What does it mean when a late 50-something year old man whom I love dearly, asks me this morning, "Do you think I have enough energy for you? Do you feel I am too old?"
Last night we had sex; he initiated. Then we did each other again this morning; I initiated. We don't always have sex every night and every morning this way. It is just that when the mood hits one or both of us, we do make love. GR and I discuss this occasionally and we both understand that our high-SD's are pretty evenly matched. There is no way that I could complain as he keeps me well satisfied in the sexual area... and in other areas too.
I take his fears seriously but I playfully laughed and told him, "Of course you are not too old. What would make you think that? A few of our sessions are such that we seem to take turns lacking energy (ie- from lack of sleep) but that goes both ways, don't you think? So how does that make you a person with low sexual energy or a person who is too old? If you are, so am I."
This is about the second or third time since Dec 2006 that he has asked me this. GR is six years older than I but by no means do I ever feel he is too old for me. In general, he can run circles around me with his energy level. Physically and emotionally I am very attracted to him and he knows it because I tell him and show him in many ways, all the time. His main love language is physical touch with words of affirmation down lower on the list in second place. As far as I'm concerned, he is a hottie.
I cannot crawl into the minds of how men feel about that but perhaps some of my male readers can relate and help me understand. Or even some of my female readers who are more "in the know" than I can shed some light on this.
As he left to pick up dd#1 from work I told him, "Honey, we are just getting started with our marriage as we know it today. Don't ever feel you are too old for me." I know we will likely pick up this discussion again where we left off this morning.