Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Too pooped to party

Last night, GR and I were both so tired that we fell fast asleep against each others' nude bodies and did not wake up this morning until we had to fly out of bed. It was a quiet night and morning. All day today my body felt weird from no sex. But tonight...

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job29man said...

Gemma,

DW and I have this understanding based on 1 Cor 7:4 that either one of us can flat out command each other anything about our bodies. It is something that we have only ever done in sexual fun, and never (yet) out of sternness or correction (but I'm sure that is one of the intentions of the Spirit when He breathed 1 Cor 7).

So about a year ago I had noticed that somehow pajamas had crept back into our marriage bed after years of us sleeping nude.

I just went to DW with a smile and a caress and said "It is my wish that you will never again wear any clothing into our bed."

Without missing a beat she responded with something like "If that is your wish then it is my command." And she came to bed naked, and has every night since then.

(of course we make an exception for panties about 1 week every month)

It was a good illustration of 1 Cor 7:4 in action.

There was another time that I had grown a beautiful beard. A marvelous, virile, manly beard. I thought I looked great! Notice I didn't say "we thought I looked great". She did not like it at all, but put up with it for a year. Then one day she gently asked if I might consider shaving it off, because she didn't prefer it.

I thought to myself..."She has hinted for several months, and now she makes this gentle/subtle plea. Am I so hard-necked that I will only do this for her if she makes a command to me based on 1Cor 7:4?"

That next morning it all came off and I surprised her when I walked in the door from work that night.

Another exercise of 1 Cor 7:4. Why wait for a demand? Why not just respond to a gentle request? No reason at all!

We needn't limit this authority to sex. It can be anything about our bodies, and should be used to INCREASE intimacy, not to put anyone down.

"The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does."