgeries practically back to back, life has been overwhelmingly busy. Our surgery stuff is going well. What I am still battling with is this throat thing.... and I still really do not know what it is. Family doc thought I needed to see a throat specialist so I did. Throat specialist did not see any obvious problems but suspected gastric reflux. Then my surgeon from last year's surgery looked at everything and felt that we needed to pursue testing for a possible ulcer. So..... now I am scheduled to have an endoscopy on May 6.

Oddly enough, with all this going on our marriage bed has been kept intact :-). My incision is very large and still tender to the touch, wrapping around my hips for 18+ inches but in spite of that, we have managed quite well to keep our sex life active. GR and I are both grateful for that. Honestly, I do not know how others do after surgery but GR and I value our sex life far too much to let it go to the wayside, after all, why should we? We would not neglect other aspects of our marriage because of surgeries so why would we neglect our marriage bed? That would be just plain dumb... like shooting ourselves in the foot.

Sex is far too crucial to throw aside during life's bumps in the road. What do you do with your marriage bed when life gets messy? If your sex life takes high priority there should never or at least rarely be a time when it dwindles down. Sexual intimacy should ALWAYS be at the top of our 'to do' list, not as a chore but as a fun and necessary daily part of our lives. We always breathe. We always eat. We always sleep. We always exercise. And we should always enjoy our sex lives.

Here's to erotic marital sex no matter what is going on in our lives... that we always make time to nurture and treasure it!

Saturday, April 3, 2010

Christ is Risen! Indeed He is Risen!

These are the words we use to greet each other at our Pascha/Easter midnight service, which will be tonight. This past week has been our Lenten Holy Week. The Eastern Orthodox still go by the old Julian calendar in calculating the date of Pascha so for most years our Easter falls on a different day then when you Westerners celebrate it but this is one of those rare years where the Eastern and Western Christian churches gather on the same day.

Each year, just before we are dismissed from our Pascha service, the Paschal Sermon by St. John Chrysostom (347-407) is read from the pulpit. Here it is in its entirety.

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A PASCHAL SERMON by St. John Chrysostom (347-407)

Are there any who are devout lovers of God?
Let them enjoy this beautiful bright festival!

Are there any who are grateful servants?
Let them rejoice and enter into the joy of their Lord!

Are there any weary from fasting?
Let them now receive their due!

If any have toiled from the first hour,
let them receive their reward.

If any have come after the third hour,
let them with gratitude join in the feast!

Those who arrived after the sixth hour,
let them not doubt; for they shall not be short-changed.

Those who have tarried until the ninth hour,
let them not hesitate; but let them come too.

And those who arrived only at the eleventh hour,
let them not be afraid by reason of their delay.

For the Lord is gracious and receives the last even as the first.
The Lord gives rest to those who come at the eleventh hour,
even as to those who toiled from the beginning.

To one and all the Lord gives generously.
The Lord accepts the offering of every work.
The Lord honours every deed and commends their intention.

Let us all enter into the joy of the Lord!

First and last alike, receive your reward.
Rich and poor, rejoice together!

Conscientious and lazy, celebrate the day!
You who have kept the fast, and you who have not,
rejoice, this day, for the table is bountifully spread!

Feast royally, for the calf is fatted.
Let no one go away hungry.
Partake, all, of the banquet of faith.
Enjoy the bounty of the Lord's goodness!

Let no one grieve being poor,
for the universal reign has been revealed.

Let no one lament persistent failings,
for forgiveness has risen from the grave.

Let no one fear death,
for the death of our Saviour has set us free.

The Lord has destroyed death by enduring it.
The Lord vanquished hell when he descended into it.
The Lord put hell in turmoil even as it tasted of his flesh.

Isaiah foretold this when he said,
"You, O Hell, were placed in turmoil when he encountering you below."

Hell was in turmoil having been eclipsed.
Hell was in turmoil having been mocked.
Hell was in turmoil having been destroyed.
Hell was in turmoil having been abolished.
Hell was in turmoil having been made captive.

Hell grasped a corpse, and met God.
Hell seized earth, and encountered heaven.
Hell took what it saw, and was overcome by what it could not see.

O death, where is your sting?
O hell, where is your victory?

Christ is risen, and you are cast down!
Christ is risen, and the demons are fallen!
Christ is risen, and the angels rejoice!
Christ is risen, and life is set free!
Christ is risen, and the tomb is emptied of its dead.

For Christ, having risen from the dead,
is become the first-fruits of those who have fallen asleep.

To Christ be glory and power forever and ever. Amen!
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Is that an inspiring Easter sermon or what? And to think it was first delivered 1,600 years ago and it has been read every Easter service since then! After this sermon is read, we give the Paschal greeting in many different languages. Here are a few of them:

Arabic:
Al-Maseeh Qam!
Haqqan Qam!

Greek:
Christos Anesti!
Alithos Anesti!

Slavonic:
Christos Voskrese!
Voistinu Voskrese!

French:
Le Christ est Resucitee!
Vraiment est Resucitee!

Italian:
Cristo e Risorto!
Verito e Risorto!

Christ is Risen! Indeed He is Risen!

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Please, pull your pants up!

OK, I am no prude but there are some things that I just do not want or need to see when I am driving through town. Today, while running errands I happened to drive past a group of 20-something year old guys, who appeared to be visiting and messing around on the front lawn. Then I saw it!!!

One guy had the waistband of his jeans hanging totally below his butt cheeks. Honest, I could see his underwear from the waistband down to his thighs. (How do they keep those jeans from falling down to their ankles?)If that was not bad enough as I was driving past the house another one of the guys was pulling his pants up, zippering them and buckling his belt. Did he just have his pants off or maybe he had them down to his knees?

What is wrong with these people? Why can't they keep their pants pulled up? Do they think it looks cool, that they are impressing the girls are something? Let's not forget to mention all the times we have driven through these neighborhoods and seen young guys walking with their hands down INSIDE the front of their pants. I just do not get it. Can someone explain to me what this is all about?