Tuesday, July 1, 2008

A hot good-bye session that we almost missed

These last few days we've been entertaining out of town relatives... one in particular being an older, cantankerous person. Use your imagination and picture the visit. Can we say "stress"??? But now our guests are gone. Yesterday afternoon I told GR- "It's time for a date, don't you think?" He agreed so we went out to one of our favorite Italian restaurants last night and enjoyed a quiet dinner and a nice bottle of Italian wine, just the two of us. It was wonderfully quiet :-)! Before heading home, we stopped at a nearby lake to walk and take in the view.

Our girls were still up when we arrived back home so we visited with them a bit before turning in. But by the time we broke away from them and hit the bed we were both wiped out. I thought, "Oh man, GR's leaving town early in the morning for a 2-day business trip and here we are too tired to enjoy sex." However, I try not to worry about these things as they often have a way of fixing themselves. Sure enough......

Around 2am I felt the presence of GR's body whooshing over me like an explosive rush. Immediately, he pulled me towards him and I realized in my half-awake state, that I was being ravished. Initially, I was still sleepy so I thought we'd do a quickie and then go back to sleep. But no! Forget the quickie. How does someone acquire energy for this at 2am is beyond me but we did!!! The last thing I remember was glancing at the clock; it was 3:30am. GR slid in behind me to spoon as we drifted off to sleep. This is how we slept until 4:45 and then woke so he could get ready to leave town. It won't be until at least tomorrow night before we can explore our bodies all over again. I can wait but it won't be easy as I have been continuously reminiscing about our night. What a passionate way to part for a business trip.

20 comments:

Mark said...

You two are like a couple of Newlyweds!

Keep up the good work!! ;-)

Mark

Gemma said...

Well, no wonder. Mark, we never had an erotic newlywed period or any other period in our marriage where we felt that we couldn't get enough of each other... like we do now.

midwestman said...

Glad to see you back! Sounds like you guys had a great time after a bit of rest. Many times, the unexpected sex is the best sex!

mwm

Mark said...

Don't mind me Gemma,

I'm just envious of the relationship you and GR have. :)

Mark

Mark said...

So... Cranking old lady's are an aphrodisiac? ;-P

Mark

Gemma said...

Mark,

Anyone can have a relationship like ours as long as both spouses are willing to work towards having marital passion as their priority. If one spouse is not willing, the question to ask is, "Why not?" Both spouses need to want God's best for their marriage bed and to be willing to work hard towards that goal.

Gemma said...

Mark said:
So... Cranking old lady's are an aphrodisiac? ;-P

Obviously, in this case it certainly was.

Mark said...

:::: Anyone can have a relationship like ours as long as both spouses are willing to work towards having marital passion as their priority. If one spouse is not willing, the question to ask is, "Why not?" Both spouses need to want God's best for their marriage bed and to be willing to work hard towards that goal.

My wife admitted last weekend (our 17th Wedding Anniversary) that she hasn't made sex a priority out of selfishness for her time and that it would take extra effort on her part.

She has signed us both up at the YMCA so that she can get more "energy for sex" by us getting on an exercise program, though I'm not sure how this will help the selfish part.

Mark

Gemma said...

Congrats on your anniv, Mark.

:::I'm not sure how this will help the selfish part.

It won't. It is a good thing that she at least acknowledged her selfishness; that's a start. But until she acknowledges the sin, confesses it and asks for forgiveness.... it is still in her mind as if she's not doing anything that is all that wrong.

I will say this--- Her admitting the selfishness is a good starting place for some serious discussion regarding your marriage and her part in it. Don't drop the ball, Mark.

Who am I said...

I hate it that the last two weeks when I have left home for a trip, my wife and I have left on a bad note.

At least we have kept talking even after we left.

Mark, sorry about the disconnect from your wife. Sounds encouraging though that she did acknowledge why sex has been less, and it sounds like she is doing something proactive in her mind to help.

