Monday, February 16, 2009

How quirky is this?

Here is a quirky (to some) habit. At bedtime, GR and I have been known to occasionally jump in bed and just relax for 20-30 minutes or more before one of us begins initiating sex. We will talk, relax and sometimes even close our eyes and start to fall asleep. Next thing we know we are involved in foreplay and having sex. Is that too weird or what? ... I mean to even fall asleep for a few minutes and then wake up for sex.

To be honest I am not sure when we began doing this but I now see it as an oddity. Why do we do it, you ask? Well, I do not know. I was hoping to find out if anyone else here shares our quirkiness. Do you and your spouse ever do this or do you share another quirky bedroom habit? Do tell!

8 comments:

everClimb said...

We've done that. I think its always been during times when sex was a very consistent habit. It must be that the body gets conditioned to it and when you fall asleep without it, a biological red flag pops up "Hey, wake up and get busy."

midwestman said...

LOL Everclimb! Certainly something pops up! Thats just too funny :)

mwm

Odo said...

Hmmm. We do that, too. Don't know that I'd consider it quirky. The other night, after DW's body had previously decided it wasn't quite ready to give up being young, she had a period that finally ended, and after a couple weeks+ abstinence, we were in bed snuggling heavily as usual, intending to fall asleep...one kiss/fondle lead to another...

Happens that way. The unfortunate side of it, we hadn't planned it and I hadn't taken a "pill" so I was able to send her into the stratosphere by clitoral/nipple stim which was enjoyable for both of us, but my bod wasn't cooperative. So we fell asleep and awoke to lovemaking for my "pleasuring", after I took the appropriate pill and allowed for...um..."turbo spin-up to speed" as it were. Comes with the territory of age, as I've mentioned before. The minds are willing but the bods lag a bit, demanding more work. We envy you and GR's stamina!

Gemma said...

Our motto is something like "always be ready" :-). If we're always ready for sex, we can't help but hit more than we miss. When you do miss a day, if you just had sex the day or the night before it's not so painful.

I guess sometimes GR and I are wiped out when we first hit the bed. But it doesn't take much for us to get energized. Even a 30 min nap can do wonders for prepping for sex.

We try to take advantage of every opportunity. A couple nights ago we had a hot session. Next morning we were still in bed, talking about getting up and showering but I wondered if GR was up for a quickie. So I began to HJ him and finished him off with his favorite, PIV-IC. Why waste a morning doing nothing? Quickies are good fill-ins between those longer sessions.

Our waking up for sex happens at all odd hours but it's hot even when coming out of sleep.

midwestman said...

From my perspective, very quirky since there is an unwritten rule in our house that once asleep, the DO NOT WAKE FOR SEX sign is out
:( There have been many times during our marriage that I could have ravished DW in the middle of the night but after trying a few times and getting a very unhappy wife as a result, I simply quit. I have made it plain to her, however, that anytime she feels like it, I am willing to be woken for sex. Even suggested that she do it sometime, that I think it would be very hot. It's never happened. Ever.

mwm

Gemma said...

Many spouses hate to be woke but I think the bulk of them are not overly fond of sex. That changes when you want sex all the time, as we well know ;-).

scotty said...

Definitely not as frequently as you but sometimes we'll be snuggling and talking and one thing might lead to the other... usually if we have a deep and loving conversation. More often than not though dh is in need of the little blue pill, so if he hasn't planned it can all end in disappointment. However I do enjoy the spontaneity when it does happen.

Bev said...

Right now I'm working my master's degree and HATE being woken up in the middle of the night, and I'm very fond of sex.

It's too easy for me to fall back a sleep in the middle of the night. So DH would be ML to a sleeping wife. Right now I'm making the effort to be mentally ready when I get home from work to make my husband one of my top proities.Please don't read any more into that statement other then I really busy: work, school work, church, bible study, small group, and my list goes on depending on the day.