Wednesday, April 1, 2009

A Reader's Favorites- garter belts, OS, rear entry, breasts

OK, one of my readers posted this as his favorite sex related topics: "Garter belts and stockings, oral sex, rear entry, my DW breasts." We have four topics here. Feel free to post on any one or more of them. I will only make a few brief comments of my own here about these topics but I may have much more to share later.

Garter belts are hot... I have a black leather one that I love but I have to say that GR does not like me wearing anything when we are in bed. So I only wear the garter belt occasionally when we go out on the town. Really, a garter belt almost reminds me of a chastity belt, which I do not have but have put on my "wish list". Well, have you ever seen a chastity belt? They are so erotic looking.

You guys will likely have many comments on OS since it is such a favorite activity for many couples. It almost seems odd to me how my husband and I are so alike in our sexual preferences. We do OS but it is not a favorite with either of us. When I give my husband a BJ, I love how he often holds the back and sides of my head firmly in place because it feels like a form of bondage; it is hot. What can I say? I am my husband's sex slave!

Rear entry is one of our favorite positions. It works best for us when my hiney is up high and my head is down low so most of the time when we do it I am either face down on the bed with the Wedge or Ramp under my hips, sometimes restrained to the bed, sometimes not OR... I am leaning, face down, over the high end of our Esse, my body from the waist up dangling down low in the center "valley" of the Esse. Wives, if you have never done "rear entry" it feels so hot to have your husband's body thrusting against your derrière. It makes my hiney tingle just thinking about it!

GR is a breast man and I LOVE that he is. I will save most of my comments on this for later but for now, let me just say that we incorporate breast play almost daily in our marriage bed. It is one of those things that neither of us can do without. No sillies, it is not a fetish with us.

Now, let us hear your comments, ideas, suggestions... anything you have to offer on these topics.

46 comments:

Anonymous said...

Wow, this guy hit it on the head.

I absolutley love garter belts. Unfortunately my wife finds them uncomfortable and his very body image conscious. Sure wish I could find some plus size ones that are reasonably comfortable.

The few times she has worn garter belts- has really been hot for me.

Oral sex. I love it, both on me and her. Unfortunately another thing that it is a rare occasion that she will participate. Again, some of those times have been hot.

Breasts- yes, something she is comfortable letting me enjoy.

Rear entry- we both enjoy. Would love to try Liberator pillows- have been afraid to even mention them, plus const is an issue. Wish there was a really clean site demonstrating positions with Liberator- sensuouswife.com has a great start.

Mike said...

A garter belt shows the beauty of my DW thighs and legs. My eyes are naturally attracted to the beauty that lies between those legs. There is nothing like running my hands over my DW thighs and then over her stockings.

It is am amazing sight to be doing rear entry and looking at the belt pulled tight over her rear. Then there is having her legs over my shoulders and driving her wild with my tongue. I like to bring her to the edge..stop and play with the belt a little and then start up again. Do that for a while and she has massive O’s

Mike said...

Plus size gater belts

http://www.feelingusa.com/lingerie_plus_size/products.cfm?cat=69

Odo said...

Wow. Where to start. Garter belts are very sexy though your DW really should have the, well, bum, for it. But they really are neat especially combined with mesh stockings. And a breezy mid thigh length dress. With no other underwear...add a nice pair of strappy sandals. Yeah! Very nice for removal "service" on the part of DH. Slow and passionate. Lots of licking and kissing...vital areas.

OS is not an option of DW to do on me. She's never been comfortable at all with it which is ok with me. I really enjoy as does she when I give her OS.

Yes, rear entry! Bravo! Many past comments on TMB from us guys on the subject. Yes, the view of DW's most private area is awesome. Watching me enter/exit her is most enticing. Gemma (and others), do you and GR use rear entry with GR's legs inside yours or his outside yours with your legs closer together? We like it both ways. Legs outside makes for a tighter feeling during...in/out exercises. But, yes, the feeling of me bumping against her lovely bum really adds pleasure. Because we are both tall, when I enter from the rear (DW has long and lovely legs), it puts extra movement pressure/sensation on the bottom of the penis by her vaginal opening as I go in/out which, when sensation is lacking (in the case of ED), really rejuvenates the erection and...results.

