Do you enjoy sex more with kids in the next room sleeping or when they're awake or does it make a difference? 16 months ago, kids being awake in the next room would have bothered me more, where I would have been less likely to proceed with sex. This problem has become "old hat" since then. Although we try to keep our noise down out of consideration for our two college kids when they're awake in their rooms, waiting for them to be asleep at night would shut down all of our bedtime fun. If they insist on staying up late for studies, they will run the risk of hearing Mom and Dad enjoying sex. We can only do so much, kwim? And the problem with older teens and young adults hearing you is that there is no mistaking in identifying the sounds coming from their parent's room. If they hear it---- you are "busted".
This situation happened again early this morning. It was 5am. Dd1 was up early studying. Monday mornings are often hectic, trying to get everyone out the door on time. When GR and I realized dd1 was already up and knowing it was our "crazy morning" of the week, we decided to forgo sex so he'd have time to prepare to leave for work. When sex can't happen, we do this little 'dance'. It's maddening, really, I'm not sure why we choose to torture ourselves but we do. Jokingly, we each say that we need a sexual reminder to help us think about the other throughout the day. Sometimes the reminder works and other times, it goes *woefully wrong* where it becomes a full blown sex session or at the least, a quickie.
This morning, we were enjoying each others' bodies up to a point and then trying to stop. We were both gazing at each other, trying hard to not touch too much. We kept holding back. When we do this 'dance' our favorite line is, "I'm not so sure this is enough to remember you later today," so then we continue on. Finally, at one point I looked at GR and said, "I know dd1's sitting at her desk but I can no longer hold back. If we keep going, we won't need the reminder. Can you make love to me quietly? He promised and we did.
Afterwards, I told him, "Now go and shower while I make coffee and get breakfast going." Over coffee, we agreed that we were two pathetic, shameless people who have no will-power to keep hands to ourselves. But really--- How do you NOT touch a hot, nude body sleeping beside you?