Thursday, February 12, 2009

Valentine's Day- Enjoyed by wives, husbands or both?

Do you feel that Valentine's Day is enjoyed more by wives, husbands or equally by both? Given the romantic nature of the holiday and since, in general, you often hear that wives thrive on romance more than husbands... how do you weigh in on this?

Fwiw----- I am not one who is terribly needy in the romance department. Some romance is fine for me but if overdone, it ends up feeling silly rather than sexual, sensual or erotic, all of which mean more to me. So a little romance goes a long way in my marriage. Just give me the sex, thank you very much! (ie, "Physical Touch" is my primary love language as it is for GR.)

5 comments:

midwestman said...

Definately more by wives although I'm sure there's a percetage of guys out there that are the romantic type. The whole idea of Valentines day is romance, which, stereotypically, is not where guys are...

mwm

Odo said...

After 35 years of marriage and multiplied thousands (?) of fondles and grabs and major snugglings, DW and I agreed we were way beyond the financial grab (!) of the Valentine's Day marketeers. I don't have anything to atone for. Ain't been a bad boy/insensitive dolt. We tell each other of our love several times a day. Don't need St. Valentine's help!

Gemma said...

A lot of romantic hype, huh? This past week I saw seen so many spouses on message boards get all bent out of shape because their spouse didn't put out enough romance on the day. Or they were worrying before V-day that their spouse wasn't going to do enough for them. It's kind of weird, the affect that day has on so many married couples.

Odo said...

Hype is just what it is. It's all based on putting people on a guilt trip and then cashing in on it! I'm all for capitalism, but with common sense. And if a guy's been a jerk all year...V-Day ain't gonna fix it!

Gemma said...

No, you're right, 1 day of romance isn't going to fix an inattentive spouse. But I kind of look at V-day like other holidays. If you think about it- We celebrate the birth of Christ on Christmas Day but we celebrate it every day. We celebrate the death and resurrection on Easter but we also celebrate it on other days. V-day could be a day to celebrate a good marriage but if the marriage is lousy, what good will it do on V-day?

And the commercialism-- Well that's just stinky no matter which holiday you're celebrating.