Saturday, June 27, 2009

A Reader's Favorite- Acting Out Sexual Fantasies in Public & Fantasizing About the Rest of Them

One of my readers told me that this would be a fun topic to discuss on my blog so, here it is! I am not sure what the reader specifically had in mind but we will see where this topic takes us. Have you ever acted out a sexual fantasy in public? Do you have fantasies that you have not acted out but would like to one day? What about the ones that pop up in your head but you know you would never really act out? Do you share any or all of your fantasies with your spouse? Is your spouse happy or horrified to hear about them? Please share your fantasies with us--- the good, the bad and the ugly.

Gemma has a confession to make ;-). Although my dh and I are very discreet when in public, *in my fantasy world* I could easily enjoy the life of a sexual exhibitionist. First I will list a few realistic exhibition scenarios that we have either tried or would like to try:

*Husband and I go out fully dressed except, as usual, I am going commando underneath my dress and I am wearing a jacket. He has me collared and leashed. The leash runs from my collar and through my jacket sleeve where he holds the end of the leash that is sticking out my sleeve and leads me around as his sex slave the entire evening.

*Husband and I are walking in town and he becomes overwhelmingly aroused so he drags me into an alley, pushes me against a wall, shoves my dress up and penetrates me. When he is done with me he wipes us dry with his hand and makes me lick it clean. Then we leave the alley and go on about our business.

*Husband and I are sitting side by side in a restaurant and throughout the meal we man-stim each other... me by sliding my hand down his pants... him by slipping his hand up my dress or skirt.

*Husband and I go walking along a secluded beach by the sea. Before we step outside, he insists on putting breast clamps on me and a harness which fills me with a dildo and a plug. I wear a summer dress over it. We walk along the beach this way for an hour or so and then we enter the water while taking off our clothes and he takes off my clamps and harness. We enjoy water play and have sex while in the water.

*While shopping and looking at stuff together, husband stands right behind me and discreetly grinds his body against mine while kissing my neck. As we move to different aisles in the store we stop, grind, kiss and then move on to another aisle. This takes the boredom out of shopping.

*Husband and I go out on the boat, find a remote area and shove our clothes aside just enough to allow us to have sex. This way we are "covered" in case another boat shows up.

*Husband and I have sex on the hood of the car or inside the car while it is in the garage.

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Now here I will describe a few of my more raunchy sexual exhibition fantasies. BE FOREWARNED--- If it bothers you to read raunchy fantasies, stop here and read no more. Otherwise, continue on. Keep in mind, what follows is nothing but fantasy for me that will never come to fruition so please do not lecture me on the inappropriateness of some of the scenes. That is why I say they will always and only be fantasy for me.

*Husband and I are nude, unbeknownst to us, and we are walking down a street. While many people are walking past and pointing at us, we suddenly realize that we are nude but have no way to quickly cover up or escape the eyes of others so we have to continue walking for a long time with everyone staring at us.

*Husband and I are walking in town and he becomes overwhelmingly aroused so he drags me into an alley, pushes me against a wall, shoves my dress up and penetrates me. We have been going at it for a while and we finally O. As we are Oing we suddenly are aware that others have been watching.

*Husband and I are seated in a public building like a restaurant or a meeting hall and nobody is around. We think we have the place to ourselves. To have fun while we are alone, husband makes me stand while he cuts my dress to a length half-way between my belly button and my vulva, leaving me totally exposed. He orders me to put my feet up on furniture with my legs spread wide apart while he ties my ankles in place. Suddenly people begin filing into the room. Oops! To try and cover me up in front of the others, husband quickly places is hand over my vulva. After a while he gets bored and begins discreetly fingering me while we pretend that nothing is wrong.

*Husband and I go nude walking along a nice beach by the sea. Before we head outside, he insists on putting breast clamps on me and a harness which fills me with a dildo and plug. We walk along the beach for about an hour with others around. He gets an erection and I am becoming more and more aroused but he forbids me to have an O so I am going out of my mind with arousal. Suddenly I cannot hold back any longer and I have an O with others watching. Husband is displeased with my disobedience. As punishment he ties me to a nearby picnic table and gives me a good spanking only the spanking keeps me in an aroused state. He finally gives up and uses me as a sex toy from behind.

Last but not least, this is a lengthy one---

*I have been extremely naughty and deserve punishment so husband teaches me a lesson. He strips me and brings me to a busy downtown intersection. I am shocked at what he is doing. He ties me to a bench face up with my head dangling off the edge. He attaches my feet to a wide spreader bar to further embarrass me so everyone can see between my legs and he places a mouth gag on me to keep me quiet.

He sexually teases me, walks away and leaves me there a while where others walk by, point and make lewd comments. He comes back, teases and walks away several more times. Each time he walks away he leaves me more and more aroused until I am begging him to allow me sexual release but he is not through with the punishment.

He unzips his pants, grabs me by the back of my head and makes me deep-throat him while he roughly thrusts my head back and forth from his body until he is ready to O. Just before Oing he pulls my head away from him, shoots his cum all over my face and neck and leaves me that way. He makes me beg for another hour while he continues to sexually tease me but no release is allowed.

Then he unties me and repositions me face down on the bench from the waist up, leaving my legs dangling towards the ground and my ankles still fastened to the spreader bar while he reties me. He gets behind me and does me like a dog until we both O. As he finishes he hisses in my ear, "I hope my little whore-wife has learned her lesson. Next time you disobey me, the punishment will be twice as bad. Now there is one more thing you must do."

He hangs a sign around my neck while I am still nude. The sign reads, "DISOBEDIENT WHORE-WIFE-- HUSBAND TAUGHT ME A LESSON." He ties a rope around me, passing it tightly around my breasts and between my legs accentuating my private parts and leaves a ten foot "leash" forcing me to walk way behind him. This creates quite the scene for others walking by as he pulls me through the streets especially since I end up having several O's on the way home from the tight ropes.

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Remember---

My husband would never seriously treat me this way in real life and mean it. If we acted out these exhibition scenes in private we would do them to have fun with our fantasies. Like I mentioned earlier--- Sexual exhibitionism is only something I could easily and enjoyably live out in my fantasy world as I pretend to be a bad girl. In real life I would never do these things in front of others. Now you know one of my dirty little secrets ;-).

66 comments:

Who am I said...

Any one know in general what is considered public indecency?

Kills the thrill when I think about being embarrassed, wonder what is really reasonable to dream about.

Gemma said...

I'm not overly familiar with laws on public indecency but if you go to this wiki article on it,

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Public_indecency

scroll down to the bottom of the article and click where it says: "See Also Indecent Exposure" it takes you to a page where you can read "Specific state statutes on indecent exposure"... if that helps you any.

Command0-182 said...

To my knowledge, public nudity is legal in Britain. You could just dream your over there... Or you could imagine your in international waters, where there are no laws.

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Well, anyone can dream..that's up for grabs but the actual acting out of a fantasy in public takes guts plus two constantly naughty minds ;-)
Already acted out :
Hmmmm...squeezing his butt in front of a table full of oggling women (he's got a great set of buns from body building) then seeing them snarl at me. Sweet.
Uummm...brushing against each other in a book store front on, still o.k. if done discreetly.
Uuuhhh...suggestively licking my starbucks coffee cream off my fingers and then talking quietly about loving his 'cream'. Love seeing his eyes dilate and laughing at him when he denies it.
Ooohhh, feeling each other out whilst at a traffic light knowing you could be seen but in the safety of your car, public indecency?

We are way too private to really 'do' each other in public so we act frisky without too much being let on to anyone watching. Even our kids don't clue into our carrying on.
We find it a whole lot sexier to hint at each other with our eyes using subtle come ons, when in public, than to be overt. Maybe a bit coy but safe for the two of us.

What would we really LIKE to do : Nude photos of each other out on our porch;
Me going at him after buying groceries and doing a household obligation thing;
Him going down on me in our car;
Hot and steamy out on our supposedly private bedroom porch, which has an entrance into the living room,...still going to pull that stunt but with teens going to bed at g..awful hours, tough;

Anything, anywhere as long as we are together and making love !!!

Who am I said...

ok, here are some.

On an airplane, but seeing that a couple got arrested for that-sort of kills the fantasy- but maybe some heavy making out under a blanket.

In a dressing room- would want to make sure it had a full length door- look closely for hidden cameras and one way glass, pretty empty store- this would be a maybe with caution.

A family restroom in a store/mall that was really clean- and a long way from home where it would be unlikely anyone who knew us- would see us.

Now more realistic. We have a woods on are farm with some nice mowed grassy areas, about a half mile off the road way. Some risk of trespassers from time to time, or certain times of year someone legitimately checking crops that are sold to the dairy next door- or my son take a notion to mow when I was not expecting it.

Most exciting- just a blanket in the woods- but hard to get right temperature and no bugs- but a few days a year could be possible.

Another option- park the RV back there, and leave windows open- they have screens- so we could be as loud as we wanted. Probably need to sneak it back in there some night about dusk when the kids have left for college.

Maybe an even more romantic option.

I set up a tent, and put some blankets, air mattress, lube, lingerie, etc in there. Then tell my wife I have a surprise and take her back there. Tell her to get herself ready and then let me know and I will come into the tent.

Proably better use electric not flaming candles.

DaMattafan said...

Don’t know if this truly fits the topic but we do all kinds of PDAs. Love to kiss and hug and also love subtle hints in public. She will brush up against me in a narrow aisle of a store and it’s funny how at this time she can’t seem to move her neck so she has to turn her whole upper body as she glances up and down the aisle over and over again. She also loves me to walk right behind her when we are shopping usually with my hand on her hips. If the aisle or area of the store is empty enough my hands tend so wander upwards. I also love to give her butt a nice squeeze when she has to get something on one of the bottoms shelves. Ohh and one more favorite, when we have to brake kinda hard for a light or in traffic I always put my arm in front of her to make sure she is safe but for some reason my hand always ends up right on her breast. ;)

DaMattafan said...

Wow love the extended version of the post!! Go Gemma!!!

Gemma said...

Well, I tried to post the "extension" as a comment but blogger wouldn't let me so I had to add it to my main article.

Mark 9:24 said...

Wow Gemma, those are HOT!

Re your fantasy:

*Dh and I go out fully dressed except I am going commando, as usual, underneath my dress and I am wearing a jacket. He has me collared and leashed. The leash runs from my collar and through my jacket sleeve where he holds the end of the leash that is sticking out my sleeve and leads me around the entire evening.




DW and I did this several years ago.
In our case we ended up going to see a movie, and we were the 1st ones there.
While we were there alone I started talking to DW, and pulling on her leash, and I talked her into having an orgasm right there. Without even touching her.
it was fun! ;-)

Mark 9:24

Ancient Mariner said...

I have two. The first one is pretty tame, and achievable: Now that our sailboat is all set up for spending weekends aboard, I would like to make love to my wife on the water. With the 30ft mast, though, our rhythmic motions might give us away... but who cares?

The second one is definitely fantasy. I have a good friend I have known since we were 8. He is like a brother to me. He is married to a lovely lady, and we travel to see them from time to time. In my fantasy, after the kids have been put to bed, the two couples are in the living room, listening to soft music with the lights dimmed, drinking some wine. After about an hour or so, we are all feeling mellow, and I start nuzzling my wife. This goes on for a while, and we get more into it. I notice out of the corner of my eye that they are also getting horny, emboldened by our actions. I reach under my wife’s skirt to massage her clit, and she obligingly opens her legs for me. Before long, we are grinding pelvises, and my friend and his wife are getting looser too. I drop my pants (discreetly) and start doing my wife slowly and gently, and I see that they soon start making love as well. Soon, we are all going at it hot and heavy, with nothing left to the imagination, even though we are at opposite corners of the room. They O first, and come over to watch us finish. My friend is holding his wife’s hand, and she is holding my wife’s hand. My wife moans as I finally shoot my load deep within her, and we all smile at each other. There is no wife-swapping or anything like that. Just two couples totally at ease with each other, willing to let the other couple see them passionately make love to their spouse.

In the morning, we carry on as if nothing has changed, but we each know that we have entered an even deeper level of friendship and trust.

Gemma said...

Hiswildcherry said: "Me going at him after buying groceries and doing a household obligation thing;"

OK, I have to ask-- What did you mean by this?

Gemma said...

Two undesirables for me---

1) I would not want to be arrested.

2) I would not want to have sex in a church.

Otherwise, I could have strong tendencies towards fantasies of sexual exhibition and humiliation. I know, I know... some of you think I am sick. But since GR and I have known each other I've never crossed the line from exhibition and humiliation fantasy to reality. I just enjoy pretending!

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Hey Gemma,
"Me going at him after buying groceries and doing a household obligation thing;"

Going down on him, orally and taking him to ecstasy!
I'd love to surprise him with my wildcherry passion after he has stocked my pantry AAAGGGAAIIINNN. SAHM humble gratitude not subjugation, yes?

You said : "I know... some of you think I am sick". No, my precious man and I don't think you are sick. We chatted about your post; we 'get it'.
I thought your ideas outrageously spicy and hot but am too timid in my sexuality at this time to even go there, mentally.
My darling is far too much of a private gentleman and gentle man to ever expose me to public humilation so my future fantasies would stay in fantastical realms!

A really cool outcome of our chat was that we both agreed that we have thus far fulfilled every fantasy we had about each other since last year....beautiful. Now, to dream up a few more ;-)

I gave him permission to spank me and then ravish me...I would LOVE that. Wildcherrydelights!

Anonymous said...

Dear Gemma,

Thanks for a great blog. We have already discussed this offline, and I would be happy to share a few fantasies that my bride and I already did IRL.

