Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Brief Announcement- HELP!

For some 6 months or longer, a stupid, stupid person I know (moi) has been saving a large amount of important marriage bed information in an Outlook "Draft". At some point in the last 1-2 days I must have accidentally deleted it which would not have been so bad except that since then, I emptied my "Trash" file so to my knowledge this Draft is gone.

I only discovered the tragedy last night and it practically brought me to tears. Does anyone know of a way to retrieve an emptied Trash file?.. that is, without having to purchase a $100 program to do it? Oh, and I'm using Mozilla Thunderbird.

Gemma, who has been kicking herself in the hiney for being so careless!

Edited to add:

It appears that because I had this information stored in a "draft" rather than an actual "file" it cannot be retrieved. GR came home for lunch and followed the advice you posted, Mariner. I can kiss it good-bye. The "draft" is lost. But thank you anyway for trying to help. Now I have even more incentive to get my "saved" information in order so I will not have to live through this again.

For those of you who have kindly posted or emailed me links for harnesses, books, what have you... you all know who you are... if it's possible, could you please email the info to me again? I would be so grateful.

One of you, I will not mention your name, has a copy of my list of sex books which I was going to purchase. Could you please send me a copy of my book list? Thanks.

Gemma, going to have a pity party!

17 comments:

Ancient Mariner said...

Gemma:
Do you do regular backups of your data? If so, you should be able to restore from a prior backup.

if not, check versiontracker.com (or a similar site) to see if there is a file retrieval program that is free, or below $100. The sooner the better, because now that you have freed up the directory space, the more you use your computer, the more chance that space is going to be taken up by some other data, guaranteeing that the original data is lost for good.

Ancient Mariner said...

I just talked to a computer programmer friend of mine and this is what he said:

There are several utilities out there. One off the top of my head is called "Undelete". If you can, do a google search of the term "Hiren's Boot CD". If you can figure out how to download and create this CD, it has practically every utility you could ever need for PC's, including a few that deal with undeleting files. If you get stuck I could make you a copy of the CD, but that doesn't help if your friend needs the files right away.

Here's the catch, tell him to not use his computer. When you "delete" a file in Windows it still exists on disk until some other process writes to that space. Using the computer and the normal day to day disk activity decreases the chance that his files can be recovered.

Ancient Mariner said...

and here is the download link:

http://www.hirensbootcd.net/

Gemma said...

Thanks, Mariner. My dh's coming home from work later this morning to help me go through the process you described. I am way too computer illiterate to figure this out on my own. This will be my last ditch effort to retrieve this information that I lost. I went to bed last night practically in tears telling dh, "I'm so stupid, stupid, stupid, stupid." He had to fuck me to calm me down.

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Gemma, the weird things I have done to my computer regularly causes my computer genius husband to shake his head in amazement. Even he cannot figure out how I foul up my computer the way I do!

I mentally and verbally abuse myself fiercely if I mess up. Takes it toll on me when I diss myself like that. Choleric/Sanguine brainf..ck.

I get my wildcherryness into such a tizzy that I can only be gotten through to when he takes me down and gentles me! Gradual easing of self destruction amidst wildcherry bliss.

My man is ultra cool at all times and I am his wild woman. Can't even tame me after I've had my fill of him. We laugh but I have to question myself at times as my wildness seems to get the better of me. Age does nothing but offer me license to get whackier. Sigh.

Gemma said...

I need a computer 'how to' workbook. Something that I can work through on my own and it will teach me how to use the programs I have on my 8 month old laptop. Currently I have programs on it that I still have never used. It's rather embarrassing.

I'm wanting to get started writing on a book idea that I have and I still don't even know what program to use for writing and storing my work. That's pretty bad, huh? ...that I have ability to write a book but don't know where to put in on my laptop as I'm writing it. So much to do, so much to learn...

Ancient Mariner said...

Gemma:
Don't be too hard on yourself. These things happen sometimes. This may make you feel better: a couple of years ago, I was working on my laptop and eating dinner at the same time. I picked up my glass to drink some water, and got a few drops--no more than four--on the keyboard. I quickly wiped up the water, and was confident I had got it all. Less than a minute later, I heard the computer crackling and popping, and I watched in disbelief and utter dismay as my precious Apple Powerbook went up in a puff of light blue smoke! It died a nasty death that day, and I have replayed the events in my mind countless times, trying through sheer force of will to change the outcome. Years later, it is STILL painful thinking about that accident. I made the mistake of telling my "friends" about it. Of course, they never let me forget, which is why I am yet to recover fully...

Gemma said...

Well the verdict is out--- It appears that because I had this information stored in a "draft" rather than an actual "file" it cannot be retrieved. GR came home for lunch and followed the advice you posted, Mariner. I can kiss it good-bye. The "draft" is lost. But thank you anyway for trying to help. Now I have even more incentive to get my "saved" information in order so I won't have to live through this again.

