Thursday, May 7, 2009

Why do husbands enjoy having their fingers licked and sucked by their wife?

Often, before during or even after sex GR likes to play with my mouth with 1-2 fingers, slip them into my mouth and watch me lick and suck on them. It is obvious from the look on his face that he loves doing this, that it is a turn-on for him, and I equally enjoy having his fingers in my mouth that way. (Heck, he could put most anything in my mouth and I'd enjoy licking and sucking it.)

Men, do you enjoy this type of play, watching your wife lick and suck your fingers? Or do some of you wives enjoy licking and sucking on your man's fingers? Why do men enjoy this? Talk to me about the appeal. I understand that it is a turn-on but why? What does it do for you guys?

22 comments:

inquisitivesensitive said...

my husband goes wild if i get a hold of one of his fingers in my mouth.... to the point where he says, "Ok...we gotta calm down!" (if in the car or another public place). I have no idea why it affects him so much. My only thought is that it is like a visual of me giving him oral and he is fantasizing about it ??? I'm interested to see what others say!

Gemma said...

So you take your dh's fingers? It's a little different with us in that my dh gently shoves his fingers in my mouth and then enjoys watching what I do to them.

Anonymous said...

Too funny. My dh loves, loves it when his fingers are in my mouth or even if it just take his hand like I am going to kiss it and give it a little lick instead. Total turn on. He has started putting them in my mouth, too. I had no idea this would be such a turn on...is it just simulating oral?

Mark 9:24 said...

I know that I like it.
The feel of her lips and her tounge licking and sucking and swirling.

It's like the promise of things to come.

Mark

jesusgrl said...

Hi Gemma,
I found your site on TMB. You are so inspirational!!!

My husband was doing the finger sucking thing to me one night and a light bulb went off in my head that I wanted to do oral on him. This was the first time I ever performed OS. I hadn't previously thought those kinds of thoughts but the licking of the fingers stimulated something in my brain...

Gemma said...

jesusgrl, were you sucking his fingers or he was sucking yours? I wasn't clear on that.

hismilkmaid said...

I think part of it the sensitive nerve endings; kind of like reading brail along the ridges of your tongue and teeth.

Yet, I agree with everyone else that the big part is probably the idea of OS. If we stop at a connivance store I will buy a chocolate Tootsie Pop sucker. I lusciously lick and suck on it, making pleasurable sounds.

All I have to do now is lay out a Chocolate Tootsie Pop out where he can see it, and he chases me down. lol.

I can even put my own finger in my mouth and slowly pull it out while he is watching. It all drives him crazy.

so blessed said...

Hmm - must say, this is something we haven't gotten into yet.

Note to self . . .

bunnyhunch said...

Yet, I agree with everyone else that the big part is probably the idea of OS. If we stop at a connivance store I will buy a chocolate Tootsie Pop sucker. I lusciously lick and suck on it, making pleasurable sounds.

Tootsie Pops are now on the top of the grocery list. I think DH will get the idea pretty quickly!

I think the finger sucking has two things going for it: 1. It definitely mimics OS on him and 2. The squishy, moist interior of a mouth might remind him of a vagina (minus the teeth, of course!)

When I am on top of DH and he puts his fingers in my mouth, it adds more stimulation for both of us, like doing two sex acts simultaneously. It also helps me stay quieter when necessary. ;)

Gemma said...

so blessed said: "Hmm - must say, this is something we haven't gotten into yet. Note to self . . ."

What? Something on the kinky side that 'so blessed' hasn't tried yet?

so blessed said...

Just goes to show that there is alway something new to learn if you are committed to a lifetime of pleasuring each other.

K - k - k - kinky? U - u - u - us? Oh goodness.
Guess we have been a little bit adventurous over the years ;)

Gemma said...

Yes, kinky! I am proud to be my dh's whore and I am proud that we lean towards kinkiness in our MB. Where the title with pride ;-).

so blessed said...

I totally agree. The adventure has been a tremendous blessing to our MB, for sure.

And by the way, I have seen you get called on it now and then, but I love your use / definition of the word "whore." We have totally co-opted that term for our MB as well. It expresses perfectly what dw is for me. GR and I are equally blessed!

