Tuesday, December 9, 2008

What determines the husband's O count?

Something I am often wondering about is this---

In each session, what determines whether a husband receives 1 orgasm or whether he receives 2, 3 or more? My own husband is typically a 1-2 O man. Yet twice this week he exceeded his ordinary limit and enjoyed 3 O's in both session. When #3 happens I am often amazed.

I realize that it can be unique for each person but husbands (or wives speaking for husbands), what do you think determines your O count or do you believe that it is a combination of several factors? If it is several factors, what are they?

19 comments:

scotty said...

I haven no idea what determines it. Perhaps how rested he is, how long it's been since the previous session of LM, how passionate things are on that day. I know dh hasn't had 3 O's in one day probably since the first year of marriage. He will have two within a couple of hours of each other if circumstances are just right. Not sure what those circumstances are either! They're an enigma, aren't they? That's why we love 'em :)

Cocotte said...

Mine has only ever had one O per 12 hour time period. We've tried a few times to have more than one, (ie., he has remained hard), but is never able to O again. I always figured it had to do with no more semen left?? I have no idea though!

jml said...

My dh is 50, and is still able to ml and o multiple times a day...with a couple to a few hours in between. I think what may determine how much he can keep up with as he ages, is how much practice we give it. You know the saying.."Use it or lose it!"
Also, ml is better as we age. More loving, more spontaneous, and more willingness to try things we may have never considered when we were younger. Married almost 29 yrs...and getting better every day.

Gemma said...

I'm hearing- rest, time frame since last O, degree of passion, amount of semen, practice, willingness, spontaneity...

Is it a mystery? I've heard from 3 wives. What do the guys think about this? What determines how many O's you have in any one session?

Herlover said...

OK, here's a comment from a guy. I believe extra O's are partly and mainly dependent on encouragement and cooperation from the wife. That is assuming the husband wants it in the first place. I can do amazing things when DW is egging me on.:)

Herlover

Gemma said...

You mean like a cheerleader? :-) lol

In my MB I can usually tell if GR is wiped out after one O in a session. But if I'm not sure, he'll either go for another or I'll ask him after each O. (ie, Do you want to try for another?) I don't think he's had more than 3 in a session but if he wanted to have 4 or 6 or 8... I'd want him to have as many as he wants. He does the same for me.

Odo said...

Again, gemma, I can only say "wow". Two or 3 Os in a LM session! If only! From our perspective, for me it's what I've called "recharge" time. The older I've gotten, the recharge time lengthens. I assume my lagging testosterone level needs longer to "refill", even using a "pill assist" to maintain erection. The testosterone also seems to determine penile sensitivity which is necessary for the "triggering mechanism" to work to...well, facilitate "detonation". Okay, I know, I'm too much of a geek and too much geek terminology, but that's how I have to reason through it. Also, with DW, her lagging estrogen levels have the same effects on sensitivity which, again, determines her "trigger" ability. Aging SUCKS, IAW! But we still have fun, even with "misfires" LOL! If we can come out with one O for each of us in each session, we consider ourselves blessed!

Cocotte said...

I've been looking around the internet for more info on this. So far, I've found one site that said only 3% of men are able to be multi-orgasmic. Many other sites said that men can train themselves to have multiples, but that they must hold back their ejaculation each time and then ejaculate with the last one. Gemma, do you believe this is accurate?

Gemma said...

Odo, I totally relate. Most of the time I'm happy to get 1-2 O's in a session. That's my average number.

Cocotte, I honestly don't know if that's accurate or not. Most of GR's O's are during PIV-IC and my natural lube at that time is rarely lacking but there does seem to be much variance in his seminal fluid from O to O. When he has 2 or more O's his penis often, but not always, stays erect between O's.

luvmygirls said...

I'm curious, Gemma. When you talk about multiple O's in a session, not to ask for TMI, are you talking about dry O's with one ejaculatory or are they all ejaculatory? Many of my O's aren't very intense, but I'm working on that. Occasionally I will believe I've O'd, though not strongly and will maintain my erection and can typically go for another. However, if I KNOW I've O'd because of it's intensity and ejaculation, I may have only edged the first time and not climaxed. I can feel contractions but not the "burning" that accompanies an ejaculatory O.

I'm asking for my own curiosity and so I can know If I'm edging or O'ing and if those count as being multi-orgasmic. It only happened after our LM increased in adventure and frequency and after I began taking prostate and penile health supplements. So it's all new. In addition, I've dealt with PE early on, and in trying to control that, struggle with delayed ejaculation, often with none at all. So, as you can tell, the struggle for me is complex as feelings are screwy for the last few months and I'm still trying to figure out what's what.

midwestman said...

Gemma said: "You mean like a cheerleader?". YES! This helps a lot. Enthusiasm of DW makes a huge difference. I also believe every man is different with different recharge times. Used to be I could recharge in 10-15 minutes. Now its gotta be at least 30-45 minutes. I also go limp within 15-20 seconds of an O so going for a second immediately is never an option. Viagra does help with hardness but all the stimulation in the world on my hard penis doesn't help the recharge time. I always tell my DW she is so lucky to be able to have multiple Os as I would sure like to be able to do that (as a side note, we've never tried to see how many in a row she can have, she doesn't want to, but our high score so far is 5 during a super hot session, not counting the one Super O she had that literally lasted two minutes with no interruption!).

mwm

Gemma said...

luvmygirls, you're questions are good ones but I don't have all the answers. Let me refer your questions to GR and I'll have him come back here to reply. Give me a few days to get him here.

mwm, I think the loving thing for any spouse is to be enthusiastic in bed. We all should be as cheerleaders ;-).

The "Super O"... all I can say about that is WOW, WOW, WOW!!! Recently I had a super. GR said it lasted a couple of minutes and during the O it felt like it would never stop.

Gemma said...

GR wrote these comments. What can I say-- He's a man who writes few words.

To luvmygirls:
When I have multiple O's they all are ejaculatory although the volume is not always the same. Sometimes more, sometimes less.

To midwestman:
After I ejaculate I have not been going soft and continued stimulation arouses me more.

job29man said...

I'll second the "cheerleader" response. I've never done 3, but for 2 Os here's what helps..

Good rest, nutrition, and water beforehand
15 minutes break after 1st O
Very motivated wife, because I lose the "urge" to have a second O until I am well on the way there, then I love it. So she needs to know that I want it before the I have the 1st O, because I won't ask for the 2nd one. She has to push it.
Helps is DW is vocal, "squirmy", and adventurous with hands and mouth. Some oral helps me get started, sucking on my nipple, and maybe some anal play... lotsa stimulation.
Throw in the excited "hot" talk, and it's really setting me up for success.

Gemma said...

Proper rest and sleep is crucial for GR... well and for me, too. I watch him all the time to make sure he gets enough sleep. Most people do tend to skimp on their sleep; I don't know why?

I was never a cheerleader in school but I don't mind being one now ;-).

job29man said...

Gimme an "O"!

"O"

job29man said...

In your Dec 11 article I (tastefully) describe an excellent 2 O experience I had last night.

Fairly uncommon for me, because I need to push myself to it. But I've been inspired recently by these threads.

Gemma said...

Job, I didn't see it. Am I missing something?

Gemma said...

Do you have the correct date/article for your comment?