Monday, August 11, 2008

A sad thought

Can I just say how much I hate the thought of GR and me not being able to have sex immediately following surgery if it's surgery, indeed, that I will need? I was thinking about that today and it saddened me so much. That's all.

6 comments:

midwestman said...

In January when I had back surgery, while I felt able to have sex, it just wouldn't happen for about a week. Not even HJs would work. Even though I WANTED it, just cause it had been a while since we last fucked, I just didn't feel up to it. So even though we tried "gentle sex", my body knew better and wouldn't cooperate. My guess is all the meds - the remaining bits of anestetic, the pain killers I was taking, etc. all added up to a no-go on my behalf. Besides that, DW was afraid she was going to break me :(

Said all that to say that after surgery you may find that your desire for sex isn't what you now think it will be - so it all kindof works out :) Not that you can't pleasure your DH and be close to him....

mwm

Gemma said...

Yup, you're probably right, mwm. I was just having a sad moment last night thinking about it but obviously I wasn't thinking through all the aspects of post-op.

Thanks for sharing your experience.

delightinmyhubby said...

What if (in the event you need surgery) you have him make you a little photo album of naughty pictures of you two now. You don't get to see them even on the digital camera or computer images so then it will be a surprise when he gives you the album! Wouldn't that be something to look forward to when/if you get home from surgery?

Gemma said...

Not really. Neither of us get off on nude photos of each other. It's viewing the real deal, the touching and doing each other that we enjoy. But thank you just the same for the idea.

job29man said...

Gemma,

I'll be interested to hear how you work this out.

Some "gentle" or "alternative" ideas come to mind.

There's also the idea of just "giving it to God", i.e. a time of fasting from sex for the purpose of not only healing, but of prayer and meditation upon the goodness of God. It could be that the Holy Spirit turns it into a time of great spiritual blessing to you.

You could also use it as a time to just have conversations with GR. Could result in a deeper relationship in the long haul.

Gemma said...

Job, we will certainly be keeping sex fasting in mind if we need to go to that. However, at this time sex is not painful at all for me. Continuing the sexual closeness GR and I share with our high frequency level is what I most need to keep my sanity through this waiting period before surgery. And it is so intertwined with our emotional intimacy... we can't help but feel better all around as long as we're able to keep this up. Conversations? Yes, that too.