It is common knowledge that lower-SD spouses struggle to "get in the mood". Setting chemical imbalances and personality aside, do you think part of it is because they place too much emphasis on their high-SD spouse to create the perfect "ta-ta" for them in the bedroom? [ie- If I'm going to do this, entertain me. It's all about *me*.] My Orthodox Christian Faith teaches that God has already placed a calling on all high and low-SD spouses to "wow" their spouse as much in bed as they do out.
How do Christian callings relate to being an enthusiastic sex partner for our spouse?
Why do you think so many married individuals miss their calling to be their spouse's sex partner? ... And I want to add, these individuals are often, but not always, dedicated Christians who will go to the nth degree for those in their church. They will come home and do things around the house for their spouse. But then they go to their marriage bed and whine or say "no" to spouse, who btw is also part of the church.
As Christians, are we allowed to pick and choose which callings we will answer and follow? Could this have anything to do with the reason why so many married folks are lukewarm about their Faith? In other words, would it bother you if spouse gave and gave of him/her self to the church but came home to give nothing in bed?
Do we not feel called of God to be our spouse's sex partner? When God places a calling on our lives for anything, shouldn't we be doing it as "unto the Lord"? I mean, shouldn't we be putting everything into it, be joyful, be enthused, not whine or complain?
What does it mean to us and to the Spirit of God when we do not experience daily joy in our calling? Could it mean that we are missing the mark [sinning]? If we are failing our calling on a regular basis, why would God view it as anything but unconfessed sin?