Do you know what is REALLY sad to me? On marriage forums I read all the time where countless, refused husbands tell about their wives practicing this behavior. The husbands say that their wives refuse sex all or most of the time except for…………………… when they want to get pregnant. What. is. up. with. that??? How can a wife be cold as ice from day to day but when she wants a baby she is *horny as all get out* during that time of the month??? The *horny behavior* is only kept up until she is pregnant at which time the frigidity starts all over again, often continuing for 2-3 years until she is ready to be hooked up again to the baby-making machine (ie, her husband). Then once more she *loves sex* until she is pregnant again.
I can poke holes in this selfish behavior because, unfortunately, that was me in the first months of our marriage. And to think, we all assumed we were good, Christian wives while we used our husband's body as a baby-making machine. For having done that, I am still so ashamed that I stooped that low. As Christian wives, how can we justify doing that to our husband? How can we think, “Sex is a bother to me so I will refuse it but when I am ready to get pregnant, my husband better darn sure make himself available so I can get what I want.” As husbands how can you allow your wife to continue having children knowing that it is the only reason she *loves sex*, the only reason she is “putting out”? Do husbands think, “Oh wow, she is agreeing to sex. I can’t pass this up!” Is it the desperation to have sex, even if only at that one time of the month and only until pregnancy is achieved?
Can someone explain this practice in *Christian wives*? From where did we ever get the idea that this is an acceptable Christian way to treat our husband? What can we do to stop this selfish behavior in young wives? I feel it needs to stop, do you?