Mariner, I'm so sorry that you are scarred for life because of your friends ;-), lol.

Oh, btw, for those of you who kindly have emailed me links or posted links for harnesses, books, what have you... you all know who you are... if it's possible, could you please email it to me again? I would be so grateful.

One of you, I won't mention your name, has a copy of my list of sex books which I was going to purchase. Could you please send me a copy of my book list? Thanks.

Gemma, going to have a pity party!

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma,

I am really sorry to hear you lost all that data. :-(

About how to go about writing your book take a look at this:
http://maketecheasier.com/layout-a-book-with-openoffice-org-part-1/2009/07/13

Mark

Gemma said...

Thanks, Mark. I'll look over it.

bunnyhunch said...

Don't know if this'll help or not, here's something else to try. My computer geek son said that on Outlook you can go to the "Tools" menu & try clicking on "recover deleted items." He said it just might work.

FWIW.

Gemma said...

Thanks BH. We tried that but because it was in "draft" and not technically a "file" it couldn't be retrieved.

Command0-182 said...

What?! A draft? How did that work out? What'd you do, constantly have it open and just never close it? 0.o

Yeah...definitely SAVE. Save early, save often.

Andrea said...

I also read that book because it was given to me by my sister in law. Sorry, but that was a waste of time. I don't want to be insulting to people that read the book and find it great and changed their lives. But from a European point of view it was a waste of time.

She said that I should greet my husband at the door with the food ready and looking like I'm hitting a model contest.
What about those of us who are working? Should I tell my boss "Sorry, can't stay, need to be at home before my husband arrives."?
I understand that I should look like a homeless person, but am I not allowed a certain comfortness in my house?
And the sex...it's true that men show love through sex and woman through romance. Dr. Laura says I should be available to him whenver he feels like it. Uhm, what am I? A piece of meat? Of course regular sex is a good thing, but when I am exhausted it means I am exhausted. It doesn't mean I don't love him.

At the end of the day I am still and individual, so is he. (And if you think now that he has to be romantic all the time, no, he doesn't. I barely complain about the loss of romance cause I know he's not that type of person.)

bunnyhunch said...

Andrea: She said that I should greet my husband at the door with the food ready and looking like I'm hitting a model contest.
What about those of us who are working? Should I tell my boss "Sorry, can't stay, need to be at home before my husband arrives."?
I understand that I should look like a homeless person, but am I not allowed a certain comfortness in my house?
And the sex...it's true that men show love through sex and woman through romance. Dr. Laura says I should be available to him whenver he feels like it. Uhm, what am I? A piece of meat? Of course regular sex is a good thing, but when I am exhausted it means I am exhausted. It doesn't mean I don't love him.


Andrea, I have no idea how your comment ended up in this particular posting; it doesn't make sense. But I just have to respond. Should you tell your boss that you need to leave so you can be home before your husband arrives? YES! Sometimes, yes. Just do it. A time or two won't kill you and it will probably make your husband's day.

You sound like you have a lot of resentment built up toward those who suggest you should put your husband's sexual wants/needs ahead of your own, but the fact is you should. Sorry if you feel like a piece of meat. I understand how you can feel that way; I've been there myself. I want to encourage you to TRY SAYING "YES" 99% of the time (with a servant's attitude in your heart), and see what happens. I'll bet you won't end up feeling like a piece of meat. You'll probably feel like a million bucks, especially when you see how happy it makes him. A happy husband wants to make his wife even happier. Go for it, Andrea. What's the worst that could happen?

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Hello Andrea,

Since reworking my head games, I have fallen so much more in love with my man and find the actual act of sex the most exciting part of my life.

My sex organ is truly my brain.

I hear you, Andrea, and I fully relate to your line of thinking. However, after 23 years of short changing myself, I have done a 180 degree turn and am being desired; courted; appreciated more; held more; kissed passionately; unselfishly enquired after and overall, treated more like my husband's lover than just his wife and the mother of his kids.

It is wonderful that you felt free to vent on Gemma's blog. I am glad you knew we would listen and respond. Please come back.

Gemma said...

Andrea said: "Dr. Laura says I should be available to him whenver he feels like it. Uhm, what am I? A piece of meat?"

Hi Andrea,

While my readers are free to express themselves in any way including with the use of slang, I don't appreciate hearing slang comments that describe the marriage bed in a negative way such as your comment of "What am I? A piece of meat?" Please feel free to come back and post again but leave the negative slang off my blog. You can express your marriage issues without being crude about it. This is your marriage you're talking about so try to act like someone who wants to improve their marriage, not tear it down. Thank you.

P.S. I do believe you've incorrectly paraphrased Dr. Laura but I won't go into that right now.