Monday, January 19, 2009

Sex after sicknesss

GR and I just came off from a week of no sex. I know, it is shocking but it is not what you think. He was really sick and feeling like crap. And on top of that, he was afraid of getting me sick two weeks before my surgery so we kept our distance. For the last several nights I asked him, "Are you STILL feeling too sick to be around me?" Finally, last night we slept together. Oh my!!! It was like New Year's Eve and Fourth of July fireworks all at once. GR had two intense O's. Usually I don't have O's within 1-2 minutes of each other but last night I had three that way. The sex was amazing. It gave a whole new meaning to the phrase "hot sex".

Have you ever experienced hot sex after sickness this way?

12 comments:

everClimb said...

Actually my wife and I recently did DURING sickness... I had come down w/ my annual sinus infection which can really wipe me out. But, for some reason, one night I didn't feel like laying there with nothing but my pounding head to think about so I pulled her to me for a quickie (usually about 45 min. for us). The best part was, because of my high fever, my member was unusually hot too. She LOVED it, and that made me very excited. Sometimes you just have to fight through the pain to find the reward.

Gemma said...

Hi everClimb,

I agree that in many cases you can fight through sickness to have sex and it's not that hard to do. We didn't this time because of my scheduled surgery because if I get sick, my surgery could be postponed. We've waited too long to get it on the calendar only to have it taken back off. Also, my dh only gets this sick maybe once every 2-3 years but when he gets this bad, he is REALLY sick... can't handle sex and I wouldn't pressure him to do so. You really have to weigh up each situation before making a judgment call. Obviously, if a person is sick on a regular basis, that's different. You either push through or you never have sex.

I guess my article was more about the quality of sex after being apart for a week or longer, for ANY reason.

everClimb said...

Please accept my apologies Gemma. I didn't mean to insinuate that you or GR should have disregarded your circumstances and had sex anyway. But, in re-reading my comment, I can see where it was easily misunderstood. Your post just brought to mind that unusual experience for me and I felt led to share it. I normally don't have the capacity to do that during sickness, but was sure glad I did that time.;)
Hoping and praying for a successful surgery and speedy recovery for you...

scotty said...

Not so much after sickness sex, but after an absence (usually dh travelling). I don't tend to have multiples but the level of passion goes waaaay up! That desperation, got to have you, type of thing! I love that! We can usually go at least twice or even three times in one night, not necessarily us both Oing each time, but just long periods of LMing and need to have each other.
He'll be going on a 10 trip this summer and in some ways I'm looking forward to it ;-)

Gemma said...

No need to apologize, EC. I wasn't offended :-). I was only pointing out to anyone reading here that there are times to push through; we usually do push. But then there are also times to wait.

I like your comment about you laying there with nothing to do and then deciding to have sex. GR and I do that all the time.

Gemma said...

I hear ya, scotty. I hate when GR has to leave town but his homecoming and our reunion is wonderful. Although, I can't say that any part of me looks forward to him leaving lol.. I get so lonely for him when he's away.

hisplaymate said...

Oh ya, I hear ya! This is not quite the same as having to abstain for a week for whatever reason, but after DH and I worked through some marriage probs last year, we had some incredible nights, one where I brought him to 2 O's, each through OS, almost a half-hour apart. I felt like queen of the world that night!

scotty said...

Oh I definitely hear ya Gemma. I'm not looking forward to the going away, but I am looking forward to the coming back! When he's gone that long (and thankfully it averages only once a year)my stomach hurts I miss him so much! He was gone just one over night last night, which wasn't too bad, but I can't wait for him to get back - right now it's the bear hug I'm missing. Praying for you surgery - take care!

job29man said...

Hisplaymate,

Ya write like a "Uper" talks eh! But anyways...

Your comment brings up a good point about male physiology. For me, before I O the first time I get all ambitious about O-ing twice. Then when I have that first O the drive to go again is pretty much dampened, but if DW is attuned to my wants at that point she will kind of "push me" to go again, and it takes a while to "get the motor revving" and it takes "more accelerator" (i.e. stimulation) to keep the motor going, and it takes at least twice or three times as long as the first time. But then the second O is much more intense, really over the top!

Then I'm really glad that DW pushed me on to the second O. You deserve to feel like the Queen of the World when you do this, because I'm sure it is a very intense and memorable experience for your DH.

Gemma, we do find it pretty intense after an absence. DW or I are gone on business trips for at least a week every month. The reunion can be pretty hot. One thing that can tone it down though is if we are exhausted from the work while we were away or the trip home, or both. This is often the case, and so the reunion is perfunctory, short and somewhat intense, but then about 24 hours later it is really good.

midwestman said...

Job29 - I hear you, it works the same with me! The second time around takes longer but the reward is sure worth it!!! I find a lot of it is how "into it" my DW is for the second time. The more enthused she is, the faster I am and the better the experience :)

As to the original question, my DW and I were sick over the holidays and neither of us were real enthused about sex for quite a few days. Once we got better though, WOO HOO, we had some FANTASTIC sex one night - hot, fast and hard, it was great for both of us!

mwm

Cocotte said...

Praying that your surgery goes well, Gemma.
Love ya!

Tulipsanticipation said...

Too often for us a time of absence is due to a combination of me on my period, and then fighting prolonging that absence.

Was the case this week. Have made up, but it's hard to get back into it. But I'm hoping for a good make-up session tonight