Monday, May 11, 2009

Are you sometimes preoccupied on work mornings where you jump out of bed too soon?

What do you think of this, folks? I am a SAHM and GR works M-F. He is an early riser but every once in a while he will not wake up super early on a work day and he will tell me that he needs to get in the shower. On glancing at the clock, though, I can see that he has time for a quickie so I proceed to arouse him. He does not resist, of course, and thoroughly enjoys the quickie. I guess I am wondering if this is typical morning behavior for working guys.

Do many of you guys (or husbands of you gals) feel rushed and preoccupied on some work mornings with getting work thoughts organized that a morning romp does not enter your thoughts? This has not caused problems for us since, when GR does not initiate I do, but I am curious to learn if others deal with this on work mornings.

It was kind of funny this morning when this same scenario unfolded and we had quickie sex. GR entered me from the front and he O'd. Often he will O a second time so I flipped over, he entered from behind and O'd a second time. I told him, "See, if you had jumped out of bed you would have missed your two O's!" He replied with a satisfied smile, "You are right!"

18 comments:

Odo said...

Dearest gemma...as I've said before...whatever you are feeding him...I WANT THE RECIPE!!!!!!!!! If you guys are in your 50s...I WANT THE RECIPE! You got him to double-O??? Sheesh!

Yes, in our younger days, occasionally rising for early work...something else had "risen" and we would take quick advantage of it. Helped show up for work in a better attitude! LOL!

luvmygirls said...

We never have sex on work mornings. Sometimes I wish we did, even if it was a rare occurrence. My bride gets up before me and has difficulty getting out of bed because of her joint and muscle pain, then gets straight into getting ready. Last night we were both ready to go, but we held off so she/we could get to sleep. In a way I don't like that, but at the same time I fully understand our situation. If either of us thought we could get back to sleep after a 2am quickie, we'd do it. Instead we would spend the rest of the night awake and waiting for the alarm to go off. Stupid insomnia.

Gemma said...

Odo said: "You got him to double-O???"

He decided on having two O's. All I did was provide the means. If we're going to have sex and he wants a second or third O, why not? We help each other O until we can't O any more.

Gemma said...

LMG,

What time do you guys get to bed? I'm only asking because we make a habit of getting to bed early as often as possible. It's not uncommon for us to head off to bed between 8- 9pm. This allows us time for sex before we have to go to sleep OR..... if we're too tired at night for sex we still try to get to bed early and then we wake up at 4am instead of at 5. If we're in bed from 8-9pm until 4am, it's enough time for us to get our sleep in and have time for morning sex.

Believe me, I understand waking up with pain. Most mornings I wake with arthritis pain in my back but morning sex takes the pain right out of me.

Anonymous said...

After he fucked you and O'd, did he take time to bring you to orgasm? I ask because there are times in the morning when I have wanted DW, but have refrained because I did not have time to make sure she O'd. She loves to O, and I love reducing her to a quaking, moaning heap of womanflesh. It wouldn't have felt right leaving her high and dry.

Gemma said...

My dh helps me O anytime I want or need to O. My personal preference, though, is to live in a state of arousal so I purposely DO NOT O every time we fuck. This always keeps me in a sexually hungry mode.

But in answer to your question-- Yesterday morning I did not O. Our quickie time then was all about me rocking his world before he walked out the door to head for work.

IMHO-- Nobody should ever refrain from initiating sex out of a lack of time for both spouses to get everything they want out of the session. Just enjoy each and every opportunity; don't waste them.

I didn't O yesterday morning but I O'd the session before that and I O'd last night. This morning GR O'd twice again and I did not O because I didn't want to O. He didn't leave me high and dry this morning. It was a good fuck for me even without the O. I'll say it again-- Don't waste opportunities. Being sexually deprived for a few hours or a day can be highly erotic for some of us wives.

midwestman said...

I've said it before and I'll say it again. Your Dh has an amazingly short recovery time. Even in my younger days, 20-30 minutes was the least I needed. I know there are tradeoffs to everything, but I envy my DW when I can make her O 3-5 times within 10-15 minutes. I'd settle for two in 15 minutes...

mwm

Gemma said...

I envy your wife, too, mwm :-). I can't O 3-5x in 10-15 min. She's a lucky gal.

bunnyhunch said...

We both have schedules that are usually flexible enough to allow us time for a morning romp now and then. Regardless of which one of us initiates, I am usually not energetic enough in the morning to go for an O myself, but I always do what I can to help DH get his. I always want to satisfy him first, and am happy to save mine for later. It is good to know he will leave for work a happy, satisfied man!