And if we had a larger bedroom, we'd definitely have some Liberator furniture! Like the Esse and wedge.

Oh, yes, breasts. My DW has lovely, just right sized breasts. I use my tongue liberally over her nipples as I enjoy feeling her reaction as she tenses up with the caressing, as I manipulate her clitoris. Brings on the O nicely. I never considered myself a breast man. We always had a saying in college "more than a mouthful is wasted" and I still agree (yes, personal opinion. I've heard large breasts can be painful on the back). I'm a leg man. Long and shapely...with strappy sandals. Yum!

Gemma said...

Anon, at our local sex shop I saw some garter belts which looked to be 1-size-fits-all as they were made with stretchy fabric. I'm sure if you google "plus size garter belts" you would find some that would work. I see Mike posted a link for you as well.

Liberator positions--
You can use your imagination. Whatever feels good... seems good... you go with it. There are no right or wrong positions on Liberator shapes.

Gemma said...

A garter belt not only look hot but it also feels hot when you're wearing it. I went to dh's company Christmas party wearing mine with nothing else underneath. That's how I always wear it, nothing underneath. Throughout the dinner it had me where I couldn't wait to go up to our hotel room. It's funny how clothing can make you feel!

Mike, thanks for posting that link for Anon.

Gemma said...

Odo, GR and I do doggie both ways, depending on our mood. Another way we do doggie--- We sleep "spooned" so when we wake up tired but horny in the middle of the night, "laying down doggies" is great. All we have to do is adjust the angle of our bodies and we're good to go for PIV-IC. After we O, we put our bodies back in parallel positions, go back to spooning and back to a peaceful sleep. And let me just say that nobody needs a large bedroom to have an Esse, trust me. GR and I keep our Esse at the foot of the bed and we only have a path going around them. We have another path from the door to get in the room and a third path to get to the closet ;-). It's not ideal space-wise but we can make do until we move to a different house.

Odo said: "We always had a saying in college "more than a mouthful is wasted..." My GR says the same thing.

bunnyhunch said...

Not being trim, I haven't considered wearing a garter belt and hose. Can they really be sexy on a fairly overweight woman?

After reading these postings, I want to buy some. (Thanks for the link, Mike.) It feels great to wear sexy underthings. I feel a lot bolder and more confident... and ready for DH. ;)

Gemma said...

Ask your dh, bunnyhunch. If he says, "Yeah, let's get one," then it's sexy to him and that's all that matters. Wear it with confidence.

bunnyhunch said...

Gemma-

I read the postings to him this morning and we talked about it. His response was, with a grin "I'm really much more interested in toys!" He may not think he'd be that interested now, but if we were out and about sometime and I let him know what I was wearing under my skirt, he'd get interested - big time!

Gemma said...

Sure he would, bunnyhunch. So just give him both, lol.

bunnyhunch said...

OS: Used to be a rare occurrence due to my being uncomfortable with the idea of it, whether giving or receiving (never a problem for DH, thankfully). As an inhibited receiver, though it felt nice enough, I could never let myself go and fully enjoy it. But that was THEN.

Now, with my sexual inhibitions thrown out the window, OS has become a favorite part of LMing, complete with O's (never happened to either of us before during OS). DH, more enthusiastic than ever, is more aggressive in his approach.

My current project is researching how to give DH better OS. He's not complaining at all about the way things are; I just think it would be fun to see if his pleasure level can skyrocket like mine did. I'd love to be able to bring him to a big, fat O that would put a huge crooked grin on his face.

Mike said...

Rear entry is a fav of ours. I have only two things to say though.

1. Thrusting should be deep.
2. Thrusting should be hard.

Many positions I vary the depth i enter DW. From the rear I have to go deep to start with. It gives DW a sense of being dominated.

Spanking is also enjoyable in this position also.

bunnyhunch said...

"more than a mouthful is wasted"

What are those of us to do who are blessed (or cursed) with abundant bosoms? Good thing DH is a boob guy. Might've become that way because he had no other choice. :)

Anonymous said...