Movie theater: Back of the theater. Carefully choose the man's sweatpants (no undies, fly without a zipper, like pajamas), and the woman's attire (floppy knee-length skirt and no undies). She "sat on my lap" and we "made out" during the movie. Virtually no one else in the theater. Yes I know there can be observation cameras. But the way we "wiggled things into place" you'd never guess we were actually "doing it" in there. She just squiggled and squirmed while "necking" with me.

If we needed to separate quickly we could and the only evidence would require a strip search and medical exam. Not going to happen. Very nice fantasy actually completed in public.

Another time we were in a large and busy international airport. We were hungry and had an hour between flights. I was SOOOO horny, and she was feeling frisky. I had a fantasy in my brain for the past year and thought this was the opportunity.

I got us seats in a corner booth of the pizza place in the airport. I went to the very clean bathroom and filled a condom part way with Astroglide and slipped it on my rock hard self. I went back to the booth and positioned backpacks and coats strategically so that she could reach down my pants and give me a hand job and NO ONE could see. It was totally covered. She brought me all the way to "deposit" in the condom. She pulled off the condom, placed her "personal pizza" next to her on the bench (again, very concealed by luggage) and squeezed out the "contents" onto her pizza. Disposed of condom.

Then she placed the pizza up on the table in general view and made a big show of enjoying this "delicious pizza with the special creamy sauce" while I observed with my jaw dropped to the floor. The context was such that all the other people were rushing about madly to catch flights and no one would look onto someone's pizza to see what was on there. So in a way it was like getting a blowjob in public because I got to watch DW eat my semen in a very crowded restaurant.

Another time she took me to Starbucks and ordered a coffee "without whipped cream". Then she sat down with me and tasted it. She said "I changed my mind. I really do want whipped on top of this frappucino after all. Honey could you please go to the bathroom and "add a big load of cream onto my frappucino?"

Without hesitation I went to the (again very clean) bathroom and "added whipped" to the frappucino. I brought it back to her. There were like 50 people around there within feet and even inches. She spoke kind of loudly "Yep that's what a woman craves y'know... a nice cold frappucino with that thick (takes a sip "mmmmm"), creamy (slurps it again), delicious whipped cream on top of it. There's just something so masculine about that cream that drives me wild! Yes sir, every woman should have a coffee with extra whipped cream on it. It makes a woman's face glow."

Of course now I've got a whole new erection and am about to cream my jeans just hearing this "phone sex type talk" that no one else can figure out. It's all in code. It's all in public. As far as I can tell it was all legal and no indecent exposure or anything.

That's the way uh-huh I like it!

Wink!

job29man said...

Acting out a fantasy in public eh? Hmmmm... yes we've done some of that.

1. Bookstore- DW wore a short skirt, no panties. Strategically placed sweater draped from her arm to provide some "cover".

I was able to check out he bottom shelf books while she looked at the top shelf books. She stood with legs a bit apart. I slid my hand up the inside of her leg. taking advantage of the "cover" I slip my hand all the way up till my thumb was at her entrance. She was already very wet from excitement and my thumb slipped easily inside her. I was able to thrust with my thumb for awhile, in and out. Then took my hand away and "sniffed" her "essence" on my hand for the rest of the evening.

2. Shoe Salesman- Walmart at 11 pm. Store is almost empty. DW needs shoes. Helpful store shoe salesman (that's me) offers assistance. Customer has hard time describing the look she seeks. Salesman brings her several boxes of shoes to try on. He kneels in front of her and takes her foot in his hand to help slip on the shoes. He notices that when she lifts her foot her skirt rides up a bit. If he cranes his neck just a little he can see up her skirt. What's that he sees? Panties? No, she's not wearing anything, and her vulva is shaven.

"Ma'am I just can't get this shoe on you when your foot is on the floor, could you just lift your foot a bit higher please?" (Now picture the whole "Basic Instinct" thing)

"None of these shoes is right what I want is ... (blushes) I want shoes that just "say"... Oh I'm embarrassed to say it."

"Ma'am I deal with thousands of women's feet. There's nothing I haven't seen or heard before."

She says "F*ck me!"
He responds "Excuse me ma'am. What did you just say?"

She replies quietly "F*ck me! F*ck me! You said I should tell you what I want and I want shoes that just scream out to my husband "F*ck me!""

"Oh" he says. "You want the SHOES that say "F*ck me!" You weren't actually saying "F*... "oh forget it. I misunderstood you for a minute."

He gets more shoes. Long spikey heels and ties.

"Do these shoes say what you want ma'am?" As he's pulling them on her raised feet he can see now that she is dripping wet. There's a tattoo down there that says "Lick me!" with a big tongue sticking out of a cartoon mouth.

"Yes" she pants "these shoes definitely scream "F*ck me!"

And so the fantasy goes on. We actually did this a few weeks ago. It was kind of hard for me to hide my erection. The shoe section was empty but shoppers pushed their carts nearby in total ignorance. The angles precluded visuals by any shoppers or cameras.

You can see that I prefer the fantasies we can actually act out in public.

Job

Gemma said...

Wow, you guys have some wild and crazy fantasies. It's interesting to note how each of our personalities affects the types of fantasies that we either act out IRL or those that we only dream up as a never-to-be-acted-out fantasy.

I used to think that I wasn't creative but I guess I am a little creative with fantasies. And I often think of new ones. What I posted was just a small sampling.

Thanks for sharing, everyone. I enjoy reading them all. I have a feeling this article will be revisited for a long while.

so blessed said...

Gemma wrote "Now here I will describe a few of my more raunchy sexual exhibition fantasies."

Hoo wee! Somebody turn on the fan and get the rubbing alcohol; Gemma's dun got'erself all worked up and overheated again! ;)

Hiswildcherry46 said...

So blessed,

That was very funny, thx for the laugh.

Any ideas as to how to encourage your spouse to fantasize about you. Discussed this a few times and my man's take is that you cannot make someone fantasize about you because that would not be a fantasy then?

I begged to differ and have trained myself to fantasize about him so wonder if any of you have had any success in getting your spouse to turn their minds onto you with their fantasies.

so blessed said...

HWC,

Tell us a little about your DH's sexual likes. Does he like to be assertive? Like for you to "take" him? Like for you to dress sexy at home? Like for you to go out sexy in public? What scenarios seem to start his engines?

Mark 9:24 said...

Wow.These are some really HOT fantasies all of you have here!
(This post is a bit long so I hope it fits!)

Gemma
I am dying to know which one's you have actually done in your 1st list.
Concerning the "raunchy" ones. Very Hot.
Your ideas of being Dominated like that are wild, in a fun way! ;-)
(And I do not think you are sick)

My DW once had a dream years ago about exhibitionism (sort of). In her dream we had booked a vacation at a Resort where people could have sex anywhere they wanted to. In her dream she was so turned on that while we were waiting, with other couples, to be let in that she started to give me a blow job and everyone could see what she was doing.
I also find the idea of a Resort like that hot. No swapping partners, just having sex anywhere you wanted to and seeing others do the same.