Being sexually deprived for a few hours or a day can be highly erotic for some of us wives.I agree with you, Gemma, that depriving ourselves for a time can be highly erotic. DH and I make sure it is even more so by often having sexual play throughout the day via phone, e-mail, or visits home.

This week, we are abstaining from having sex at all in order to heighten our experience when we go away for a couple of days next week. Right now we’re thinking this idea is absurd and d%$F frustrating!!! I’m having difficulty finding the deprivation erotic when everything’s out of whack!

Gemma said...

I hear ya on the week long sexual deprivation, BH. GR and I experienced that the week after my January surgery and it was a 'killer'. Prior to surgery I asked the surgeon how soon I could resume intimacy with my dh and he told me that asa I felt up to it, would be fine. Although my body was healing from the surgery that first week I wanted it as much as GR did but it wasn't until the beginning of the second week, that I felt ready to resume. When we finally had sex it felt like it had been an eternity.

I completely understand how frustrating it must be for a high-SD spouse to only have sex maybe 1-2 times a week because the low-SD, gatekeeper spouse thinks their spouse should be happy with that frequency.

It would be like the low-SD spouse receiving *emotional attention* from their spouse only once or twice a week. Picture this-- A how-SD spouse complains about lack of intimate conversation and the high-SD spouse replies, "But honey, we just talked that way 3 or 4 days ago. Do you have to be so needy? It seems like you only want me around for talking and it makes me feel used. Don't you think you could live with once or twice a week? If you exercised a little self-control, you could be happy with that." I wonder how that would fly in their relationship... if the high-SD spouse would be the emotional gatekeeper?

Guy Average said...

We work at home together, so when we have some work obligation thst means we have to hit the office as soon as we wake up, then we try to make up for it during the day somehow. This is not always easy since we also homeschool our children, but we have found creative ways to do it. Sometimes we wait until one or the other of us has to go out to a client office and then we have phone sex, or sometimes we will both slip into the basement while the children are doing their seatowrk once the deadline for work is met and engage in some oral or mutual handjob action. Sometimes she will dress in way that can be revealing if I stand over her shoulder or to her side while conferring together and she will tease me while I compliment her and flirt with her, and sometimes I'll send her an email letting her know what I'd do to get into her sexy shirt, and we play and tease that way until we can do something about it.

jimmy said...

Man, I wake up 9 mornings out of 10 with a hard on and would love for DW to join me for some morning lovin. But it almost never happens. 7 years of marriage and, not counting our honeymoon, morning sex has happened maybe 3 or 4 times.

Before I corrupted her she was a morning person. Now she takes after me and wants to sleep as late as she can. Being a SAHM means she gets to sleep much later than I do.

I should have never introduced her to the pleasure of sleeping late in the morning! HAH!

Gemma said...

Is somebody staying up too late at night? ;-) You want to turn things around? Try establishing an earlier bedtime, maybe 8-9pm. If you get to bed early at night, you get a "2-for"-- more morning sex and more night sex. Going to bed early causes us to want night sex to help us sleep AND... has us waking each other up early in the morning because we're horny, often before the alarm even rings.

Oh, and I'm not a morning person at all but I'll wake up for sex before dh goes to work. I'd rather wake up early than miss morning sex.

bunnyhunch said...

Before I corrupted her she was a morning person. Now she takes after me and wants to sleep as late as she can. Being a SAHM means she gets to sleep much later than I do.Sounds like she can have her cake and eat it, too! Wake her for a little morning sex and then let her go back to sleep for awhile. I'll bet she'll have a smile on her face and a nice lift in her walk the rest of her day!

Anonymous said...

How offensive that you would allow someone to use the F word on your blog!

Gemma said...

I'm sorry that you find use of the f-word offensive on my blog. But when I began this blog I determined, then, not to censor my readers words unless I found them to be terribly insulting or obnoxious in nature. Use of the f-word does not fall into either of those categories for me. It's just a word and it's not being used in an insulting way. If it were, I would not have published it.

Again, I'm sorry you feel this way and would love for you to stick around my blog but I'm not going to eliminate sexual words to keep you here.

Have a good weekend!

Gemma

Anonymous said...

Well it does take nerve to use the F word on someone's blog. So I'd say it was obnoxious. Typing it out is not a slip of the tongue. Really it could have been abbreviated or something. Or bleeped.

I guess I would find it disrespectful to say it on someone's blog, bedroom, yes (I guess lol); blog no. But that's just my opinion. :-)

Gemma said...

No, I'm quite sure it wasn't a slip of the tongue. But, really, if it had bothered me I wouldn't have "published" his comment.