Ahhhhh, a breather; finally!!!! GR and I have been so overwhelmed lately with important "stuff" that could not be ignored. By "stuff" I mean things other than our marriage such as helping dd's 1 and 2 get settled properly in college.... dealing with dd2's medical issues..... restructuring our household finances. With GR away from home M-F from 7am until 6pm along with a few, 2-3 day overnight business trips sprinkled in here and there, we have had to squeeze time out from our marriage relationship to enable us to care for these other things that would not, could not wait. It seems that the worse of it is finally behind us, I hope.
Funny how stuff in life can mess with your head and with your marriage relationship. Last night we went to bed, both of us thinking the other didn't want sex. That doesn't sound so awful in and of itself but the truth was, we both DID want sex. Life stresses were messing with our heads. There we were in bed each discussing how we wanted sex while the other was sort of doubting the sincerity of it. How pathetic is that? By the time we got past the stupid talk, GR had about 20 minutes left before he needed to run out and pick up dd1 from her campus job. The stupid talk was wearing on us as we looked at the clock and agreed--- It's almost time to pick up dd1. Why bother with sex right now? Why not just wait until he returns back home.
I told GR---- Enough already of the late nights. I can't do this anymore and neither can you because we're not getting enough sleep. We agreed that we needed to reestablish our normal routine for evenings and nights:
*By 8pm, begin wrapping up any and all projects which need to be finished before bedtime.
*8:30-9pm, get our bodies into the bedroom.
*From then until 5-6am, we only do "sex, sleep and relax", in no particular order.
Anyway, both of us desperately needed to destress so once we reestablished our routine, we enjoyed a fast and furious quickie before reluctantly pulling our hands off each other so GR could dress and leave to pick up dd1. By the time he returned home we were both sleepy so we spent the entire night pressed against each other. Sleep was delightfully sweet.
Is your marriage choking from life's stuff? Do you need to establish or reestablish better routines for your marital intimacy? Things change. People change. None of us remain the same all the time. Hopefully, we grow and mature which causes us to change in a positive way as an individual. How does our change affect our spouse and how does it affect our marriage? This is why it is so crucial for a dh and dw to do a periodical evaluation, maybe once a month or once every 3 months, to help keep the marriage in a healthy state.