Hiswildcherry46
I too take opportunities to brush up against my DW, or grab her ass, while in public and when no one is looking.
You're suggestive licking your coffee sounds great. We to have also felt each other up while in the car.

One time she was in a long white skirt that had pockets, except the pockets were open in the bottom so I could feel her up and no one could see. One time while in a traffic jam I was giving her orgasms when she was wearing this skirt. Another time I had a sports car with a token back seat and her brother was sitting behind her. He couldn't see her and was reading a book and while the radio was playing and she was nearing her orgasm she said about the "music" that this was her favorite part and she had an orgasm right there. She managed to keep quite and her bro had no idea what was happening.
We used to also, before we had children, used to masturbate each other, or masturbate ourselves, in the car when driving at night. Especially when taking long trips to visit family in other states.
One time my DW wanted me to fuck her on the hood of my car while were parked in an area at night where construction was going on. It was a hot idea but I had to nix that one because we were in view of some houses that were not that far away. (We did have sex in the car while there)

Who am I
I also would like to do DW on an airplane.
Concerning a dressing room, I've had that fantasy for years. I find the idea while in a womens shop looking for cloths for her and joining her in the dressing room and having sex with her in their very hot.
Just two weeks we were in a local mall and I was eying the family rest room for a quickie when I saw the sign that you have to be buzzed in and that there was a camera pointed at the door so they could see who they were letting in. So that was out.

DaMattafan
I too love coping a feel of DW while in public and no one can see.
One time we went a little further while watching a movie at a local theater. That time I actually masturbated her to orgasm while we watched the movie.

Ancient Mariner
I once was eyeing a sailboat when we 1st got married. I have often wished I had bought it because I would love to have sex with DW on a boat.
Your 2nd fantasy one I have had before as well. Couple watching each other, but no swapping.

Anonymous
What your wife does with pizza and coffee!!!!
WOW!!
If my DW did that I wouldn't be able to stand up in public for a while, if you know what I mean. ;-)

Job29Man
Way to to have discreet fun in public! The shoe salesman bit sounds like a lot of fun! (the fantasy is great too!)

Mark 9:24
For myself, in addition to what I have already posted, I have had the fantasy of having more than one wife, two or three, and we always sleep in the same bed. I would never have to worry about the kids because one wife could distract the kids while the other and me have our fun.
I also find the idea of having sex with one while the other watches to be a turn-on.

Mark 9:24

Gemma said...

so blessed said: "Somebody turn on the fan and get the rubbing alcohol; Gemma's dun got'erself all worked up and overheated again!"

Don't worry. I can turn it on and turn it off in a flash when it comes to my fantasies.

Gemma said...

Mark 9:24 said: "Gemma
I am dying to know which one's you have actually done in your 1st list."

From that list I've done the alley, restaurant, beach, shopping and boat.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma said:
From that list I've done the alley, restaurant, beach, shopping and boat.


Just so I get it straight, you have actually done these two?

*Husband and I are walking in town and he becomes overwhelmingly aroused so he drags me into an alley, pushes me against a wall, shoves my dress up and penetrates me. When he is done with me he wipes us dry with his hand and makes me lick it clean. Then we leave the alley and go on about our business."

and

*Husband and I go walking along a secluded beach by the sea. Before we step outside, he insists on putting breast clamps on me and a harness which fills me with a dildo and a plug. I wear a summer dress over it. We walk along the beach this way for an hour or so and then we enter the water while taking off our clothes and he takes off my clamps and harness. We enjoy water play and have sex while in the water."

Mark

Gemma said...

Yep with a small modification that I won't share here ;-).

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma said:
Yep with a small modification that I won't share here ;-).


Well, personally, while I find the idea of the beach one a real fun idea, I think the alley one is hotter!

Mark

Gemma said...

i love allys... or is it allies??? my spelling is bad tonight.

Mark 9:24 said...

It's alleys.

Gemma said...

Alleys it is. I love alleys because they are such a hot place to have sex. They are hot and often dirty. I'm a clean freak but I love dirty alleys. Weird, I know.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma,

I don't think it's wierd. I want to have sex with DW in an alley. It's something we haven't ever done.

Mark

Command0-182 said...

Hey Gemma!

Just wanted to let you know that your fantasies are very normal indeed, right down to the more, "raunchy" ones. I like to browse erotic stories and tales and nearly all the stories supposedly written by women are very, very much like yours.

There's a blog I love to visit that has an article that I think you may find very interesting. It's about women and why so many of them have rape fantasies, very interesting.

(WARNUNG: NSFW - but then...neither is Gemma ;)).

http://edstrong.blog-city.com/rape_fantasies__reality.htm


I must confess I think I'm the odd one out here as I've no public fantasies whatsoever. A group orgy where I'm the only guy, sure, but in those, everyone's nude. Intimacy is usually what does it for me, sometimes some kind of risk, but not the risk of being seen (more of a turn off for me).


I do have softcore fantasies of being overpowered by a strong women (aka imaginary future wife) who proposes to me while were in the act. Usually I'm in her dorm room at Uni, or she's in mine (single suites). It usually starts with her slowly pinning me up against the wall and just pressing against me tightly and kissing me. Eventually she slowly forces me to her bed and we have sex. Then we relax and I suck on her nipples, which she loves and she holds me close and talks sweetly to me.

In another fantasy we are in her cabin and there's a snowstorm outside. We have a nice quiet evening and we snuggle by the fire while it continues to snow outside. She holds me in her arms and begs me to live in her cabin and talks about what a wonderful time we'll have if I stay.

I must admit I'm not the most energetic person. Perhaps these fantasies are a reflection of my own personality? Makes sense. I'm a 5 on the enneagram.

Gemma said...

Mark, I think my attraction to alleys is the whole "trashy" aspect of it. (ie, Only whores have sex in alleys.) When I enact a fantasy I enjoy being a bad girl so being *forced* into having alley sex like a whore, fits the bill.

Gemma said...

I understand the "rape fantasy". The idea of being forcefully taken in a rough, sexual way and not being able to stop it... For a fantasy (not really being raped) it is mentally freeing for a woman to be in that position, to have a guy sexually use her, to be fucked out of her brains, to be helpless to stop it, the (fantasy) fear of the unknown factor, the eroticism, the fantasy, negative passion, etc, etc. I think I get the attraction.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma wrote:
Mark, I think my attraction to alleys is the whole "trashy" aspect of it. (ie, Only whores have sex in alleys.) When I enact a fantasy I enjoy being a bad girl so being *forced* into having alley sex like a whore, fits the bill.


So it lets you be a "bad girl" when in reality you're still "good girl" because it's GR making you do it?

Mark

Gemma said...

Yep, something like that.

Mark 9:24 said...

So I'm wondering Gemma,

Does GR have any fantasies that you can share?

Mark

Gemma said...

Mark asked: "Does GR have any fantasies that you can share?"

