Friday, January 30, 2009

Home from the hospital- new challenges

Got home yesterday, late afternoon. Feeling like I have been run over by a mac truck otherwise, I hope to recuperate as rapidly as possible. Thank you all for your prayers and well wishes. Please continue to pray for my speedy recovery. I am required to drink 4 protein supplements per day and it feels like so much that it is like force-feeding me. By the time I finish the first one, it is time to start on the second. I will need much help from God to do what I need to do post-op. At the hospital, GR was my primary caregiver when the nurses were not in the room. He has been wonderful but he has to go back to work on Tues so I want to be able to manage by then.

I covet your prayers. Thanks again to you all.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Preparing for surgery

Well, I managed to get what GR had so I have been sick this past week... so sick, like wishing somebody would shoot me to get me out of my misery. I was worried that I would be too sick for surgery but today, I am practically feeling like my old self again. My surgery will be tomorrow afternoon.

If I get a chance I will pop in here later today but otherwise, I will be back on the blog after surgery as soon as I can get my little hands on my laptop ;-). They are keeping me in the hospital Tuesday and Wednesday nights... possibly Thursday night, too, and I am hoping they will allow GR to stay with me during the nights. You guys think good thoughts for me, OK?


Monday, January 19, 2009

Sex after sicknesss

GR and I just came off from a week of no sex. I know, it is shocking but it is not what you think. He was really sick and feeling like crap. And on top of that, he was afraid of getting me sick two weeks before my surgery so we kept our distance. For the last several nights I asked him, "Are you STILL feeling too sick to be around me?" Finally, last night we slept together. Oh my!!! It was like New Year's Eve and Fourth of July fireworks all at once. GR had two intense O's. Usually I don't have O's within 1-2 minutes of each other but last night I had three that way. The sex was amazing. It gave a whole new meaning to the phrase "hot sex".

Have you ever experienced hot sex after sickness this way?

Do marriage goals help or hinder you?

In many ways 2008 was a rough year for me. We had to overcome several financial hurdles. One of our girls developed a serious medical disorder. Since last summer, I have been sick dealing with pain. Btw-- I will be out for a few days next week for surgery, just so you know I have not run away from my blog. Our daughter is doing well now, the money has eased up and as soon as I recovery from surgery, I know that I will feel better. So overall, I anticipate that 2009 will be better for us.

Each new year brings in so many new resolutions with it. Now, I am not one to make promises I cannot keep but at the end of each year and also on my birthday, I often do take some time to reflect, to look for new goals to incorporate into my life. Part of what I reflect on, of course, is our marriage. One change that GR and I want to see this year is for us to be more diligent in going out on weekly dates, to make it a priority.

Do you have any specific marriage goals that you are working on this year? Have you been able to choose a goal that your spouse is equally as excited to work on with you? If so, have you seen positive results? If you enjoy working together on goals do you think it might inspire your spouse and inspire you to, later on, work on individual goals? In the past, has setting goals helped or hindered your marriage? How?

Monday, January 12, 2009

Share your mountaintop techniques

A number of my readers are often seeking specific ideas with which to ramp up the eroticism in their marriage bed. There is nothing wrong with that, right? I know what works for me and I will share some of that, too, as the "thread" develops.

There are times for most of us where we like to take it up a notch, if only for a session or for a specific time of phone sex. In other words, I am referring to "mountaintop experiences" here, folks. We all know that we cannot permanently live on the mountaintop but we sure can visit it on a regular "as needed" basis.

What makes your spouse's eyeballs pop out? When you really want to bring it on hard and heavy in the heat of the moment, what do you tell them? How do you talk to them? What do you do? How do you move? How do you touch? What is it that brings your spouse to a point of no return... to a point where, unless someone is bleeding to death or the house is on fire, you render them helpless and useless.

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Sunday, January 4, 2009

When there is trouble in paradise, why do we wait so long to receive professional help?

Do we not know that there are problems? Do we think that the issues at hand are no biggie... that everyone is supposed to struggle with these things? Are we living in total denial? Do we not care enough about ourselves, our spouse, our marriage and for that matter, our kids too? After all, our marriage issues also affect our kids. Does fear of the unknown hold us back? Are we afraid of what our family and/or friends will say? Is it the old social stigma of mental health? Do we not want to spend the money on professional help? Are we simply too lazy to go?

In your educated or uneducated opinion, what do you feel is the main reason(s) why most folks put off receiving emotional and sexual help for their marriage? And what do you think we can do to change that, for ourselves and for others?

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Thoughts on New Year's Day- Quotes and Biographies

~Alfred Lord Tennyson
Ring out the old, ring in the new,
Ring, happy bells, across the snow:
The year is going, let him go;
Ring out the false, ring in the true.

~Benjamin Franklin
Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each New Year find you a better man.

~Ellen Goodman
We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives, not looking for flaws, but for potential.

~Friedrich Nietzsche
No, life has not disappointed me. On the contrary, I find it truer, more desirable and mysterious every year ever since the day when the great liberator came to me: the idea that life could be an experiment of the seeker for knowledge and not a duty, not a calamity, not trickery.

~Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear, and with a manly heart.

~Irish toast
In the New Year, may your right hand always be stretched out in friendship, never in want.

~Martin Luther
Glory to God in highest heaven,
Who unto man His Son hath given;
While angels sing with tender mirth,
A glad new year to all the earth

~Minnie L. Haskins
And I said to the man who stood at the gate of the year: Give me a light that I may tread safely into the unknown. And he replied: Go out into the darkness and put your hand into the hand of God. That shall be to you better than light, and safer than a known way.

~Sydney Smith
Resolve to make at least one person happy every day, and then in ten years you may have made three thousand, six hundred and fifty persons happy, or brightened a small town by your contribution to the fund of general enjoyment.

~William Ellery Channing
I will seek elegance rather than luxury, refinement rather than fashion. I will seek to be worthy more than respectable, wealthy and not rich. I will study hard, think quietly, talk gently, and act frankly. I will listen to stars and birds, babes and sages, with an open heart. I will bear all things cheerfully, do all things bravely await occasions and hurry never. In a word I will let the spiritual, unbidden and unconscious grow up through the common.


Here is an article for those of you who have always wondered about the words and meaning of Robert Burns poem, Auld Lang Syne, which he wrote in 1788. (I'm not sure why but when you get to the site, you have to scroll all the way up to get to the beginning of the article.)

Two biographies on Robert Burns: