Wednesday, April 22, 2009

A Reader's Favorites List

Here is a favorite topic list from another reader. She wrote:

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*Location, outdoors & in. Any nature lovers out there?
*Favorite scenarios or rendezvous.
*When one has grown up (& spent a good deal of married life) thinking of sex in terms of what's NOT okay, at what point do we finally decide we've gone far enough as far as what's right? My DH is marvelously uninhibited; I not as much, but I'm working hard on it. It would be great to feel completely free.
*Sexy pre-tryst meals. We've certainly found that the great dinners in the right setting can really boost the desire level. Have others found that to be true as well? What are some suggestions?
*More discussions on useful books.
*Biggest turn-ons for a man, or at least some new ideas I could try for my DH.

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Ideas? Suggestions? Comments?

11 comments:

RaT Babies said...

Biggest turn on for a guy???
Easy....we are visual creatures ;)

Me, I'm into details, so give me details of what you're plans are, what you want & how you want it.

Our minds have an amazing capability to fixate on one thing & one thing only. But, having said that I'm not a mind reader.

If my wife is prepared to ask me what I want, well...

The same applies to me, if she asks something of me, then I will do everything in my power to make it happen.

New ideas, what are the old ones?

Gemma said...

Hi Rat Babies- Question- What do you mean when you say, "New Ideas, what are the old ones?" It might be obvious but my brain's not clicking with it.

midwestman said...

Nature lover - yes! We've ML twice outdoors and I loved it! DW not so much as she is apprehensive about being seen. Mind you, this was back in the woods, OUR woods, but she was still nervous and most likely didn't enjoy it as much as I. However, I am always game for an outdoor adventure!

What's too far? IMHO, too far is when whatever you are doing is not acceptable to the other person. As long as you both agree on the activity (and it's not bringing someone else into the marriage bed - which includes porn), I don't believe that you can do anything "wrong".

Biggest turn on's. Hmmm. 1) Enthusiasm! 2) Enthusiasm! 3) Enthusiasm! OK, you get the point:) Moving on to actual things...telling me what she would like to do to me later - explicitly. Being an initiator. Being agressive in her love making. Trying something new. Talking to me while we are f****ing how much she wants me in there and to give it to her harder. Verbal encouragement during the act is a real turn on to me. DW has never been real verbal especially the closer she gets to an O, so when she does, it sends me over the top :)

We really don't do pre-sex meals, just not our thing. However, about 3-4 years ago we did a "Sex weekend", following the plan in the book "Great Sex Weekend" (it was a blast, btw, and I would highly reccomend it). Well, part of the weekend is that you do not have sex of any kind for a week before (in fact they even encourage you to not see each other naked!). Well, for us it was two weeks of no sex as the week previous was her P week. So by the time we got going on the weekend, we were both as horny as a roomful of rabbits! According to the plan, you could not have sex until 6pm the first day of the weekend. We left home in the morning and drove to our hotel, then spent the day trying to find things to do until 6, all the while just burning to get back to the room. About 4 we ate dinner at Pizza Hut. Well, let me tell you, that was the most sex charged meal I've ever had - we couldn't even concentrate on the meal! We ended up deciding to leave early and so "cheated" by about an hour. It was well worth the cheat :) We had some amazing sex!

mwm

Gemma said...

mwm, I would worry about snakes and bugs over worrying about people seeing us, lol.

Expressing anticipation over thoughts of the main event happening is hot both ways. Just like my dh loves to hear me desiring to be fucked, I also like to see and hear him go crazy with anticipating passion. Knowing that your spouse desperately needs to do you and be done, is always a huge turn on, isn't it?

bunnyhunch said...

MWM: Nature lover - yes! We've ML twice outdoors and I loved it! DW not so much as she is apprehensive about being seen. Mind you, this was back in the woods, OUR woods, but she was still nervous and most likely didn't enjoy it as much as I. However, I am always game for an outdoor adventure!Only twice? The way I see it, if there is someone in on our property who shouldn't be and they catch a glimpse, it's their problem. (That's the attitude I try to take, anyway.) We are out there as soon as it's warm enough. We love showering outdoors, too.

Sex in the snow is something I've wanted to try, but DH isn't sure it would work. As a compromise, we just have sex indoors while it's snowing. :)

midwestman said...

Bunnyhunch: The way I see it, if there is someone in on our property who shouldn't be and they catch a glimpse, it's their problem. (That's the attitude I try to take, anyway.) Wish I could convince her of that attitude! Wether someone else is there right or wrong, she would be seen - and thats the issue!

Gemma: Knowing that your spouse desperately needs to do you and be done, is always a huge turn on, isn't it?ABSOLUTELY!

mwm

RaT Babies said...

Sorry...I was asking the same question.

New ideas or old ideas...Until I know what the idea is, I don't know if it ias an old one or a new one ;)

Sensuous Wife said...
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bunnyhunch said...

Outdoor sex favorites:
* Under the stars, then sleeping there in each other's arms the rest of the night. There's nothing like feeling the breeze skimming across our naked bodies. At night people aren't likely to see us; they're keeping their eyes on the road and driving by too fast.
* We often shower outdoors together, washing each other's bodies. Of course that means there will be sex afterwards, still outdoors, and then a little more showering. :) If you've got a nice big watering can and a private spot in your yard, you're all set.
* On a sandbar along a river when we've gone canoeing. Honestly, there must have been others on the river. I don't know what we were thinking, but it was wonderful!
* While hiking in the woods more than a few times.
* Along trails at various parks. Yes, we know it is illegal, but what do you do? If the mood strikes it must be dealt with somehow.
* Almost always in my fantasies while LMing, we are outdoors, usually in the middle of a resort or something where there are people, and in the daytime. That one will NOT be becoming a reality!

bunnyhunch said...

Nature lover - yes! We've ML twice outdoors and I loved it! DW not so much as she is apprehensive about being seen. Mind you, this was back in the woods, OUR woods, but she was still nervous and most likely didn't enjoy it as much as I. However, I am always game for an outdoor adventure!We ML yesterday afternoon out in a clearing in our woods. The weather was absolutely perfect, and DH had taken a couple of old mattresses up so we'd be comfortable, butting them up to a log headboard of sorts. We were completely out of view of any neighbors... we just didn't take ultralights flying overhead into consideration! :)

Perhaps I should be more apprehensive about being seen.

Mark 9:24 said...

I love the rare chances when DW make love outdoors. One real fun time was in the bushs right at the waters edge on the Toronto islands looking out over Lake Ontario.

mwm wrote:
What's too far? IMHO, too far is when whatever you are doing is not acceptable to the other person. As long as you both agree on the activity (and it's not bringing someone else into the marriage bed - which includes porn), I don't believe that you can do anything "wrong".
I couldn't agree more!

Biggest turn on's. Hmmm. 1) Enthusiasm! 2) Enthusiasm! 3) Enthusiasm!Oh yes! This is the most important one I think!

Gemma wrote:
Expressing anticipation over thoughts of the main event happening is hot both ways. Just like my dh loves to hear me desiring to be fucked, I also like to see and hear him go crazy with anticipating passion. Knowing that your spouse desperately needs to do you and be done, is always a huge turn on, isn't it?
Yes it is, very much so. But my DW is a feeler and not a talker when it comes to such things, and she never initiates since she hardly ever thinks about sex until I initiate.

bunnyhunch wrote:
Sex in the snow is something I've wanted to try, but DH isn't sure it would work.
I would like to try this but DW HATES the cold.

bunnyhunch I like ALL your ideas for outdoor sex. Great List!

Mark