GR struggles more with fantasy and imagination than I but he was the one who came up with the alley, the shopping and the boat fantasies. He is not one to imagine more and more fantasies all the time but usually when I come up with any, he is game. That's just the way his brain is wired. When he does think of a fantasy, it is hard work for him. And he's not as much a fantasy exhibitionist as I, lol.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma,

Tell GR for me that I think her hit a Home Run with the Alley fantasy and a Triple Play for getting 'er done! ;-)

Concerning Fantasies I found this at
http://lifewise.canoe.ca/SexRomance/Lovewise/2009/03/10/pf-8697436.html
It will be in three parts due to the lenght.

Part 1

The fantasy sex lives of men and women
By Shawn Conner, Click by Lavalife

It's safe to say that a lot of men's fantasies are about power. Since women's behavior is viewed more judgmentally, their fantasies are more likely to involve doing what they're not supposed to. (Comstock)

Ever since Neanderthal man first spotted his buddy's girlfriend reclining on a mastodon fur, fantasy has been a rich part of humankind's sex life.

But it wasn't until government funding came along that sexologists began undertaking "scientific" (i.e. handing out questionnaires to college students) research into what part, and to what extent, fantasy plays a part in our sexuality.

Groundbreakers like Masters and Johnson, Alfred Kinsey, Shere Hite and Nancy Friday have made exciting discoveries such as: men and women fantasize about having sex. A lot. Sometimes when they masturbate.

There have been other findings, however. Such as, women's fantasies are more likely to involve their partners, whereas men's often have to do with Jenna Jameson's car breaking down at the side of the road.

This article presents some semi-scientific research into just what are the top fantasies of both sexes, whether and how they differ and what, if anything, all this means. Our sources, sadly, weren't thousands of willing and able-bodied coeds but available studies (scroll down to bottom for a complete list) -- along with memories of our own troubled adolescence, the wellspring that never runs dry.

Mark 9:24 said...

Part 2

Top Male Sex Fantasies


It's safe to say, since guys spend most of their time trying to figure out how to get sex, and then avoiding the phone afterwards, that a lot of their fantasies are about power. In other words, some of their favorite reveries reflect the desire to skip the perennial smile-and-wink, followed by dinner-and-a-movie, and get straight to the action.

10. Domination/submission. Bondage and sex slave fantasies are popular scenarios. However, since most guys are too lazy to learn how to tie a proper knot, there's little need to worry about coming home to find ropes tied to the bedposts.

9. Harem. This is the one where he's the only male in a room full of willing women. And no, we're not talking about The View.

8. Younger woman/older woman. Yeah, this one's fairly obvious. For some reason guys seem predisposed to feeling an attraction for women out of their age range, whether younger (for breeding) or older (for learning). Blame it on evolution.

7. Orgy. This is one of those fantasies that is probably better left un-acted-upon. Sure, it seems like a good idea at the time but the planning, the etiquette and the ensuing awkwardness cancel out the initial thrill. Uhm, not that we'd know for sure.

6. Watching our girlfriend/spouse with another man. Again, probably best un-acted upon. Just rent Indecent Proposal instead.

5. Forbidden fruit. Having sex with the boss's wife while on the phone with the boss; his girlfriend's sister coming over and catching him in a pair of your high heels -- if it's wrong and morally base, he's probably imagined it at some point.

4. Sex with a stranger. This one always livens up the commute to work.

3. Role-playing/costumes. As clich├ęd as it sounds, guys do want you to dress up as a nurse/French maid/Princess Leia and not just on Halloween. Sorry.

2. Sex on location. Probably the office would make a lot of guys' number one place, outside of home, to have sex; the aisles of Office Depot, though, would probably be a distant 9th or 10th.

1. Threesome. If you guessed this as the number one male fantasy, give yourself (and your girlfriend) a pat on the back (preferably in front of your boyfriend).

Mark 9:24 said...

Part 3

Top Female Sex Fantasies

Women's sex fantasies differ from men's in that their scenarios are more likely to transgress societal conventions. Since women's behavior is viewed more judgmentally, their fantasies are more likely to involve doing what they're not supposed to -- i.e., "being bad." At least, that's what our research (Girls Gone Wild in Cancun) indicates.

10. Voyeurism. Yes, she wants to watch as much as you do. Almost.

9. Exhibitionism. This is a big one, particularly in today's over-sexed climate. But women have been exhibiting themselves since as early as 1950, maybe even earlier.

8. Domination/forced sex. As politically incorrect as it is to say, research puts this hot potato fantasy pretty high up on the list. According to Masters and Johnson, the "forced-sex scenario" is second only to taking a different partner than her current beau; according to Nancy Friday (My Secret Garden), it's second to none. We have to stress, though, this is fantasy we're talking about, people.

7. Sex in a public place. Here's some overlap with the guys'; however, we wouldn't be surprised if women showed a little more imagination when it came to sex out in the world. Such as, at a pro sports game, with all the action caught on the Jumbotron.

6. Two or more guys. Maybe it's because porn seems to have taken over a large portion of society, but we're guessing that this fantasy rates more highly in current studies than it did when Masters and Johnson first began conducting their investigations.

5. Older woman/younger man. Call this the "Mrs. Robinson" (after The Graduate) scenario. The fantasy of seducing a much younger man -- her son's friend, perhaps? -- is probably one of the oldest in the book.

4. Having a man as a sex slave. More than the sexual favors, what really turns women on about this one is the housekeeping possibilities.

3. Sapphic romp. Wishful thinking on men's part or as real as Mardi Gras? Since most women admit to having sexual feelings at one time or another for another woman, and since the success of Katy Perry's "I Kissed a Girl," we're guessing the latter.

2. High-priced call girl. What woman hasn't considered, at least fleetingly, the possibilities of somehow making cash money in a way frowned upon by society? The illicitness, not to mention illegality, of prostitution makes for some sizzling fantasy fodder.

1. Being carried off by a sexy stranger. One need only look at the sheer volume of romance novels sold to know this one never goes out of style.

Of course, these lists and their order are huge generalizations, and don't necessarily represent every segment of society. To quote from health.discovery.com: "Some people, particularly but not solely those from rural areas, have fantasies about sexual contact with animals." But we're not even going to go there.

bunnyhunch said...

Gemma, the look on Mr. BH’s face as he read your opening post was absolutely priceless!!

Here are a few of my fantasies:

* First there was the recurring dream – not a conscious one – that I would be walking through a local grocery store with my shirt unbuttoned quite far, exposing my ample breasts, barely contained by a sexy bra. I walk around like nothing is amiss. I feel hot and aroused, but there is no sexual contact involved. I just enjoy the varied looks I get from others in the store.

I haven’t had this dream for a long time, and I assume it’s because I feel at home in my body now, large breasts and all. If someone notices, I cannot help it; it isn’t something I can hide. But I don’t show a lot of cleavage on purpose – only enough for Mr. BH.

* There is this vision of us in a resort-type setting, me pinned down in a central public area. No one is there watching; there is just the knowledge that they could if they wanted to. DH is having his way with me & I can do nothing about it. It turns me on so much that I wouldn’t care in the least if people were milling about.