As one who was separated for 16 months, before reconciling, I just wanted to encourage you to be glad for her small steps. Also, I have learned in life that sometimes people don't always come out and apologize for something,but if they make an effort to change in a positive way towards me, it is best to accept and appreciate their new attitude and not nescessarily push for a verbal apology.

Gemma said...

wai, GR and I have had numerous occasions where he's had to leave for work in the mornings before we were able to resolve a conflict. It upsets me so much to end that way that I usually end up calling him within 15-20 minutes while he's still on the road to the office just to apologize and tell him I love him. Sometimes the "leaving" happens at an inconvenient time, doesn't it?

And Mark, ditto what wai said. Do not despise small beginnings.

Who am I said...

yes, sometimes the leaving does happen at inconvient times. I so much appreciate your willingness to share your ups and downs, and that even though you have a hot sexual relationship with your husband, you do get crossways also.

Gemma said...

Our emotional intimacy has many ups and downs, mostly because of my excitable Italian/French ethnicity. It gets me in trouble every time. ::rolling eyes::

Come to think of it, perhaps that's why GR and I enjoy such good and frequent sex. We both occasionally use sex as a way to reconnect after an emotional down time. Of course, that's not the only time we have sex, lol. But after years of no sex and poor emotional intimacy, it works well for us now when we are at odds, to simply jump in the bed and fuck.

Mark said...


:::Congrats on your anniv, Mark.


Thank you Gemma.


::::::I'm not sure how this will help the selfish part.

:::It won't. It is a good thing that she at least acknowledged her selfishness; that's a start. But until she acknowledges the sin, confesses it and asks for forgiveness.... it is still in her mind as if she's not doing anything that is all that wrong.


It is a start and we have prayed about it, but she hasn't asked me to forgive her.


:::I will say this--- Her admitting the selfishness is a good starting place for some serious discussion regarding your marriage and her part in it. Don't drop the ball, Mark.


We have had some good discussions since her admission.

Part of what came out is a low self image on her part about how she can't do anything right.
She was PMS'ing at the time so I don't know how much of that was because of that.

Mark

Gemma said...

Mark said: Part of what came out is a low self image on her part about how she can't do anything right.

I'm not sure that I understand. She feels she can't do anything right in regards to ----- what? Everything in general? Sex? What?

Mark said...

:::I'm not sure that I understand. She feels she can't do anything right in regards to ----- what? Everything in general? Sex? What?

Gemma,

My wife takes Wellbutrin which has really helped her.

What still happens however is when she is PMS'ing, like she was when we were talking, she sometimes still gets depressed, which makes her feel down about everything.

Mark.

Gemma said...

Mark, that's tough dealing with the depression. You know, I was just thinking about your dw signing you guys up at the Y. It has been my experience and I'm also going on what others write--- With regular exercise, the sex drive and the mental wellness both increase.

So do encourage the exercise. Encourage anything that moves your dw in a positive direction. Make it a date time and go to the Y together. GR and I do this occasionally although our kids often want to come along with us.

Pay attention to her depression and even log it. See if the exercise does not improve things all around for you guys.

Mark said...

Gemma,

Tonight is when I go for my orientation at the Y. After that we'll be able to go as a family since they have kids programs while the parents exercise.

My wife said that when she got me the membership that she was hopeful that both of us exercising there would increase her energy levels and sex drive so that she would be more interested in sex.

It improving her mental wellness I had not thought about, but we watched Legally Blond last night and it said the same thing in the movie so it must be right! :-)

Mark

Gemma said...

Mark, exercising at the Y cannot help but increase your dw's energy level. Most people will tell you that when they exercise, energy goes up and SD also increases. It's a win/win for better health all around. Good for your dw for taking that step and for wanting to improve her/your marriage.

Mark said...

Gemma,

I sure hope so!

I see on Dr. Laura's website an article that agrees. :)

http://www.drlaura.com/main/fitnesstip.html

Mark