GR and I recently had an emotional clash in our marriage. For a couple of weeks we could not seem to handle it well at all. Finally, we met with our pastor who sat and listened to both sides of our dilemma. Afterwards he simply and so very wisely told us, "You guys are both intelligent people. You know what you have to do. Just do it! And you know you have to forgive each other and resolve to be honest in your marriage." Of course he also reminded us that we were heading into the Lenten season and that Lent was all about "forgiveness" so how could we not forgive and move on?
Just that quickly and easily we knew how to fix the mess. For us, we had to hear it from a third party. We kind of knew before we met with our pastor what we needed to do but it took hearing it from his mouth to our ears before we were ready to "just do it". You know, we can get so caught up in licking our wounds that we forget the ultimate goal of keeping our marriage healthy.
We have a very honest relationship with our pastor and can tell him anything. Before we left his office I was still ticked off at my dh and I asked our pastor, "Can I wring GR's neck before we forgive and move on?" He just grinned and told me, "Nope, I don't think so!" GR and I left church and went straight home. To celebrate our mended relationship, we enjoyed some wine with brie, crackers and fruit. And then it was time for "make-up sex". We couldn't wait to tear into each others' bodies. When we're that horny, our LMing becomes so franticly erotic, long before we ML.
By the time we were through doing each other that night, I had had 3 O's, GR had had 4, before our bodies quit on us. It was one of the hottest 3-hour sex sessions we've had in a while and they are all hot but this was one to go down in our history. I would not recommend disagreeing with your spouse just so you can enjoy "make-up" sex but oh, my.... Why stay angry and miss all that good sex? Kiss and make-up. Just do it!!! This is as a passionate marriage should be!