* We are at an exclusive restaurant having a delicious dinner which soon becomes quite erotic. When we can’t take it anymore, we follow a matron down a secret stairwell to a series of rooms specifically designed for erotic sex – which is exactly what we proceed to have.

Being the visual person I am IRL, I have made note of the furnishings… we’ll be buying the Liberator pieces and other paraphernalia in this sex-room-of-my-dreams come fall. ; )

* Most often in my fantasies DH is standing in the corner of our room, either just watching us ML – okay, fuck (I mean, if I’m fantasizing, things are already very hot and heavy, and we’re fucking!) – or he’s videotaping our session. This is my favorite fantasy, him watching us screw. It has even happened that I see myself there, watching him watching us.

* This happened IRL recently: On a long drive, DH ordered me to go in the back of the van and M until I O’d. He’d be watching via the rearview mirror occasionally while also keeping an eye on the road. Trying to be the submissive wife, I did what I was told. ; ) But M’ing is a new thing for me, so I was nervous. He had me do this when/where there wasn’t a lot of traffic and before we hit the interstate, so it was relatively discreet, but I needed a scenario to help me get into it. The scenario: My car has broken down and I start walking down the road hoping someone will pick me up. Along comes this nice car and a tall, good-looking man stops and offers me a ride. He’s wearing a white dress shirt with the sleeves rolled up, and he looks just like my husband (he is, of course). I take him up on his offer because he appears safe. We start talking, and he tells me he will take me home, but he expects something in return. Not to worry, though, he won’t harm me and will definitely take me home as long as I do as he requests. The request: Go in the backseat where he can watch me M to an O, and make sure it happens before he picks up his wife & kids from a softball game. Nothing like pressure. But he’s a good-looking, nice guy (& my husband IRL) so I oblige. Only we both end up enjoying it so much I go back to his house with them to a special room. There, his wife enjoys watching our fun, too, and she films it.

This fantasy comes to mind pretty often, actually. I’m not sure if I ever get home, but I always have good time. After all, I’m actually getting it on with DH. The downside of this one is that I cannot seem to get the ‘other wife’ out of the picture (I think it's because she adds a lot to the dialogue), and I cannot make her be me. I don’t want anyone else in our MB, so I’ll have to work on it. The camera idea is no problem, in fact, DH actually did capture my O on video – yes, while driving, but he was just aiming the camera where he hoped would be effective. It was. ; ) At some point, we will probably follow through with this fantasy – sans the ‘other wife’, of course!

bunnyhunch said...

Fantasies I'd love to have happen: DH & I following through any of the scenarios talked about on the bondage thread. Ooo, baby! All in good time...

Thank you sooo much Soblessed, Mark, & Gemma!!!!!

Ancient Mariner said...

Gemma:
I tried posting a comment, but it may not have made it through. Here is it. If you have already discarded the previous one, just disregard this.

A lot of the fantasies involve exhibitionism, but have all been written from the perspective of the protagonists. While erotic, it can also be arousing to be a witness, so I will use your alley fantasy as a jumping-off point.

We see you being dragged into an alley, and follow the two of you. You are standing in the alley, bracing yourself with your arms against a wall. You are bent slightly at the waist, with your dress hiked up around your hips. Your legs are slightly parted, framing your pussy. Your husband is behind you, with his legs between yours. He drops his pants, and although his motions suggest urgency, he pushes against your vulva slowly, forcing his way in gingerly because you are not yet fully lubricated. As the head of his penis opens your pussy lips, you moan and start pushing against him. Once he is fully in, he fucks you rough and hard, using your body to sate his lust. With a final thrust, he finishes inside you. He pulls out, and we see his cum dribbling out and running down your thighs. He quickly uses his hand to catch most of it, and, while feeding his semen to you with one hand, he smears the last drops on your crotch with the other.

It seems to us, from the contented glazed expression on your face, that you have been well-used by your master, and have loved it. In the process, you have given us an unforgettable show.

Gemma said...

Mark 9:24: "Gemma,

Tell GR for me that I think her hit a Home Run with the Alley fantasy and a Triple Play for getting 'er done! ;-)"

Will do, Mark. He's a slow one for coming up with ideas but when he does, they're good ones.

Gemma said...

Interesting article, Mark. And this is why I'm not afraid of fantasies that I would never act out. I noticed in several of the fantasies that the author lists, he adds comments such as, "Best left un-acted upon". We have to have enough brains, common sense, morals to know which fantasies are OK to en-act and which aren't. It's when people don't use their brains that they get into trouble crossing over from en-acting healthy fantasies to en-acting unhealthy ones. Just like fantasizing about exhibitionism is fun for me but I'd never do it in IRL.

So people, use your brains. Don't be en-acting fantasies that will end up ruining your marriage. Talk things over with your spouse and, together, draw a line of what's acceptable and what's not and then don't cross the line. Then you can enjoy your fantasy fun :-), guilt-free!

Gemma said...

Bunnyhunch, looks like you are also a bit attracted to exhibitionism. I think this is more common even among Christian wives than most wives or their husbands are willing to admit. I even wonder if it might be accurate to say that most Christian wives do think about exhibitionism at least occasionally although most are ashamed to admit it for fear of being labeled a "bad girl". Well, I know I have a "bad girl" side to me. I try to embrace it and I have no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed about it. This is me!

Gemma said...

Ancient Marina, you have a way with words! I could picture myself living through the fantasy all over again as I was reading your description. I can't imagine why anyone would not like fantasies!

job29man said...

" Gemma said...

Interesting article, Mark. And this is why I'm not afraid of fantasies that I would never act out."

I actually am afraid of fantasies that I would never act out. To me a fantasy is meant to be acted upon, or at least planned for action. I suppose this is why my fantasies never involve us being spied by anyone else, etc.

So I have disciplined my mind to "not go there" with the forbidden fruit fantasies. Too dangerous for me. So my fantasies are not as wild as many here.

OTOH we probably have a much wilder actual experience in acting my fantasies out than many conservative Christian couples. This provides me with plenty of erotic memories and "pictures for my mental rolodex", that keep me satisfied for a long time.

For me... if I'm fantasizing it, I'm planning it for real life.

Gemma said...

Know thyself! That's how I feel about this, Job. Each of us have to go with whatever works for us and avoid what we know would harm us. And, yes, your acted out fantasies are wilder than some ;-).

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Hey So Blessed,
Took a few days thinking before getting back to your post :

"Tell us a little about your DH's sexual likes. Does he like to be assertive? Like for you to "take" him? Like for you to dress sexy at home? Like for you to go out sexy in public? What scenarios seem to start his engines?"

Although I am very open with my sexuality on this site, I am not going to discuss in detail what he likes/dislikes as I do not take liberties like that with my husband. He is ultra private about himself.

I will take all of your questions, and present them to him and begin to act out his answers...Voila, I will find out what makes a fantasy for him and become his ideal woman. I'm salivating already !! Thank you for the inspiration ;-)

job29man said...