Breast play is a vital part of our marriage. We might be watching a movie and I will have my hands on her breasts.

Somtimes I just come up behind her and start playing with them.

I truely believe that breast play is an art form that needs to be developed over time. You don't paint the Mona Lisa the first time you pick up a brush.

I am surprised more is not written on this subject. So...ladies, how do you like your breasts handled, played with, kissed, licked and sucked?

Mike said...

Bunnyhunch,

Be bold and confident, your DH will love you for it. We have found a wonderful place for quality garter belts.

http://www.secretsinlace.com/

They are a little spendy, but for shear elegance you cannot beat this store.

Anonymous said...

Bunnyhunch. My wife is plus size and yes I would get very turned on if she wore garters and hose.

She does worry about her size and I try to tell her, that when she has a sexually confident attitude- she can be hot regardless of her size.

Anonymous said...

Bunnyhunch, trust me when I tell you that there are
plenty of men who feel rather intensely that more than a mouthful is like money in the bank! The truth is men are hardwired to love breasts, period. Be confident, it's hot.

Mark 9:24 said...

Garter Belts and Stocking are hot. I never thought of a black leather one.

Gemma said: Really, a garter belt almost reminds me of a chastity belt, which I do not have but have put on my "wish list". Well, have you ever seen a chastity belt? They are so erotic looking.

So would you wear one out in public? Under a skirt or dress perhaps?

OS is something I love to get from my wife. She likes to do things to make me jump. :) I also enjoy cuming in her mouth. It's actually about 1/3 of our sexual activity. She is not as much into my going down on her.

When I give my husband a BJ, I love how he often holds the back and sides of my head firmly in place because it feels like a form of bondage; it is hot. What can I say? I am my husband's sex slave!

Aha! The truth comes out! So your not just GR's whore you're his sex slave as well. Hmm......
All I can say is that's HOT!

Rear entry is one of our favorite positions. It works best for us when my hiney is up high and my head is down low so most of the time when we do it I am either face down on the bed..

It's one of our faves to. So much so that when I have my O in my DW it is almost 100% in this position. I too like it when her but is in the air and her head and shoulders down on the bed. She also has her legs togther with mine outside of hers.
Great fun!!!
We don't have a ramp though. Maybe we should get one. ;)

...sometimes restrained to the bed...

Do you do this when you are using the Wedge or ramp?

Wives, if you have never done "rear entry" it feels so hot to have your husband's body thrusting against your derrière. It makes my hiney tingle just thinking about it!

It feels hot for the hubby too!! And the visuals are great. Especially if you have a large mirror on the wall beside the bed!

I'm a legs, ass and waist man. Which is good since in those areas DW's body excels. She is small in the breast dept., but since she is only a size 4 it all works out. When she was a size 1 about 3 years ago I bought her skin tight pink jeans from Victoria's Secret as well as dark pink high heel boots. When she would wear them ...... shwing!! ;)

I've thought of getting her panties that say on the back "with an ass like this who needs big tits?" :)

When I have tried breast play it just makes her giggle and she asks me to stop. To tickelish I guess.

Mark

Gemma said...

Mike,

I agree with you that for rear entry thrusting is best deep and hard.

Gemma said...

bunnyhunch,

God, in his infinite wisdom, has given each of us the right size breasts. Enjoy your blessing as I'm sure your dh does as well.

Gemma said...

Anon asked: "So...ladies, how do you like your breasts handled, played with, kissed, licked and sucked?"

-handled firmly, sometimes even roughly. Sometimes there is a fine line between pain and pleasure.

-played with any way my dh wants. They're his to do what he pleases whenever and where ever he wants. (He always uses discretion when others might see us.) Sometimes he plays with one at a time, other times he handles both at same time and does amazing things while sucking and nibbling.

-sucked often. We do this during sex and even at other times apart from sex when he feels like it or when I ask him to suck them. Odd as it may sound, apart from sex it relaxes me when he's sucking. It's extremely sexually arousing during sex and it's very relaxing apart from sex. Go figure!

bunnyhunch said...

"So...ladies, how do you like your breasts handled, played with, kissed, licked and sucked?"

