Wednesday, March 11, 2009

NOTE TO SELF: Must get rid of bed frame and head board!

GR was out of town on business Tuesday night so last night we did what we always do when he returns from business trips--- we enjoyed a good romp in the bed but--- the bed. was not. good. at all. This morning I told GR, "I am ready to put the box spring and mattress directly on the floor." I can no longer stand the noise that the frame and head board make. You have to understand that this is a cheapie metal bed frame and head board that we have no business using. The only noise I want to hear when we are having sex is *us*; GR agrees. So another project is on the "to do" list for this week!

Sorry, I know that my issue with our bed frame has little to do with passionate sex but I had to come here and vent and you all just happen to be on the receiving end of my vent ;-).

19 comments:

midwestman said...

Time to build the mwm SuperFrame :)

Gemma said...

We're working towards it, mwm, we're working on it. At this point we need to look at what tools are involved in the project to see if GR has the right stuff to put it together.

My dad is really into woodworking and has all the toys... I mean tools in his wood shop to create anything. Now if we had access to his tools... but we don't live anywhere near him so that's not an option.

Herlover said...

If you can........make it HIGH and BIG!!!

Anonymous said...

From landschooner:
You know whats funny.
For me, I like to hear the rhythmic CREAK of the bed when we are having sex. I so seldom hear it that its fun to hear that for a change. Kind of an external confirmations that "Hey, we're actually having sex!"

Gemma said...

You wouldn't think it to be so funny if your college kids kept reminding you that they heard your bed during the night, lol. But maybe you don't have college kids at home.... they don't miss a thing :-).

Mark 9:24 said...

Time to get that "Romper Room" built, and what is an mwm SuperFrame?

M_K1980 said...

Hello, first off Gemma, I want to thank you for your Blog and posting's on TMB. My DW and I have enjoyed and learned a few things from you posting's.

We too find the noise very distracting even with background music on. I can see my DW's mind start thinking about "can the kids hear us"... We've talked about buying a large heavy bed frame with headboard/foot board. We've also thought about one of the newer type of memory foam beds. Anyone have one?

M&K1980

Odo said...

Ah, the memories this thread brings! Honeymoon, 35 yrs ago. As I would, well, thrust, the headboard of the motel bed would bang against wall. Couldn't have that! Had to...suspend operations, as it were, and pull the bed slightly out from the wall. Problem solved!

After returning home to our apartment, new bed...somewhat noisy for long forgotten reason. Had to be "discreet" since sister in law lived in the downstairs apt. Often went to living room and made love on a low bean bag chair. YES, WE ARE THAT OLD...Ah, the 70s! Only downer...rug burn on the knees. Youth...sigh...

Gemma said...

Mark, "mwm SuperFrame" is mwm's handmade bedframe ;-).

Gemma said...

I wouldn't care about the noise but I have 2 college kids whose rooms are just outside the hall from ours. When the bed gets noisy, they hear everything. It's not that they don't know we're having sex; they do. We just don't feel right forcing them to have to listen to all the noise coming from our room.

Soooo... GR and I have decided that we'll need to make some changes. We thought about it before my surgery but we were so busy getting ready for the surgery that we had to put it on the back burner. Now it's time to make some changes in our bed.

bunnyhunch said...

When I was a teenager, my family lived in a split-level house. The living room was upstairs, as was my parents' bedroom.

On occasion when my siblings and I would be watching tv in the evening - in the living room, of course - my father would come and inform us that it was time for bed; we should shut the tv off and head to our rooms. (At 17 that was always an oddity to me - to be treated like a kid and told it was time to go to bed! Wasn't I old to determine my own bedtime?)

To make matters worse, my room was directly below theirs... so I heard EVERYTHING! All the loud, rhythmic bouncing of the bed; my mother must've kept her mouth shut tight. It was soooo awful at that age to have to listen to it!

I always wondered why Dad couldn't just be honest and tell us they needed some alone time. We might have figured out what they were going to do eventually, but at least we could have chosen to retreat to another's room so we wouldn't have to hear it all. It also seemed (from my unfortunate perspective!) that they could have taken advantage of the distraction of the tv. We would've been oblivious to all of it.

Bravo Gemma for ditching the squeaky bed! Your daughters will thank you for it - if not out loud, they will whisper it to themselves!

A good, solid headboard can be a useful thing, though! Have fun with your project.

Gemma said...

Yeah, well, our kids know we are having sex. We sort of fell into this house when we did a huge cross-country move a few years ago. It was either this house or find an apartment and we had too much stuff to squeeze in an apartment so we settled here. I was not yet awakened and didn't even think about location of the master bedroom. GR wasn't getting sex so he didn't think about it either.

We're presently getting our ducks in a row to hopefully move to a different house within the next couple of years. We WILL have a master suite far from the living area and other bedrooms.

CLA said...

We have 2 out, 1 teen still here. The less he hears the better (for him and us).

job29man said...

I appreciate the comments here about being kind to the teens, college kids, others...

It is painful for kids to hear all that. I think it is great what you all are doing to mitigate that embarrassment! Solid bedframes, carpeting, maybe a rug wall hanging, having a more distant bedroom. These are all good!

One thing I've done is replace a paper thin door with a solid core door, and re-framed in the whole entry wall and added extra sound insulation. Anyone can do that with any wall between bedrooms too. It's not very expensive to tear off the drywall, add super insulation, re-drywall, tape/mud/texture/paint. It mostly takes labor.

bunnyhunch said...

I am a little envious of friends who have master bedroom suites located completely away from the kids' bedrooms. That seems ideal, though to have a suite at all would be terrific!

We'd love a romantic bathroom to escape to. Is that in the your dream plan, too?

Gemma said...

I'm a little envious, too, bunnyhunch. We have to share the hall bathroom with our kids. And our only 3 bedrooms are all bunched together :-(.

My dream master suite will have to be on hold until we move to a different house.

Gemma said...

Job, our house is over 70yo--- no drywall... only that plaster stuff, lol.

midwestman said...

Mark,

I'd be happy to send you a copy of the plans I did for our frame. I've already sent them to Gemma. For years we had just a cheap frame that came with very expensive head/foot boards. The slats always fell out, it squeeked, rocked, etc. Finally we decided to get a new mattress and move to a King which our old frame would not accomodate, so I made one. It's great, squeek free and never moves. I just bolted the original head/foot boards to it for looks, they don't do anything but sit there! If you'd like a copy, email me at enginman78@hotmail.com and I'll send you a PDF of the plans.

As for the mattress, we got a foam one, made by Restonic. Its the most comfortable thing we have ever slept on, bar none. I would highly encourage anyone to get one. Oh, and when I made the frame I made it high enough so we could put the mattress directly on it and not have to buy the expensive "spring" which isn't a spring at all, just a solid box to lift the mattress up :)

mwm

Mark 9:24 said...

mwm,

I sent you an email about the plans.

Thanks!

Mark