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7 comments:

Mark said...

Bravo Gemma!

Jada said...

I've been really slack when it comes to keeping up with your blog. But I'm catching up now and wow.

Gemma, you don't know what a blessing your blog is to me. Hubby and I are still going through some issues, but it is wonderful to know that just because we are Christians does not mean that the sex can't be fun. Geeze, didn't he create it just for us? Oh, its me... Wifey1974 from TMB. I'm under my author/writer sign in. LOL

If God can cause a serious awakening in hubby, there is no telling what could happen. LOL So until then, I will continue to use your blog as a "guide". :-) God Bless you...

Gemma said...

Hi there Jada,

Btw- Do you have a blog? Don't worry about being slack in keeping up with me. My writing goes in spurts, depending on my schedule; life happens.

:::Gemma, you don't know what a blessing your blog is to me. Hubby and I are still going through some issues, but it is wonderful to know that just because we are Christians does not mean that the sex can't be fun. (I'm preparing to post a new article about this as I speak.)

Jada, know that all marriages, even the best ones, go through issues. It's how we handle them that counts. May God continue to bless your marriage in more ways than you can ever imagine.

Who am I said...

Dear Gemma,

I thought you might like what Dawn Eden at www.dawneden.blogspot.com said about the rules for her blog, both now and in the past.

She has been a professional writer and blogger for a long time.

She summed everything below up in one sentence "When you comment on my blog, be nice to other commenters and to me."

It is refreshing when people live by that one simple rule in blogdom.



Friday, September 15, 2006
New Comments Rules
All things must come to an end, and it is with a tinge of regret that I announce that the Harris Protocol, while well wrought and worthy of emulation, is no longer required reading for Dawn Patrol commenters.

For example, I will no longer require commenters to support their data. Go ahead, say that 6,000 people each year die from watching vintage Saturday morning cartoons; I'll trust other commenters to request the citation.

I will also no longer enforce little rules I made up that are not specifically cited in the Harris Protocol, such as staying on topic. Oh, I'll get out my "delete" finger if a troll comes along, if someone tries to promote their own blog or another product, or if someone uses profanity (or links to an obscene site), but other than that, let the topics fall where they may.

The problem with the Harris Protocol, and this is not the Harris brothers' fault, is that it assumes commenters will enter into the comments realm as they would enter into a professional debate: with an overriding attitude of courtesy and respect. Without such a foundation, all the rules in the world won't make for reasoned dialogue.

So, in the Harris Protocol's place, I am hereby instituting a single, overriding rule for all commenters to observe:

When you comment on my blog, be nice to other commenters and to me.

Nice doesn't mean syrupy, and it doesn't at all have to be complimentary. It can be witty and it can be edgy. But it is always courteous, respectful, and sincere. When being nice, one may use sarcasm to make a point, but one can never use it as a cover for condescension or personal disgust.

The vast majority of commenters here understand this, and I'm grateful. It's only for the sake of the few who don't that I say this, so that they may take this as their cue to flee to the corners of the blogosphere where not-niceness is tolerated.

I used to think that as long as commenters who displayed personal anger or condescension towards their fellow commenters followed the Harris Protocol, it was worth it for me to tolerate the pall of resentment that darkened their scribblings. Dialoguing with people of alternate views, I thought, might not change their minds on issues, but it could at least change the part of them that wanted to demonize their opponents.

But I started noticing on other blogs that these same commenters whose open resentment I tolerated were bragging about how they took on the [expletives deleted] commenters on the Dawn Patrol.

Well, they can keep bragging now if they want — but they'll no longer be able to express their disrespect for others in this forum.

If your comments are deleted or banned as a result of this policy, and you wish to explain yourself or apologize, drop me a line at the address at left. Thank you for your cooperation.

Gemma said...

:::She summed everything below up in one sentence "When you comment on my blog, be nice to other commenters and to me."

Thanks, wai. Words of wisdom but we all know that there will always be a few bad apples.

walkhisway said...

good for you Gemma. I have appreciated your openness here and on TMB.

Don't be bullied but others who want to marginalize your blog

Gemma said...

walkhisway,

Thank you for your encouraging words. Being open and frank with my marriage is very easy for me with us all being "anon" from one degree to another. If being open helps even one person's marriage, then it is all worth it to me.

Oh, and don't worry. I don't take well at all to bullying. I may sit and listen to it for a short season but nobody has a right to bully me or anyone else on my blog.