ALL OF THE ABOVE!!! And pinched, bitten, chewed a little too, maybe? (DH is standing over my shoulder adding his two cents, lol!)

I don't like it so rough right away; I need to be warmed up a little. Then it's absolutely one of my favorite things. I think there's a direct wire from nipple to nether region. ;)

"1. Thrusting should be deep.
2. Thrusting should be hard."

Yep. DH agrees with the view thing for rear entry, too. For me - It makes me feel a bit naughty, which is rather fun. It's the way we finish most of the time, especially after I get my first O with WOT.

Gemma said...

Mark asked: "So would you wear one out in public? Under a skirt or dress perhaps?"

If I had a chastity belt I would absolutely wear it out in public. Why not? Nobody would know it's under my skirt or dress but me and GR. It would be our little secret.

Mark asked: "So your not just GR's whore you're his sex slave as well."

Yes, except my dh would never ask me to do anything immoral. But basically, our relationship is such that "he wants" and "I do". He always takes care of my sexual needs but he's the "master" in our marriage bed.

Mark asked: ..sometimes restrained to the bed... "Do you do this when you are using the Wedge or ramp?"

Sometimes. When we use our restraints we either use them with or without the liberator shapes. It's fun either way. GR doesn't care to be restrained but he enjoys doing it to me. I wouldn't enjoy restraining him but I enjoy being restrained. So it works well for us.

Mark said: "When I have tried breast play it just makes her giggle and she asks me to stop. To tickelish I guess."

Years ago when GR would touch my breasts I hated it because he would touch too lightly where it felt like he was tickling me. After my awakening we got all that straightened out. Now he knows to use a firm touch with my breasts.

Gemma said...

bunnyhunch said: "pinched, bitten, chewed a little too, maybe? (DH is standing over my shoulder adding his two cents, lol!)... I think there's a direct wire from nipple to nether region."

Yep, yep. Occasionally we get so carried away that I have to tell him, "Ouch, you're biting too hard." Or-- he likes to latch onto the nipple and pull it straight out or push it inward, towards my body. It's all fun.

(Hello, Mr. bunnyhunch!)

bunnyhunch, there is a wire that goes from nipple to nether region... at least on my body there is and obviously on yours too.

Mark 9:24 said...

....I agree with you that for rear entry thrusting is best deep and hard.

And don't forget FAST!

DW can't get enough of this. No matter how hard I thrust she just loves it. The only limit is when either one of us just gets to worn out to either keep going (me) or from the number of orgasms (her)

Mark

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma wrote: If I had a chastity belt I would absolutely wear it out in public. Why not? Nobody would know it's under my skirt or dress but me and GR. It would be our little secret.

I think if DW and I did that it would be quite the turn on for me, and for her if she was in the right mind set.

Mark asked: "So your not just GR's whore you're his sex slave as well."

Yes, except my dh would never ask me to do anything immoral. But basically, our relationship is such that "he wants" and "I do". He always takes care of my sexual needs but he's the "master" in our marriage bed.


This almost describes DW and I to a T. So would you describe what you and GR do in the bedroom as Dominance and submission?
(now there's a kettle of fish!)

Mark asked: ..sometimes restrained to the bed... "Do you do this when you are using the Wedge or ramp?"

Sometimes. When we use our restraints we either use them with or without the liberator shapes. It's fun either way. GR doesn't care to be restrained but he enjoys doing it to me. I wouldn't enjoy restraining him but I enjoy being restrained. So it works well for us.


DW and I have used restraints in the past and it really turned her on. Especially if we used chains instead of ropes. Me, I have no interest in being tied up.

Mark

Anonymous said...

Ladies,

Do any of you like your DH to MB on your breasts?

Anonymous said...

Mike said that spanking was enjoyable. Does anyone else find that adds excitement? I'd love to do it I am a little scared to ask my DW.

Gemma said...

Mark, GR and I enjoy light bondage. What we do with that I WOULD describe as light dominance and submission. It's not a fetish for us. We don't always do it but when we do, we enjoy it. I've never used chains. We use either our Japanese silk rope or our liberator Bed Buckler.

bunnyhunch said...