Gemma,

I agree with you. I don't have the liberty to go mentally where others go, but have the liberty to live out things that others wouldn't try I suppose.

I respect those here who have the strength to imagine more lucidly than I.

so blessed said...

HisWildCherry 46 -

No problem there. Here is why I asked: If you want to encourage your DH to fantasize about you, one way to do that is to figure out what sexual ideas really get him going, and then help him build a fantasy around that idea.

For example, suppose he would really like to see you in a bikini at a resort. As you start to ML some night, you start the idea rolling. (A wonderful position is WOT, with you lying down, upper body slid a bit to one side so that your head is resting on his shoulder; comfortable for a longer session and great for sexy whispers in his ear!)

As you are stroking slowly on him, you set the stage, and give him a seed to start on. "Honey help me build a fantasy. Suppose we had a week to spend on the beach in Jamaica. When we got there, I decided I wanted a new bathing suit, so we went to the hotel shop. I looked at all the regular kind, but didn't see anything I liked. They all just covered so much.

And then I found them: a whole rack of the hottest, skimpiest thong bikinis we had ever seen. "What do you think," I asked you. "You wouldn't dare!" you said. "Watch me," I replied. I picked out one in (his favorite color on you) and handed it to you. "I want this one; will you go buy it for me, please?" When you picked your jaw up off the floor, you paid for it and we went to our room. What did we do then, honey?

And you allow him to pick up from there. As he begins to build on your idea, of course you encourage him on; if he stalls out you can start him again, and then allow him to continue again.

You could do this with anything that turns him on, especially things that are too wild for you all to actually do. And it is wonderful when you get so excited that you can't make it to the end of the story and you both explode midway. Cause then you come back to it again another night: "Hey, remember where we were? I had been out on the beach all day in that little thong and then I put on that really short skirt for you and we went to dinner. After dinner we went to walk on the beach in the dark. What happened out there, honey? What did you do to me?" And you are off on Chapter Two (or Three, or Four, but you get the idea!)

Just find his turn-ons, start building a scene around them, and let him take it and run with it. I think he will get the hang of fantasizing about you pretty quickly! Good luck!

bunnyhunch said...

Gemma: Bunnyhunch, looks like you are also a bit attracted to exhibitionism.
DH has commented on that for a long time. While there may seem to be some truth to it, IRL I would never want anyone to watch, of course.

After reading your opening post, I realized something else we have in common: enjoying the fantasy of our husbands taking total control of what will happen - it is 100% about what THEY want/desire, and we are used for THEIR pleasure. Now, I don't have any desire for humiliation (as in the 'disobedient whore' sign), but the thought of DH using my body to satiate his own carnal desires without regard to what might make me feel good - I could handle that once in awhile, even if it got a little rough 'n raunchy. We do often have sex that is focused on what he wants or needs, but in my fantasies, he goes farther... which of course turns me on even more. That might not be worded well enough, but do you know what I mean? I'd love for him to be totally selfish sometime.

We are still fairly new to this awakening thing. While I needed to be free sexually, we both were pretty naive. (What? We can do THAT?) We're just not as far along as many of you. Mr. BH'll get there! I'm sure there's a selfish bone in there somewhere! ;)

bunnyhunch said...

JobMan: For me... if I'm fantasizing it, I'm planning it for real life.

I have never been concerned about whether anything gets acted upon; mine are generally visualizations during sex, not of IRL scenes to be played out later. DH says he doesn't fantasize. That said, maybe he just gives it a different term. He has mentioned several times that he thinks it'd be fun if I put on a lot of makeup and a sleazy/slinky outfit and pretended to be someone else. Guess that covers both the 'sex with a stranger' and 'role-playing' mentioned in the article Mark submitted. He fantasizes after all!

Maybe I should suggest he have one about a back alley somewhere...

SoBlessed, I like the suggestion you gave HWC. Could be useful here, too.

Gemma said...

bunnyhunch quoted Gemma to say: "Bunnyhunch, looks like you are also a bit attracted to exhibitionism."

bunnyhunch replied with: "While there may seem to be some truth to it, IRL I would never want anyone to watch, of course."

That's what I meant.. that you seem to have a bit of attraction to exhibitionism in your fantasies. That's how it is for me, only in my fantasies.

so blessed said...

Hi Bunnyhunch -

Was reading your posts and thought this idea might work for you all:

When you have a few extra dollars for a night out, put on the extra makeup and a moderately slinky outfit that you would be okay with in public. Go to a hotel bar and find yourself a seat. DH comes in separately, sees you, asks if he can join you (like strangers). After small talk and drinks are finished, he asks if you are available. When you agree, he slips you a room key and leaves alone. You go to his room a few minutes later, and he does the totally selfish, rough 'n raunchy with you.

And if you build this fantasy during sex as I mentioned above, you get several HOT nights from the one idea. Maybe some variation of this idea would work for you all!

Hiswildcherry46 said...

'morning So Blessed,
Thank you so much and thx for not getting offended.

Your scenario is wonderful. I could literally see myself playing that picture out with my darling. I will begin to frame my man's mind towards me, slowly but steadily.

I have found that whatever I set myself to, I usually succeed therefore this is a new challenge for me. Being all the woman my man could ever want: His wild cherry!

I am also realizing that in spite of my insecurities about my figure not being what I would like it to be, he thinks I am beautiful.

Learning how to be a sassy woman for my man is taking everything I have got but I am loving the results so far ;-) It all begins in the head for both of us.

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Hey Gemma and Bunnyhunch,

I have to join you girls in the ranks of really wanting my man to literally just 'take me' and use/eat me all up!
I find the thought of him using me 'over the top' regarding fantasies.

I have begun to give him permission to have his way with me. The light he gets in his eyes tells me he is close to losing it and I long for the day.

Does this mean he would ever hurt me? The very reason I can even consider letting him go for it is that we have 24 years of marriage together and he has NEVER even said a nasty thing to me. My man truly adores me so I feel safe giving him freedom with my body.

I can't wait for the day when he just takes control of me and f..ks the daylights out of me. I'm smiling just thinking of the bliss.

Zinnia said...

Dh and I actually found a secluded beach once and started making out on a blanket. Just the thought that we were out there in the open and everything turned us on so much that we ended up going all the way with it. When we were finished, dh looks up at the beach houses behind us and says, "was that man there on the porch chair before?" I could have died. Sure enough, there was one lone man, sitting on his deck in a chair watching us. That was not a fantasy of mine because if I had known he was there, I could never have relaxed enough to enjoy it but afterwards, it was pretty funny.
Also, once after we bought a few acres of land to build a house on, we had a date night. Decided to go to our land and make out in the van. But it was all wooded so we basically had to park at the edge of the property beside the woods. But it is a deadend street and very quiet. We are going at it and a cop pulls up. Shines his bright light in the windows, asks dh what is going on. To which dh says, "I am making love to my wife on my property". The guy says, "well you need to pull a little further in because the preacher that lives across the street has called and reported you." Again, I just about died of embarrassment. For one thing the cop's comment about pulling further in was a non-intended pun that just cracked me up and secondly, to think that preacher was going to be my new neighbor. thankfully, he left that church and parsonage before we finished our house and the new preacher knows nothing about it.
that time we were just acting out a "fantasy" of ML in the car at our land and actually got caught. it was kind of thrilling afterwards.