Gemma said...

Oh, my... my spelling!!!! I meant to say, "Wear (not where) the title with pride."

Yes, I regularly get called on it for saying that I am my dh's whore. Wives tell me, "How degrading! Why would you want to be called a whore?" Husbands tell me, "My wife would NEVER allow me to call her "my whore". To both husbands and wives I say--- Choose whatever words or names that work for you and don't worry about the words I use. It's not about which words you use. It's about using the words that work to enhance your MB.

midwestman said...

Hmmm, we suck on a lot of things but fingers isn't one of them. Not particularly enticing to me at this moment, but if you all like it, why go for it!

mwm

Mark 9:24 said...

gemma wrote:
so blessed said: "Hmm - must say, this is something we haven't gotten into yet. Note to self . . ."What? Something on the kinky side that 'so blessed' hasn't tried yet?
That must mean that it's not kinky! Just plain old vanilla sex play. ;-)

Mark

bunnyhunch said...

If we stop at a connivance store I will buy a chocolate Tootsie Pop sucker. I lusciously lick and suck on it, making pleasurable sounds.

I tried a Tootsie Pop thing today while we were driving. It was fun, but DH laughed and said it would be more effective if I was wearing my new stilettos, a pearl necklace, and a garter belt/hose. (He will be quite surprised, as he doesn't know I have a garter belt & hose yet.) I will hold aside one Tootsie Pop for the next time he takes me out for a nice dinner. Can't wait! It will be VERY soon, whether he knows it or not.

Thanks for the suggestion, HMM!

Gemma said...

Whatever floats your boat, ladies :-). Sucking/licking on Tootsie Pops doesn't do a thing for my dh and me.

bunnyhunch said...

Sucking/licking on Tootsie Pops doesn't do a thing for my dh and me.It doesn't do it for DH, either, which was really his point. It isn't about the T-P, it's about the rest. In stilettos, etc., I could put anything in my mouth I want (or nothing) & he'll get turned on.

For HMM, it's become a symbol of what is to come.

hiswildcherry said...

Tootsie pops did not do a thing for my man when I mentioned the concept.
Finger licking and sucking of each others thumbs has been a cute and fun part of either foreplay or during our lovemaking.
The first time he put his fingers into my mouth was a huge turn on for me so yes, we love to do this and have not purposely tried to include it, just as the moment takes us;-)
Does this remind us both of orally pleasing each other...of course, which is why it is such an intimate play act.

hismilkmaid said...

LOL... I didn't explain it all.

After the first time, the Tootsie Pop is then used when there is no way I could suck on his finger... like when others are with us in the car. He always gives me his sexy laugh. We both think it is funny now.

I can now just flash him the sucker from my pocket as I come out of the store. I don't have to suck on it any more, because he know this means, "I want you!" He is usually pumping gas and the children are in the car when I show it to him. All the way home he knows I just said, "Meet me in the bedroom ASAP."

I can leave one on his desk at work, on his dash, on the kitchen counter, etc as a love note... Yes, it is a promise of what's to come.
The chocolate flavor of the tootsie pop has it's own message that we also associate with sex. Like an inside joke, but not a joke... a message that only we know what we are saying... our little secrets.

luvmygirls said...

I love when my bride sucks and licks my fingers. It is obviously an imaginative representation to the men of their phallic members and their wives playing with them orally. My wife makes it a point to look my right in the eyes as she does this.

On the other side, when we kiss, she sucks my tongue sometimes, but goes crazy when I gently lick her lips, or scoop the roof of her mouth right behind her front teeth or gently lick at the corner of her mouth at the end of a tongue-probe. To me, it's telling her what I'd like to do, and to her, it's telling her what I would like to do and the skill with which I can do it. I'm not bragging to anyone, but I'll just say I have certainly become proficient and we both enjoy the results of my practice.

So to see and feel my wife suck and lick my fingers (or for her to "take" a breadstick deep before pulling it out to bite the end off) makes her giggle at my response.

Where'd she go? "HEY, SWEET! I'VE GOT A QUESTION! BABE?!..."