Deep, hard, FAST...

We are having sex nearly every day now, often more than once in a 24-hour period. Unless we finish doggie-style, deep/hard/fast, it can be difficult for DH to attain his hard-earned O.

Off topic a bit: Maybe we need to learn some new tricks to overcome this, but that's how it often is for now - no complaint, as it's a favorite position anyway - other than that it would be nice to have it be easier for him. We have gotten to where we really miss it if we don't have sex every day. Suggestions on how to overcome this are welcome - maybe on a new thread sometime?

Gemma said...

Anon asked:
Ladies,

>>Do any of you like your DH to MB on your breasts?

Yes, but then I love any and all type of breast play. Having my dh thrust between my breasts is just one more enjoyable way to play with them.

>>Mike said that spanking was enjoyable. Does anyone else find that adds excitement? I'd love to do it I am a little scared to ask my DW.

Believe it or not, there are a few things I don't like, lol, but GR dislikes the same things so it's not a problem for us. Spanking is not one of them. GR loves to spank and I love being spanked. We bought some paint a few weeks ago and I grabbed about 4 paint stirrers while waiting for the paint. Half of them I got for...... spanking. It wasn't too long ago that I discovered that being spanked by hand on the vulva is hot. It actually helped me O faster and it was more intense. We can always learn something new.

Anon, don't make a big deal out of introducing it to your dw. One time when you're having sex, give her a swat or two with your hand to see how she reacts. If she asks why you did it, just tell her you were overcome in the moment with how hot she is, which would be true. If she was OK with it or expressed that she liked it, try it again another time. As long as she doesn't object, you can ease into it.

Oh, too funny. We're watching a Leave it to Beaver episode while I'm writing this. Beaver and his friend are talking about one of their teachers. The friend jokingly tells Beaver that their teacher has a "spanking machine" that she keeps in the classroom closet. He says that when the kids misbehave the teacher puts the kids in it and it automatically spanks them. It was all a joke on Beaver but I thought, Wow, wouldn't a spanking machine be fun in the marriage bed?"... for those times when we're so bad that we need a spanking, lol.

midwestman said...

Breasts - my absolute favorite part of the anatomy! I could spend hours just on those when we ML but DW can't take it. There are infrequent occasions where she gets in a very hot mood where she can't seem to get enough either and I revel in it and just latch on to one or the other with my mouth and enjoy for as long as it lasts. Usually coupled with my hand on her clit. My favorite size would be very small to small, which my DW had when we got married. However, as we age and get a bit, ahem, larger, her breast size is now C pushing D and I find that I just love them - especially when she is on all fours over me and they are hanging down - dang! I love those cones!

OS - we both very much enjoy giving and receiving and it is almost always part of our LM. DW took me all the way in her mouth once, on our wedding night, and that was the last time. We've talked about it several times over the years and she knows that I would lover her to do it again, but she just can't handle the taste/texture. I do wish she would at least try it once again as it's been almost 30 years since last time!

Rear entry - probably my favorite position, and hers too once she has had at least one O. And yes, chest down on the bed, butt in the air is fantastic :) As someone else said, watching me go in and out and looking at all her nether parts is great! This position is a virtual guaranteed O for both of us - in fact, the other night it resulted in her forth in a space of about 10 minutes. I LOVE watching her O...

Garters - she's never worn them, I don't think they would do much for me...

Great topics Gemma! They sure do get the juices flowing though thinking about all of this!

mwm

Gemma said...

mwm,

GR also enjoys when I'm over him with my breasts hanging down. It's when he likes to grab one in each hand and go from one to the other, sucking, nibbling, massaging, squeezing, pinching, etc. And he likes to alternate that with putting his face between them while pushing them towards his face.

I always encourage this play and I think I do because there is a fine line between pleasure and pain with breast play. Having the pleasure intensify until it's almost like pain, can be very hot. The only thing that eventually wears out on me are the nipples. I can take a lot of attention on them but then they need to *rest*, lol.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma wrote: Mark, GR and I enjoy light bondage. What we do with that I WOULD describe as light dominance and submission. It's not a fetish for us. We don't always do it but when we do, we enjoy it. I've never used chains. We use either our Japanese silk rope or our liberator Bed Buckler.

