Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Passion in marriage or passion in porn???

Did I read this correctly??? This article pertains to the 101 days of sex that the Brown's did and that Douglas Brown wrote about in his book "Just Do It". Perhaps most of you already knew these little facts that I am sharing but it's news to me.

From the article it appears that Douglas Brown purposely went on Viagra to enhance his performance and endurance throughout the 101 days. Now, I have no problem with a couple needing long-term help from Viagra or similar meds for their marriage but it sounds like the dude only began taking the drug for the experiment. And then they both purposely watched a lot of porn to keep their interest going throughout the 101 days. Ask me if I'm going to buy his book... NOT!!!

Perhaps a more truthful title would have been:

Just Do It- How One Couple Turned to Viagra and Porn and Turned On Their Sex Lives for 101 Days

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Gemma, if you would actually have read the book, you would have found out that the Browns did indeed investigate porno, but that they were not fond of it, that it did not help their love life. You would also discover that Doug Brown did try Viagra, twice, just to see how it worked.

Gemma said...

Anon, whoever you are :-), I never claimed to have read the book. All I went on was the foxnews article. Believe it or not, if what you say is true, then I am happy for them that they turned their backs on the porn *help*.

Again, I'll say that there is nothing wrong with a guy needing Viagra. My only point in bringing that up was that the article made it sound like he began taking Viagra just to help with the experiment.

Again, I was only commenting on the article.

midwestman said...

I'm not sure I could or would want to do their experiment. I remember when we were trying to get pregnant the first time - we went a couple of years before it worked, and in between we both got tested to make sure all the parts were in working order. But in the process, for a while we were supposed to have sex on a schedule, not because we wanted it but because it was on the schedule. Neither of us liked it, and certainly didn't enjoy it like would would have if just doing it because we desired it. I know some folks do have sex every day, some (I won't mention any names GEMMA), twice a day. That really takes stamina! I know that I go through periods where my stamina is lower and if I had sex every day I would definately need to work at it and would need some "extra" stimulation to make it enjoyable. I would like that extra stimulation to come from my spouse in the form of actions, things she says, etc. to get my big sex organ (i.e. brain) working well and make the small(er!) sex organ function well! Would porn work? Sure, for a guy it always works. But I wouldn't want to go there. I struggle enough with staying away from it on a daily basis with it literally a few mouse clicks away. I wouldn't want it purposely brought in to make an experiment work...

mwm

Gemma said...

mwm said:
"...for a while we were supposed to have sex on a schedule, not because we wanted it but because it was on the schedule. Neither of us liked it, and certainly didn't enjoy it..."

Btdt, wore the t-shirt out... it began in the first 4-6 months of our marriage as we tried to start a family. It was awful. Forced sex that is scheduled during a prolonged period of infertility is not fun. GR and I were both infertile and never were able to have biological kids.

Around 5 years into our marriage we even worked with a large fertility clinic as the doc tried doing artificial insemination with me taking fertility shots but nothing worked.

Personally, I look back on those years of infertility as being one of many contributors to my screwed up thinking of refusing sex.

job29man said...

I just read the article. Here's what I didn't like about it...

“I would love to see this conversation in every home in America,” Annie said. “Gay, straight, with kids or without – this is a conversation that people shrink from and yet it’s so important. Once you stop making love to your partner, you become roommates."

There it is "gay, straight..." whatever... This is not a philosophy I appreciate. I think a believing couple could do a better job of this experiment. I'm inclined to look into it myself... Hmmm.... that could be interesting... with regular reports in to TMB...

Gemma said...

Yup, I don't think I'll be too interested in reading Brown's book. Can't say for sure, but I have so much other more interesting stuff to read. His book is just not up their on my priority list.