For the last couple of years I have so enjoyed developing and sharing a high sense of eroticism and passion with GR. Let me explain where I am going with this.
While so many husbands and wives tell about how they anticipate the arrival of their O's, in my warped way of thinking I have often wondered, "What is the rush? What about the journey?" Do not get me wrong. I love to O as much as the next person, however, I have found that it is the journey which ultimately keeps my relationship with GR on fire. Many times I have orgasms.... I could O each and every time if I wanted... but then there are those times that I purposely do not and I never fully understood why I made those choices... that is... until now.
My latest, greatest marriage book explains exactly what I have felt in my heart about eroticism and passion these last couple of years. I have been reading Shmuley Boteach's book entitled: The Kosher Sutra: Eight Sacred Secrets for Reigniting Desire and Restoring Passion for Life, ISBN: 0061668354 . You see, so many of the books on the topic of sex explain how to quickly get to O or if they write about the journey to any great length, the suggestions are quite lame. As a nice alternative, Boteach explains how to enjoy the journey and use it to heighten eroticism and passion in your relationship. I have not yet read the entire book but I thought I would share a few of his quotes in hopes that it would wet appetites for Boteach's unique writing.
"The main principle behind Tantric sex can be paraphrased in this way: people should live in a constant state of preorgasm. We are meant to harness sexual and erotic energy without allowing it to seep out, and utilize it in our waking, conscious life. In other words, unlike Western sexuality Tantra is means-oriented. It is sex with the purpose of heightening arousal by delaying orgasm and not allowing your body to be purged of desire. You prolong sex for as long as possible in order to heighten the sensations that lead to the expansion of human consciousness. This sensation is then redirected, channeled into the mind, ultimately allowing us to live indefinitely in a heightened state of arousal."
"The sexual consciousness of husband and wife is aroused by having foreplay without sex, and sexual intercourse without orgasm so that lust and desire are fostered."
"Sex does not consist merely of the act of penetration, but the act of two energy bodies rubbing against one another and generating first heat and then enlightenment. Tantra allows for the maximization of sexual pleasure because, by doing away with guilt and fear, it breaks down the self-imposed walls that serve to separate male and female even in the sexual act."
"Tantra teaches you to worship your sexual partner and to transform the act of sex into a sacrament of love. Lovemaking is a spiritual endeavor and mystical journey. If sex is accompanied by a deep and soulful awareness, it becomes a gateway to spiritual ecstasy and heavenly consciousness."
The Kosher Sutra is all about reawakening dormant desires through prolonged time spent on the journey and Boteach has some hot, sizzling methods to accomplish this. Do check it out!