DW and I used to play with the same years ago back before we understood her sexuality. (Her need for me to be the initiator) She really enjoyed it and I did it for her but except for the sex I didn't get a lot out of it. She seemed to get more out of it than just the sex.

We stopped, and so did the sex, since I was no longer initiating.

Now I find myself getting interested in tying her to the bed again, which I'm sure she would enjoy.

I had eye bolts placed under the 4 corners of our old waterbed and that's what I hooked the chains to. (she liked the sound of the chains) We no longer have that bed so I'll take a look at the Bed Bucker you mentioned.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma wrote: Believe it or not, there are a few things I don't like, lol

There is? No! Can it be??? :)

GR loves to spank and I love being spanked.

We tried this years ago but it didn't do anything for us.
I do how ever enjoy giving her bum a swat now and then. She doesn't mind as long as it's not to hard. :)

Wow, wouldn't a spanking machine be fun in the marriage bed?"... for those times when we're so bad that we need a spanking, lol.

I just googled "spanking machine". Perhaps it's time to add a new toy to your collection. ;)

Mark

Mark 9:24 said...

bunnyhunch wrote: Unless we finish doggie-style, deep/hard/fast, it can be difficult for DH to attain his hard-earned O.

This had been happening to me lately (like last night) and it is VERY annnoying!
I plan on asking my Dr. about it at my physical later this month.

Mark

Gemma said...

When we do bondage play it's like anything else we do--- GR and I each initiate about 50/50. I can initiate sex and GR will still be the dom in our bondage play. It doesn't matter who initiates- He's always the dom, I'm always the sub.

Mark 9:24 said...

Gemma wrote:
When we do bondage play it's like anything else we do--- GR and I each initiate about 50/50. I can initiate sex and GR will still be the dom in our bondage play. It doesn't matter who initiates- He's always the dom, I'm always the sub.


What you have just described I would call ideal. I would love it if she would initiate, but it just doesn't seem to be in her.
So I always do and I am always in control in the bed.
I to am always the dom and she the sub. I never thought of her initiating as a sub. Maybe she doesn't either.

Gemma said...

Mark said: "I never thought of her initiating as a sub."

It's easy if a person is OK initiating. I can start things just by showing and/or telling GR that I'd enjoy having sex. Even when I initiate, he always jumps right in and takes over as the dom. Other times, he initiates and leads from start to finish.

Anonymous said...

"GR also enjoys when I'm over him with my breasts hanging down. It's when he likes to grab one in each hand and go from one to the other, sucking, nibbling, massaging, squeezing, pinching"

Agreed. There is nothing like having my DW breasts hanging in my face. I love it when she rubs them over my penis.

Anonymous said...

There has been a lot of posts on garter belts. I have a question. What things can a man wear to excite his DW?

Gemma said...

Anon asked: "What things can a man wear to excite his DW?"

Anon, I'm not the best person to answer your question but I thought I would give my opinion so you would see that the answers cover a broad spectrum of ideas and preferences.

What can my dh wear to excite me? When we are out on dates, nothing turns me on more than seeing him in jeans, t-shirt with a button down shirt or a flannel over it, depending on the season. In the winter, I love to see him in the same clothes when we go out with the addition of his long, black wool dress coat. Yep, jeans with dress coat over it.

That's what excites me and makes me want to jump his bones before we even get home. He doesn't like to wear anything in the bedroom and that suites me just fine. It's how he dresses OUTSIDE the bedroom that excites me.

Anonymous said...

A garter belt & stockings is probably my favorite outfit on my better half. Hot, sexy, and the belt has a way of "framing" the good part. And, when she wears one, there is no mistaking what SHE has in mind!

For the fuller figured gals, ROAMANS & WOMAN WITHIN has one occasionally by Crownette (I think) that is both sexy and functional.

Enjoy!

Gemma said...

A belt frames *one* of the good parts ;-).

Anonymous said...

Ladies,

Do any of you O just through breast play alone?