Under that article Cocotte commented: "For me, I think it's the basic desire of wanting to feel attractive. Before marriage, it was a thrill for me to be "chased" by males. I dated a lot and it was a "high" in a way to have so many men attracted to me. After many years of marriage, I know I'm still in need of that feeling and I can only get it by having my husband initiate sex."
Cocotte's comment holds true for me. That was also my life before marriage. And, yes, we could argue that our self-image should come from God but in reality, it is normal and natural for a portion of that to come from our spouse. When it doesn't, the emotional intimacy between a married couple breaks down in direct proportion to how badly our needs are being neglected.