Hiswildcherry46 said...

Zinnia,
Between the old codger getting his rocks off watching the two of you and the preacher ragging on you to the cops, I was beside myself with laughter.

My ire against hypocritical religiosity was appeased with a good belly laugh imagining what the window voyeur had to say to his undersexed wifey, if he had one! Way too funny. Thank you for making my day ;-)

Gemma said...

Well, we do not really know if the preacher-neighbor's wife was undersexed. Perhaps the man just was not at all into voyeurism ;-).

herlover said...

To Zinnia:

I loved your stories about the beach and your private lot. But in my opinion, you should not be embarrassed. Hold your head up high and be proud that your DH and you had this wonderful experience. I hope you have many more fantasies that "come true". Maybe the guy watching at the beach will be inspired to make something wonderful happen with his DW!

bunnyhunch said...

From Mark: 10. Domination/submission. Bondage and sex slave fantasies are popular scenarios. However, since most guys are too lazy to learn how to tie a proper knot, there's little need to worry about coming home to find ropes tied to the bedposts.
DH has the rope-tying down pat; he’s a good Scout. ;) In his words, “But what do I do next?” I think he gets stymied partly because when I am tied I he is on his own; I cannot directly respond in the manner he is used to. We’ve tried it a few times, though, and what we’ve done has been good. Fantasizing ahead of time and together to come up with a scenario just might be the key, though. Maybe beginning the story while we’re out to dinner together some evening would be a good idea. SOON.

SB to HWC: You could do this with anything that turns him on, especially things that are too wild for you all to actually do. And it is wonderful when you get so excited that you can't make it to the end of the story and you both explode midway. Cause then you come back to it again another night: "Hey, remember where we were? I had been out on the beach all day in that little thong and then I put on that really short skirt for you and we went to dinner. After dinner we went to walk on the beach in the dark. What happened out there, honey? What did you do to me?" And you are off on Chapter Two (or Three, or Four, but you get the idea!)

Just find his turn-ons, start building a scene around them, and let him take it and run with it. I think he will get the hang of fantasizing about you pretty quickly!

(BWG on Mr. BH’s face.) DH gets it; we could do this, too.

SB: When you have a few extra dollars for a night out, put on the extra makeup and a moderately slinky outfit that you would be okay with in public. Go to a hotel bar and find yourself a seat. DH comes in separately, sees you, asks if he can join you (like strangers). After small talk and drinks are finished, he asks if you are available. When you agree, he slips you a room key and leaves alone. You go to his room a few minutes later, and he does the totally selfish, rough 'n raunchy with you.

And if you build this fantasy during sex as I mentioned above, you get several HOT nights from the one idea. Maybe some variation of this idea would work for you all!

Thank you, SB, for the suggestion. Yes, we can do this. I can see preparing for the role all afternoon and getting totally into it.

We’ve talked a little about a similar scenario, but somehow seeing it in writing and by another man lends more credence to the idea for DH. Thanks, SB, from both of us.

so blessed said...

Bunnyhunch wrote: "Thanks, SB, from both of us."

You're welcome; my pleasure! Er...I mean your pleasure...I mean, um . . . anyway you all have fun with it! ;-)

job29man said...
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job29man said...

My fantasies are typically ones that I actually act upon IRL. Remember my "Shoe Salesman" fantasy in May? Well this is kind of a "Phase II" to that.

There is usually the combined themes of danger, yet not really danger, male dominance, and the risk of exposure, without ever getting exposed. There seems to often be oral sex or at least DW consuming some semen....

My fantasy starts on a Saturday morning when DW and I have a weekly "bath date". We start the day with a bath. In the tub we shave each other's privates and then I shave her legs and underarms. Part of my "dominance" fantasy is that I "don't permit her" to shave her own body, but she must come to me to request it, or wait till Saturday when I just do it anyway. DW has indulged me in this fantasy for over a year and I think it is now no longer a fantasy but a very fun and erotic reality.

Anyway I shave her, then dry her, brush out her hair the way I like it, apply "naughty message" temporary tattoos to her butt, breasts, and vulva areas, as well as a colorful "barbed wire and roses" tattoo around one of her ankles. Then I dress her in clothes of my choosing, a bra with the tips cut out so her nipples poke through, no panties (commando!), a pretty and very feminine dress that's several inches shorter than her usual length. Finally, the coup de gras, the shoes she bought from that "shoe salesman" back in May. The shoes with the big spike heel and the straps that climb up around her ankles like three times. The shoes she called "F**k me shoes".

I take her to a "not to far away" tourist city that has a riverwalk. We are driving the van, and I have installed curtains in the back. It is a nice summer morning and I park where there are crowds walking by the van, all oblivious to us. The van windows are open but no one can see in because of the curtains. I order her into the back onto a mattress their. i hike up her dress and start using a loud vibrator on her. She stifles her moans. We can hear people talking, but they make nothing of the sound of the vibrator on the busy city street. She Os. Then I ride her hard and the van rocks a bit. Afterwards I do not permit her to "clean up". We climb out the back doors and step up onto the sidewalk where I watch as the semen dribbles down her leg. I kind of shield her from the crowds just in case anyone would notice. No one does. They are wrapped up in their own worlds.

The dribble goes all the way down one leg and over the straps of the "F**k me!" shoes. There remains a pretty good bit of it there, and I'm concerned that it'd be noticeable so I bend over and wipe it off with my finger, stand up and put it to her lips. She licks off my finger.

Then we go for a walk while the semen starts to dry and "crust over" on her leg and shoe straps. We stop at cafes and restaurants, window shop and such. At one point she positions herself sitting across from me where I can see all the people, but she is facing away from them. She does the big "Basic Instinct leg cross thing" and I get a "free show" that knocks me out.

Some folks may think "eeeewwww". To me this is A+ erotic! I'm planning to do it this summmer.

Mark 9:24 said...

(Catching up on posts)

bunnyhunch,

I just read your fantasies and they are good!

Ancient Mariner,

Great "repost" of Gemma's fantasy but from the point of view of a watcher. I love it!

Gemma,

Concerning the article I posted. I'm a bit like you in that I can fantasize about something that know I would never do even if given the “opportunity” to get away with it. “Best left un-acted upon” as the author said and you pointed out.

Job29Man
I can see why you do not want to entertain fantasies that you would never act out since you're goal is to have fantasies that you can.
Your post on TMB where you and your DW had sex in an intersection at night has become one of my fantasies that I fully intend on fulfilling one day. Thank you very much for posting about it! I also like that last one you posted here. Very hot! I'd love to do something like that with my DW someday.

And all you ladies who want your husbands to take over and use you for their pleasure I applaud you!

Mark 9:24