Thursday, July 30, 2009

A Reader's Favorite- Using food during sex

A reader asked me if we could have a discussion about using food during sex, saying that he liked to eat food out of his wife's body. This topic is so not a preference of mine but I am sure many of you are into the sex with food thing. If you enjoy it post your comments, ideas and questions. Be as graphic as you like. We can take it ;-)!

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

A Reader's Favorite- Intimate Jewelry

One reader expressed interest in intimate jewelry-- nipple jewelry, clit clips, erotic looking chains dangling from or between nipples and/or clits, jeweled butt plugs... both piercing and non-piercing. This reader commented that the sites which display jewelry on live models or mannequins, give a much better idea of how the jewelry is worn and what it would look like on the person wearing it and I have to agree. I have been to sites where they only display intimate jewelry against a backdrop and I would generally not buy from them because I prefer to see it on a body before making a purchase.

So what is your opinion of intimate jewelry? Do you have any? Where do you prefer to shop for it? Have you ever made jewelry of this sort? Do you wear intimate jewelry in the bedroom? Do you wear it on dates or when you are out of town? Do you wear it around the house or when running errands or at your job?

Saturday, July 18, 2009

A Reader's Favorite- Surviving death of spouse

This is a much more serious topic than what my readers usually submit as "a reader's favorite" but stay with me. It is just as beneficial to think about these serious topics as it is to think about the fun stuff. This reader wants to discuss what happens at the death of a spouse- how a spouse prepares for death or how one prepares to be the surviving spouse.

What do you do with the love you have for your spouse at the time of death and afterward? As you fall more and more in love with your spouse through time and also through your awakening, how can you prepare for the loss which you will eventually face at the time of a death? Can one adequately prepare? Do you presently live each day with your spouse like there may not be another day or is your relationship such that you and your spouse are still taking each other for granted? For a surviving, high-SD, Christian spouse-- What is a healthy way to go on living? Can you rely on your Christian Faith to carry you through that season of life and if so, how? Be specific. (ie, It is not enough to say, "I will pray and read my bible." As part of the grieving process it is not uncommon for one to initially be angry at God so prayer may be challenging at best.)

If I may just add one more thing before I go---

GR and I view death the same way we view the birth of a new life. We see each as a natural part of life and as such, we do not view death as a scary thing. This was not always the case for us. Our comfort around death came about through the deaths of loved ones in our past. There are several good books on the market which pertain to death and dying. A few that we have are:

*A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis, ISBN: 0-553-27486-4
A current edition would be ISBN: 0-060-65238-1

*Surviving the Loss of a Loved One, Anthony M. Coniaris, ISBN: 0-937032-89-1

*On the Issues of Aging, Sickness and Dying, Stephan Jarmus and Andrew Jarmus, ISBN: 1-895096-02-2

And here are several books that I have not read but they all looked to be interesting and were rated highly at amazon. If you're interested in reading more on this topic, the 3 books I mentioned above and the ones I list below, could be useful. If you have a different favorite book that you love on this topic, please feel free to post about it in a comment.

*On Grief and Grieving, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross , ISBN: 0743266293

*I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, Brook Noel, ISBN: 1402212216

*How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies, Therese A. Rando, ISBN: 0553352695

*Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies, Marta Felber, ISBN: 0877939322

*Widow To Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas For Rebuilding Your Life, Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, ISBN: 0738209961

*Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse, Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, ISBN: 080105821X

Monday, July 13, 2009

A Reader's Favorite- How to have a sex adventure weekend

One of my readers is experimenting more and more with what he calls "sex adventure weekends" and I am only assuming that he is mainly referring to weekends away from home. Do you plan many weekends of this sort? What do you plan or what would you like to plan? How often do you have these weekends? Have you discussed this idea with your spouse?

OT- An undesirable hole!

And this is why we shouldn't be multi-tasking while texting. For all you folks out there who text while walking or, God forbid, while driving--- STOP DOING IT--- or you will find yourself in an undesirable hole, pardon the pun!

Thursday, July 9, 2009

A Reader's Favorite-- If you had your way, what would your birthday wish be?

One of my readers wanted to see this as a blog topic. What would you ask for if you could have anything at all from your spouse for your birthday? Be specific with your answers.

On second thought, let us make this even more interesting because I do not want to hear, "I would ask for this or that but my spouse probably would not give it to me." If you can think of three things, list the top three gifts you would like to receive from your spouse. Here is the deal--- Whatever you ask for, your spouse will enthusiastically give it to you. There would be no limitations at all so whatever you ask, you will receive. (This is kind of like having a genie in a bottle, huh?) Feel free to reveal or not reveal whether or not you think your spouse would actually deliver your birthday requests.

Monday, July 6, 2009

A Reader's Favorite- Photography in the marriage bed

One of my readers is interested in photography. I have to admit, my husband and I have not experimented with the camera while having sex. What fun ways do you incorporate photography in your marriage bed? For those of us who are inexperienced with this--- Can you share what enjoyment you receive out of using your camera this way? After you film or take pictures, where do you store them? How often do you look at them?

Cool stocking stuffer

What wife would not just adore finding this sweet treat in her stocking on Christmas morning?

Sunday, July 5, 2009

Nymphomania: A History by Carol Groneman

While surfing the net I came across an interesting excerpt from a book entitled Nymphomania: A History, Carol Groneman, W. W. Norton & Company, ISBN: 0393322424 . (Leave it to me to find these quirky books.) Have any of you read this? What do you guys think of her book topic? Do you think it would be an interesting read?

You can read 6 pages of Groneman's book at amazon but here is a paragraph of it to give you a taste of her book.

In 1841, Miss T., the twenty-nine-year-old daughter of a Massachusetts farmer, was diagnosed with nymphomania. According to the physicians who described the case in the Boston Medical and Surgical Journal, her conversation and actions left no doubt that she suffered from the disease: she uttered the "most disgusting obscenities" and moved her body in ways that expressed her uncontrolled "libidinous feelings." Although in good health, she had been restless and morose, exhibiting a "paroxysm of hysteria" when the doctors arrived. After a vaginal examination, they determined that her uterus was enlarged, her vagina over-abundantly moist, but her long and "tumid" clitoris was the telltale sign of nymphomania. They applied various caustics to her genitals to cool her ardor and tried other traditional remedies, such as bleeding and cold-water douches. After several weeks, the doctors pronounced her greatly improved, with "not a symptom remaining referable to nymphomania." This time when she was examined vaginally, she exhibited "every appearance of modesty," including a retracted and very diminutive clitoris.