This is a much more serious topic than what my readers usually submit as "a reader's favorite" but stay with me. It is just as beneficial to think about these serious topics as it is to think about the fun stuff. This reader wants to discuss what happens at the death of a spouse- how a spouse prepares for death or how one prepares to be the surviving spouse.
What do you do with the love you have for your spouse at the time of death and afterward? As you fall more and more in love with your spouse through time and also through your awakening, how can you prepare for the loss which you will eventually face at the time of a death? Can one adequately prepare? Do you presently live each day with your spouse like there may not be another day or is your relationship such that you and your spouse are still taking each other for granted? For a surviving, high-SD, Christian spouse-- What is a healthy way to go on living? Can you rely on your Christian Faith to carry you through that season of life and if so, how? Be specific. (ie, It is not enough to say, "I will pray and read my bible." As part of the grieving process it is not uncommon for one to initially be angry at God so prayer may be challenging at best.)
If I may just add one more thing before I go---
GR and I view death the same way we view the birth of a new life. We see each as a natural part of life and as such, we do not view death as a scary thing. This was not always the case for us. Our comfort around death came about through the deaths of loved ones in our past. There are several good books on the market which pertain to death and dying. A few that we have are:
*A Grief Observed, C.S. Lewis, ISBN: 0-553-27486-4
A current edition would be ISBN: 0-060-65238-1
*Surviving the Loss of a Loved One, Anthony M. Coniaris, ISBN: 0-937032-89-1
*On the Issues of Aging, Sickness and Dying, Stephan Jarmus and Andrew Jarmus, ISBN: 1-895096-02-2
And here are several books that I have not read but they all looked to be interesting and were rated highly at amazon. If you're interested in reading more on this topic, the 3 books I mentioned above and the ones I list below, could be useful. If you have a different favorite book that you love on this topic, please feel free to post about it in a comment.
*On Grief and Grieving, Elisabeth Kubler-Ross , ISBN: 0743266293
*I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One, Brook Noel, ISBN: 1402212216
*How To Go On Living When Someone You Love Dies, Therese A. Rando, ISBN: 0553352695
*Finding Your Way After Your Spouse Dies, Marta Felber, ISBN: 0877939322
*Widow To Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas For Rebuilding Your Life, Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, ISBN: 0738209961
*Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse, Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge, ISBN: 080105821X